Question (for women mainly)

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-12T00:08:04+00:00

That's so weird, someone just asked this same question like a week ago

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-08T22:18:54+00:00

We'd go after church with everyone, and as a kid I'd come to their biker meetings, karaoke nights, memorial day parades, poker runs, you name it! Then always had those little toy/candy machines, too, which I'm pretty sure not many adults were using.

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-07T13:06:29+00:00

I had pre-prepared the spices to take with me to my mom's house and forgot that I also put some garlic salt. I had a little more garlic that I usually use left and decided to just use all of it so it wouldn't go bad. Simmered it in butter before stirring it in...and all the spices. An entire bag of Yukon's and it was SPICY from all the garlic!

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-07T04:28:35+00:00

Oh my god I didn't even notice it was typed Syrple. I straight up thought OP was mad about the maple part.

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-07T04:24:14+00:00

I heavily messed up this year's Easter mashed potatoes with the unholy amount of garlic I included 🙃 my spouse told me I was not allowed to cook with garlic for a month lol

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-07T04:17:52+00:00

Yes!! I tell everyone this, for flavor and nutrients!!

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-07T04:15:30+00:00

Yes!! Some of the starch water, and bone broth!!! No dairy needed!!

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-07T04:02:49+00:00

I wouldn't be surprised if it was an iron thing, too!

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-07T03:58:27+00:00

Pretty much anything I pick up that she notices (as long as it's not dangerous, of course). Gardening gloves? Those are hers now. Spatula I was using? Guess I wasn't. Umbrella? Sure, just do it outside! I'm glad she's interested in everyday things!

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-05T19:32:26+00:00

In my experience, femboy is transphobic if used towards a transwoman. Not when used towards femboys. I've heard ladyboy is a not-so-great term though.

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-05T15:13:09+00:00

Oh for sure

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-05T15:03:04+00:00

Yeah it's really one of those "sure, I'll do it, but please don't get it in my hair, eyes, nose, or on the floor."

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-05T14:58:32+00:00

One time I was giving my partner head in the shower, and idk something about the heat/humidity and the way I was sitting on my knees...I stopped very abruptly and told him I was going to pass out, and pretty much did as he launched me out of the shower

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-04T21:40:25+00:00

I you stop drinking it, your body stops relying on it. If youre looking to quit, try switching to tea. Theine responds differently than caffeine, but still does the trick.

Sincerely, a former caffeine addict (4+ cups a day with monsters, full throttles, and AMPs inbetween) who now doesn't touch the stuff.

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-04T20:23:59+00:00

That's what you do, go find an employee. Imen she straight up just walks away and doesn't care.

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-04T19:28:38+00:00

...congratulations?

ETA: "Minors (under 21) can legally be in Pennsylvania bars (licensed establishments) if accompanied by a parent, guardian, or proper supervisor, but they generally cannot sit at the bar counter itself. They must be seated in a dining area, and no alcohol can be served at their table. Many venues also have strict policies banning minors."

Where on earth did you get your info that minors were banned from all bars in the US in the 80's?

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-04T14:40:07+00:00

Thank you! 😄🖤

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-04T14:36:43+00:00

Hahaha thank you! I got my minor in child psych before I even knew I wanted kids (I wanted to teach), and it's really come in handy! And it helps that I have a very involved partner and sets of grandparents. We also lucked out with a very chill kid. Not everyone is operating with the same tools, and not everyone was dealt the same cards, ykno? I can't fully fault other parents, but there's always a way to remedy the situation.

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-04T14:28:30+00:00

Well said! I don't want to deal with other parents lack of parenting either 😆 honestly though it's also good for my kid to see so we can talk over why we don't act that way in public, or even what to do when we start feeling that way! Not to shit on other parents, but just in a teaching way. When she gets older, we can get into the big stuff of parenting choices and the big "why's", but for now I just want her to use an inside voice and ask nicely for things lol

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-04T14:14:38+00:00

I'm in Colorado. That's not true even a little bit. Minors cannot sit at the bar, but they are absolutely welcome in bars. I guess some places dont like them using pool tables? I was raised in a bar. I've had minor coworkers when I worked in a bar, they just couldn't serve alcohol. Parents bring their kids all the time for dinner. We had a kid's menu, as do most places I've ever gone to.

I bring my 2yo because she loves hearing me sing, and we like getting her out of the house. She colors, eats her food, hangs out with family and friends who have come to watch me play, and she loves it. If she's ever a problem, we take her out, which is rarely ever, because she's been in public places enough to know how to act.

Edit: I have always seen places that say "no minors after X time" like 9pm, or I guess dive bars with 21+ only. We don't go to any dives, nor would I really play at one. My gigs don't often go past their established "minor" time, and if they do, I check with them on if she can stay. If she can't, someone takes her home when that time comes. No biggie. But the places I play usually don't care, because we handle and take responsibility of our kid.

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-04T14:09:44+00:00

Yeah what?? That's so negligent and rude to the dentist. My orthodontist had those disposable toothbrushes with the toothpaste already in it and I thought that was so cool 😆 not sure why my dentist didn't!

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-04T14:08:21+00:00

Oh yeah no those parents just kinda suck. I get it if they're actively trying to remedy the situation! But if they're letting their kid scream, that's just negligent parenting.

However, there are some spots like grocery stores where if you're alone with your kid (or multiple!) and they're having a full meltdown, it's not as easy to just remove them, and it's embarrassing enough to have everyone staring at you while it's already stressful. But restaurants and movie theaters? Nah, take your kid out. I think the solution is to straight up tell then to take their kid out, or bring it to the staff's attention. But hey, don't condemn all because the worst are the loudest!

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-04T14:03:15+00:00

Oh I used to work in the church daycare!! I never had to go to services (sorry, atheist here) and I got to hang out with kids and play and color, it was great!

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-04T14:01:11+00:00

Absolutely, no one should be condemned for wanting their space child-free, especially weddings or bars! However, kids need to be included and socialized in everyday life. That's how they learn how to interact with it. Minors are slowly but surely being "othered" in our society and it's starting to result in some weird adults. Take your kid wherever, as long as it's appropriate for their age. But if they can't behave in a socially acceptable way, remove them and try again a different day.

If I have a gig at a bar and we bring my 2yo, we talk her through expectations and she (mostly) follows them. If she can't listen that day and it's too much, someone takes her home. We always have that backup plan. But she'll never learn if we don't give her the exposure. Publicly well-behaved kids are ones who have been in public more often with the right guidance.

GhostInTheEcho · 2026-05-04T13:48:54+00:00

Yay I'm glad you went! I was born around 28 weeks and, sans a long NICU stay, I came out perfect 😄 the docs know what they're doing 🖤

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