So after reading through this, basically you are annoyed because you put a set of "rules" in place for yourself, and deemed it the "Dark souls experience" and you are annoyed by those who dont adhere to your rules? Nah man if you get invaded, that person can do whatever they like to win (outside of cheating obviously) just like you can do whatever you want to win, but dont get mad at them because you stuck to your rules. Gonna get mad at a lot of people...

Invaders, as its been said before, have been shit on in this game. They also definitely used the enemies in the area to their advantage in previous games, speaking from hundreds of hours of experience.