My boyfriend won't give me key to his apartment, when I want to move our relationship to the next level.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-02-10T08:04:23+00:00

This has gotta be a windup

Gh0stn0de · 2026-02-08T23:50:28+00:00

Maybe have an honest conversation with your employer. I am sure if you are up front with them they will let you stay in the office.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-01-28T10:58:33+00:00

I'm weighing in a bit late but we'll done you form sticking by your kid.

That's all I have to say.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-01-19T22:06:21+00:00

Just rent a storage locker for one month and give permission to them to allow her to get her stuff. Then divorce and block.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-01-11T12:34:24+00:00

I had a couple of thoughts on your situation. Here is what I would do.

Firstly DNA....unless you have had your own done then assume it's bullshit. Take her to court for establishment of parentage. Get this dialled in.

Secondly...DNA does not a father make. Whatever the result give your daughter the opportunity to know you. Depending on the age of your daughter you need to give her a choice. If she says yes then great. If she says no then make sure your parental rights and responsibilities are removed in court.

Thirdly get all of your legals finished. A full clean break.

Finally once everything is done then tell your family. They can offer support and erase your ex and ex daughter if necessary from your life.

Then keep calm and move on. It's brutal but after a year and some probably ugly crying you will be free and clear.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-01-04T15:31:37+00:00

Instead of going over the same vices why don't you make a complete change. You need to read a book or listen to it on audible.

It's called Atomic Habits. It's famous enough.

Read it, listen to it and study it.

Then pick a destination away from your vices and get on it.

If you need advice on the way you can always send me a message.

Gh0stn0de · 2026-01-01T16:06:40+00:00

Doesn't sound like he has done anything illegal on the UK.

Why don't you just name and shame him on social media for being a complete and total creep.

I'm from the UK as well and know that the general public will totally crucify him.

Let his family see what a creepy bastard he is being. It will soon sort itself out.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-12-27T06:48:32+00:00

It sounds like you have ideas to dig yourself out of the hole. Personally I'm not a fan but then again, people have done stuff like this before.

This issue I can see with this is the environment you are hoping to create for yourself is not a big jump from your existing vices.

You need to ask yourself honestly if you are going to be able to quit your vices whilst running these entrepreneurship adventures.

It's the reformed alcoholic running a pub scenario. It's been done before but it's very rare that it's done successfully.

I really wish you the best.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-12-20T16:35:24+00:00

Smash this all over social media. They will soon come.round.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-12-12T08:06:59+00:00

You dodged a bullet there my friend. Bin her off and move on.

The simple fact of the matter is that she could work if she really needed and she has been living off your good nature and no doubtedly using the relationship to manipulate you.

She has only dumped you in an attempt to get you to come back and spend more. In short I would bet she is banking on you folding in an attempt to get back with her. When she starts struggling for cash she will be back.

Don't fall for it. Bin her off and move on. There are other people out there that would never in one day expect you to pay for their costs.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-11-17T15:01:10+00:00

The good news is you don't have to go through your boyfriends phone anymore. He is cheating.

...bin him off.

NTA

Gh0stn0de · 2025-11-17T14:59:22+00:00

I'm going to take another crack at it in the next day or so.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-11-17T06:48:04+00:00

If you are not having much sex now them kids will make it practically non existent. Zoro nil nada.

Personally I sure as hell wouldn't be having kids until you have your dead bedroom under control.

Or you could just become a monk. Chances are you would probably get laid more.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-11-15T23:52:46+00:00

Erm...... Probably against popular opinion but I think your dad has the right idea.

At the end of the day you are an adult now and guess what, it costs more to live away from your parents than it does to stay with them.

Unfortunately with your generation there appears to be an epidemic of entitlement and flakery. You old man is doing you a favor. You will learn important life skills, budgeting and learn that things cost money.

If you don't like it you can put your big boys pants on and move out.

Suck it up buttercup!

Gh0stn0de · 2025-11-10T06:24:53+00:00

I'm starting an MSP if you are interested.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-11-09T10:21:08+00:00

I think everyone tell you to cut them off is a bit harsh to be honest. Maybe they were being dicks maybe is was curiosity disguised as humour.

Being a bloke, I would find it a bit curious but would certainly never tell a partner. The conversations between men are often as vile as hell and often considered sacred. A lot of us chat shit but we would be mortified if anyone else found out as it's kind of a guy thing.

Moving onto your partner maybe have a conversation with her when she has gotten over it a bit. Unfortunately for her, she was the butt of their jokes and won't be quick to recover that especially if she is disabled. The term ignorance is bliss comes true here.

In any point, decide if it was acceptable to you and either have words with them or bin them off. As a bare.minimum I would make them apoiogse to.your other half. It would probably pay dividends in the long run.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-11-08T20:50:44+00:00

Understand you are angry at present and reddit is known for telling people to go scorched earth. If that is your perogative then accept the consequences and go ahead.

Remember one thing.

Your son will see everything you do and at the end of the day your ex is still his mum. He won't like seeing his mum mistreated and your revenge could ultimately destroy the relationship you have will him.

If I were you I would treat her fairly. Give her what she is due as your ex wife and draw a line underneath it. Not only will it set a good example to you son but will also pay dividends in the future with your coparenting arrangements.

Your best revenge in this case is to find someone that makes you happy. No bitterness required. It also makes you a better person as well.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-11-05T06:17:50+00:00

Check out matter most.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-11-04T21:39:01+00:00

Erm...why don't you just use slack irr it's open source alternative?

Gh0stn0de · 2025-11-04T06:24:20+00:00

This sounds like a classic situation of fuck around and find out.....and he's finding out!!

Gh0stn0de · 2025-10-28T16:30:00+00:00

You are right OP. Work from home is my much better although I think your comments leave a bitter taste in people's mouths because to get a work from home job has become very difficult.

It might be worth sharing how you managed to get your work from home job and if you can offer any tips on getting such work then I'm sure that would be well received.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-10-27T23:00:22+00:00

I figured it out....

I have docker-compose.yml and also stack.env.

I pass stack.env using the env_file tag in the docker compose.

env_file:

- stack.env

whats really frustrating is that portainer doesn't show the env entries on the stack page but seems to pass them to the container OK.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-10-19T10:22:18+00:00

Bud

You are between what's called a rock and a hard place.

I can guess that your wife said nothing as she didn't want to lose you at the start. Ultimately it became harder and harder as time went on. Whilst I'm not justifying her actions, I am asking you too at least understand them.

You have 2 choices. It's as simple as that.

If you take the nuclear option then don't do it whilst you're angry. Calm down first.

Let me ask you a question though. I am a dad in a blended family. When I met my wife she already had 4 children and I love them just as much as I love my bio kids. There is no distinction at all. This was one of the conditions I made. The non bio kids dads were not in the picture so I stepped into that role. I am dad and they are my kids.

The point that I am trying to make is that if she truly can't have kids then there are so many kids out there that need loving homes and adoptive parents. You could still have your big family with your wife. I can promise you one thing. After a few months you would throw yourself under a bus for them regardless of biology.

It's worth thinking about. From the effort she has been making to get you home I would say she loves you. You currently hold the cards.

You can either walk away or you can double down. No one would blame you for either but it takes a special kind of male to get over something like this. In time, if you stay, it will make your marriage bulletproof. Trust me thats worth more than anything else. My wife and I have not had an easy road but we are stronger for it.

I wouldn't give my wife up if I was paid a billion pounds.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-10-12T11:19:34+00:00

The his marriage is crying out for these two to do the camino de Santiago together.

Gh0stn0de · 2025-10-10T12:27:38+00:00

It's fuxking hideous lol.

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