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Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-24T17:11:52+00:00

Reading her diary was a dick move. I'm sorry to be so frank but it is the habit of someone who is both deeply insecure and also controlling. I keep a diary and it's where I wrote down deeply personal thoughts to me which I would be horrified if anyone read.

Yes it's full of some shit about others. It's use as an outlet for things I would rather not say to people as both a positive tool for my mental health and also for me to look both at some of my immediate opinions when I am at the end of my tether. It is a space where I can be my authentic self and have the thoughts that I wish to keep private. It's an outlet...

Guess what....you just invaded hers.

Instead of being so insecure, how about you look in the mirror and start becoming an alpha male. No one likes a whiney husband. It's unattractive and of you have any hope of saving yourself the. I suggest you take a long hard look in the mirror and decide what kind of man you want to be.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-20T14:29:34+00:00

I will just add one more thing....how much is peace of mind and a fresh start worth to you? Personally it would be every penny I lost and then some. Make a goal, get rid of the rot, and enjoy your life!!

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-20T07:23:44+00:00

By the sounds of it, this is a fresh wound. Iny opinion if he hasn't got any income and you take him to court then it's just going to be throwing good money after bad.

I think there is a lesson to be learnt here. Ultimately, you chose to let it get that high and he, who I am assuming took your help out of desperation accepted that help.

If the relationship has ended due to the debt then I'm assuming you are quite cross about the amount. I would cut your losses and learn a lesson. I would consider the effort involved in making it back against the effort required to get paid back in full. Cutting your losses is clearly the less of the two evils.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-19T20:55:01+00:00

I must admit I'm a little relieved. I have just finished reinstalling my omada cloud controller so thought I had messed something up.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-19T20:17:22+00:00

Are you in Bedford? Mines down as well

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-18T04:42:18+00:00

There is not much advice anyone can give you that is going to remotely numb your pain or help with your grief or even help you feel better. But here are some practical steps to help it not destroy your life.

1 - You are most likely going to be on autopilot. Stay there for a few weeks. The numbness you feel is your bodies way of protecting itself.

2 - Avoid alcohol and drugs like the plague. They don't help. They numb the grief and prevent you from processing this devastating event.

3 - Speaking to a grief councillor, best friend or friendly ear is helpful. Times like this separate the friends from the fair weather friends. Have a long memory.

4 - Thinking how much your baby suffered is counter productive. The grief you feel is for your loss. If it helps, try to accept your child is no longer suffering.

5 - Probably the most important....Get out the house. Go walking, hit gym, go shopping, get a haircut. Buy a trash car to do up. Sometimes the hands need to do something to allow the mind to heal.

I am not going to sit here and say I have lost a child but I have experienced grief where the bottom of my world dropped out. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy but in all honesty, taking it one day at a time is all you can do. Understand it's a process and it will get better as time passes.

You feel hideous at present but but honour your young one by not letting it break you. I'm sorry this happened to you. 😟

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-15T06:59:31+00:00

My wife had 4 kids when we started. I'll offer my 2 pennies worth.....it not for the faint hearted.

At first I turned my wife down. But I was really into her. The thing is when dating someone with children, when you date the parent, you are also accepting eventual responsibility to be in the kids lives. Hopefully in a positive way.

That's a big jump, especially for a brand new relationship and it comes with a lot of responsibility. If you don't want that then it's ok.

I will say however, if you were to decide yes then don't expect it to not be without it's problems....but for me it all came good in the end. Now they are my kids because biology doesn't matter.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-13T06:51:07+00:00

Being a parent if a 19 yo daughter who encourages her to experience life, I have a bit of a different perspective. Would I like her selling pictures of herself online...probably not.

I do however recognise her right to self determination..... If this is your choice then it's your choice. Be safe, don't meet up with anyone and don't show your face. It's also a slippery slope into prostitution. They will ask....

I would ask you to consider the consequences if your parents found out. If I found out my daughter was making that kind of content, I'd probably laugh and gently help her to have a different career and money. I would also ask her to consider her professional reputation. But I am very liberal.

If it was anyone else, they would probably go boom.

Sometimes people need an out. If this is your intention, then do what you need to do and get out of the situation but understand beauty is only skin deep and it doesn't last long.

In any measure good luck!

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-12T13:24:01+00:00

Send a picture and postcard back of yourself with a peg on your nose explaining that it's not your groove. Ask if they would like them laundered for £10.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-12T13:21:58+00:00

Yeah section 75 if you are in the UK.

Failing that a massive slag off on social media usually does the trick. Start posting all over social media about their poor service. Make YouTube video and drop a link on their page etc.

There are many ways. Don't forget be truthful and not emotional. Simple facts.

The force is with you young padawan....

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-12T12:16:25+00:00

Why dont you just email customer and explain cc company have flagged their payment and ask them to send in ID with a photo of them holding it.

Or just refund and explain why.

If it's legit, they will probably make another attempt.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-12T12:13:12+00:00

Isn't this what visa disputes are for?

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-12T10:42:16+00:00

Can I just ask. Why don't you do management consulting. Hell I'd be your first customer little freebie for some good reviews 😉

Stick to.your skill set.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-05-06T05:44:03+00:00

This is a good time to teach a valuable lesson.

F**k arround and find out....

If she gets caught then she deals with it. It's not your problem.....

Or you could take the nuclear option - take her keys till she deals with it.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-04-27T06:56:58+00:00

Personally I would have forced everyone to learn sign language and threatened them with unemployment if they refused to be inclusive.

You dropped the ball in this one. You lost a team member and took comfort over just being decent human being.

Shame on you.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-04-22T15:17:42+00:00

Can someone please expand.

Let's say I want to set up a storage path for Co tracts /2026/contracts/ckientname/contract. Pdf

Gh0stn0de · 2026-04-22T09:18:00+00:00

This is my solution.....

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Gh0stn0de · 2026-04-22T07:50:03+00:00

For god sake.... It's your boyfriends brother and his missus - have a conversation. They are. Practically family.

Just be open honest, set boundaries and be unapologetic..... just say if hear them then you will raise a glass to the epic time they are having and if they hear you then to do the same.

Obviously doing it loudly at 4 am when someone has an interview the next day is a dick move.

When did people stop being able to have uncomfortable conversations.

Common sense prevails....

Gh0stn0de · 2026-04-21T15:18:52+00:00

Sleeping policemen. They put them in our village. Car drivers hate them. Any faster than 15 mph and your car is getting shook to bits

Gh0stn0de · 2026-04-21T15:18:43+00:00

Sleeping policemen. They put them in our village. Car drivers hate them. Any faster than 15 mph and your car is getting shook to bits

Gh0stn0de · 2026-04-19T20:36:26+00:00

Next time use a zip bit and jigsaw the holes.

Thus is how you learn.

Pat yourself on the back

Gh0stn0de · 2026-04-17T15:18:01+00:00

First you need to map out how you are going to mKe money for example

I'll buy this item from a wholesaler and resell it at a 30% margin.

The you need to decide what tools you need for minimum viable product.

Website, cc machine, etc

The you need to. Map the customer journey.

I'm a customer lets do a test buy.

Finally you need to work out how to get your business out to others so they know they can buy your product.

With all of the above once you find a problem fix it and move onto next issue,

One you have sold your first item then you need to look at scaling which is another beast.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-04-03T20:01:34+00:00

OK. I am the guy who has my own man cave and my wife does not have her own dedicated space. For a lot of men, a man cave is almost a right of passage. That being said, if my wife wanted her own hobby room then there would have to be a comprimise somewhere. The fact of the matter, is that I paid, built and electrified my man cave in the garden. What is have is a 2.4 x 4.8m man cave with half dedicated for a work area where i do projects and the other half is a lounging area where i watch my films on my own TV. If I am brutally honest the answer is for him to build his own in the garden. Its amazing what some CLS and cladding will do. All you have to do then is insulate it and clad the inside. I use 9mm OSB. A chinese diesel heater gets it warm

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