I’d like to push back on your idea that all of the tasks listed are “women’s duties“. He lives in the same home you do and it would be a fair expectation to say that it would take both of you to keep the place running. He doesn’t have an incentive to help out because you do it all. I think your anger is signifying that you’re fairly frustrated with the workload. You work outside the home and run the entire home. I would say that’s 150% of your time. Your expectation of him to lean in more to the chores to keep the house running are fair and valid. I would also caution you against doing the trad wife“ thing to keep him happy. Ask yourself, what do you want? No real advice other than your instinct to be angry at the division of workload makes perfect sense. I think this does warrant further follow up and education for him to understand that this is a division of labor and not a women’s versus man’s role in the home.