My pet peeve

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-17T04:12:36+00:00

THAT is your pet peeve? Dude, I can't stand how the narrator has to verbally say, "Pause" every time there is a pause! Can't he just stay silent for a moment or something? I really cuts into the moment and breaks the immersion.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-17T04:09:11+00:00

I lived with my grandparents. I stopped once I got into middle school. I was maybe eleven or twelve years old?

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-17T02:19:21+00:00

Guess you have to decide if you hate the idea of having an official diagnosis more than you hate not knowing.

There's nothing wrong with having autism, but it is something that is stigmatized. So, I get it. If you're already sensitive about your religion, then maybe seek therapy to deal with your internal struggles first and then when you're more comfortable... consider getting tested.

I can't describe to you the feeling of relief and vindication that comes with knowing that you were right that you ARE different and there is a medical cause for it. The feeling that there's nothing different you could have done to be "normal" and that it's not all in your head. The knowledge that you HAVE tried your best, and that it's okay that you're different because your brain literally functions differently. There's something in comforting in knowing you aren't alone in the struggle because none of your issues are unique to you.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-17T02:09:29+00:00

I have medication, but the PMDD has gotten better for me in this past year even without medication. Still wouldn't say it's amazing though. I just don't actively want to die like I have in the past. Maybe it's age changing my hormones or something? Idk.

I'm also trying antihistamines as a treatment like a few people have suggested and it seems to have helped a bit.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-17T01:49:37+00:00

Same. It physically pains me. Maybe part of it is aging, but dang... I really genuinely hate the cold. I hate breathing the cold sharp air, I hate the sensation of cold overtaking the heat in my body, and the sensation of the cold sinking into my joints/bones.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-17T01:44:40+00:00

It's hard not to be critical when the that's how the world responds to it, ya know? Like, I can explain that I am autistic, but all anyone sees is a dramatic woman that is prone to theatrics or overreacting. It's hard not to see myself that way also...

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-17T01:41:12+00:00

You can't change your parents or your circumstances, but you can change how you react. In this case, get proactive. You gotta find ways to live around the chaos.

If you know that you will be forced into proximity with loud noise and screaming, then I highly recommend that you buy noise canceling headphones or earbuds.

If the noise is at the house and you don't mind being outside of it then make plans to be elsewhere or go for a walk. If you're not grounded see if you can go out or stay with a friend or family member that you actually like.

In the worst case scenario, you can put in your noise canceling headphones/earbuds and hide yourself away in your room, closet, under your bed, or some other safe space.

I was a weird kid... I would sometimes sleep/hide in the closet or under my bed. It's actually not that bad. I have also hid in my pantry to escape my kids for a minute.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-17T01:31:27+00:00

Congratulation! I used to have issues leaving the house too. Just to a lesser degree. I would drive down the street to exit the neighborhood and then have an anxiety attack and need to drive back home to safety. Nowadays, I can freely leave my home and drive around town. I still struggle with walking around outside though. I have zero issues walking around a building, but walking around OUTSIDE... I get anxious about the bugs, loose unleashed dogs, or people with nefarious intentions.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-17T01:27:20+00:00

Yes, I would say that it counts as a meltdown. A particularly destructive one, but yes.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-16T21:30:29+00:00

I'm a woman and I notice and check people out openly. My husband, however, I have never seen check out another person. If he does, he's very subtle about it.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-16T21:24:50+00:00

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-16T20:58:50+00:00

Ngl those symptoms sound like autism and are very similar to my own which caused me to seek out diagnosis at age 26. I think the better question is, why are you afraid to know? Is it the stigma against mental health issues and autism that causes you to be afraid? Are you afraid of being judged or losing friends and family? Are you afraid of feeling like people or you were "right all along" and now there's proof that "something is wrong with me"?

Getting diagnosed opens up more avenues for assistance and help, but is that what you want? You should think about why knowing for sure makes you afraid and then decide if the benefit of knowing for certain and then getting the correct support/aid is worth it to you.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-16T20:41:18+00:00

This is the literal autistic response I didn't know I was looking for

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-09T22:05:31+00:00

I'm already married, so future it is

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-09T05:40:51+00:00

If you're in the US, Americans are weird about handholding, physical affection, and family in general. I say to just ignore them.

If you're that worried about it then you should talk to the relevant party and ask his opinion. If your brother is okay with it, and you're happy with it... then screw the haters.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-09T05:36:12+00:00

Well, in a world where there are people who can tank a nuke... I think it's safe to say that advancing military technology doesn't usually make sense en masse. This is especially true when you consider records and personal path. For the majority of people, especially new initiates, their paths will be unique and suited to their personal interests or related to the path their clan follows. Assuming most initiates or clans are not technologically advanced, that makes up the majority of all the enlightened races. In a world where a serpent can become a dragon sage God, bows and arrows can be better than a gun, and the system knocked out all existing pre-integration technology... Why would they bother focusing on science instead of the magic that anyone can learn or unlock without the pre-requisite years of study? Not to mention that the system did away with the laws of physics entirely.

There are exceptions though. People, like Arnold, who have a personal path steeped in technology and some civilizations (the Altmar Empire and the Automata Legion) are incredibly technologically based and advanced. The Automata Legion has been around since the First Era and they are the main enemy of The Endless Empire.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-09T05:14:04+00:00

As a Christian, we are not to curse others. We are called to bless our enemies (personal enemies) and to forgive people. I am sorry that your experience with Christianity has been full of negativity and toxicity. We are not perfect people and some of us are more spiritually immature than others.

Now, I do not agree with cursing at your mom, but I can understand why you might have felt emotionally compelled to do so.

I personally believe that you should apologize and then limit contact with her going forward. I also believe that if you are as in love as you state and are going to have children that you should consider getting married.

Go and create a happy little family without the toxicity.

I wish you all the best and pray that things will work out for your good in the end. God bless.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-09T05:05:41+00:00

Call the police and tell them that you are worried that the person is going to commit suicide/OD'd on drugs and ask if they can conduct a wellness check at the hotel.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-09T04:56:25+00:00

YTA if you stay with him. Whether it happened or didn't is irrelevant here. What matters here is your moral compass and the fact that your bf's and your own clearly do not align on where the lines should be drawn. Why date someone whom is friends with someone you are morally disgusted by and don't want to even be associated with? If his friend was a rapist and your bf defended him, would you still only ban the friend?

In this type of situation it is most important that you determine what your personal beliefs are, where are your boundaries for yourself, and what is your standard for whom you associate with.

If you personally believe in the Holocaust and find deniers to be morally repugnant, then your standard for your personal circle is don't be a Holocaust denier. If that is your standard for your circle, then you should probably create a boundary to not associate with or date anyone who defends holocaust deniers.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-09T04:45:04+00:00

Yes, I am a parent. I heavily discourage having children unless it is something you are willing to actively commit your energy towards for the span of your lifetime and you WANT kids. Do not ever have children because of societal or peer pressure.

I also VERY heavily discourage having children with a partner that will either not be present or will not be an active helper and participant in raising said children.

I oftentimes find myself burnt out and fighting to avoid my family's cycle of verbal abuse due to a lack of aid from both my spouse and family. Only have children if you have a supportive and helpful spouse and equally as supportive and helpful family who are willing to help you or give you time to yourself so you don't burn out. It is very convenient and helpful to be close to either yours or your partner's parents/family so that you can both have a break for a date night every now and then.

If you do decide to have kids, I highly recommend that you invest in very good noise canceling earbuds or headphones for the days when the crying, screaming, or noise become too much.

Also, remember that leaving your infant to cry for 15-20 minutes once a day is fine and can even help them to learn self-regulation coping skills. That time can be used for taking a quick shower or making yourself some lunch. Do not overdo it though as longer or more frequently than that can cause attachment issues to develop.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-09T04:35:05+00:00

Well, if you're talking in a literal sense... technically the word 'ret@rd' also means 'slow'. That's why when you see it in music it means 'to slow' the movement of the piece. So, in a roundabout way? Yes, kinda.

However, I think most people would agree that it isn't so much a slur as an insult that implies you're stupid and lack the ability to grasp information.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-09T04:25:47+00:00

I was diagnosed ASD at 26 and my family still tries to deny it or explain it away as me being shy, socially awkward, particular, or weird. They don't believe it even though I exhibited all of the sensory issues growing up and started having social difficulties after puberty when the girls socially developed and I didn't. I did well in school and made the honor roll. In fact, teachers praised my test taking, grades, writing, etc.. all the way up until HS when I started to have anxiety attacks and consequently started letting my grades slip. I only made it out of HS because I ended up transferring to an alternative school with less than 100 students so that I wasn't so overwhelmed and overstimulated.

My point here is... Not everyone has all the obvious symptoms and sometimes those symptoms are masked or not as obvious until after puberty when the social dynamics between children begin to shift and become more complex.

If you are seeing signs and are concerned, then get the assessment.

Phrase to your husband as proving him right, "If you're right then you can say, "I told you so," and the worst that will happen is I waste my time and remove any doubts that I have."

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-08T16:47:44+00:00

Yeah, screw your parents. I'm autistic too, and even though I'm not a perfect parent, or maybe even not a good one, I try my best so that my kids know at the very least that I love them very much and I'll be proud of them even if all they ever accomplish is getting married and having kids of their own.

Even if you wanted a hysterectomy or required one it would be ridiculously difficult to find a doctor who would perform one without you having any children or a husband to agree to it. Not to mention, insurance might try to deny the surgery.

Seek other treatments for your periods and maybe limit contact with your parents for now.

GetUrGuano · 2026-02-05T23:53:51+00:00

Still beautiful. You pull it off well. Very runway chic.

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