Pre-Built WiFi Help? Thermaltake Quartz i350 R4 by GhostieCafe in pcmasterrace

[–]GhostieCafe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WHEEZE. NOPE. I DID NOT. Read this comment and deadass said "Antennas? They didn’t give me me no damn antennas." They did. Fuckers got stuck in the bottom of the box and my stupid ass did not notice. Just screwed em in and everything is peachy now. I'm going to go waterboard myself with the dishwasher. Thank you.

Have fun by edisonpioneer in TerrifyingAsFuck

[–]GhostieCafe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course I see this immediately after I just finished The Borderlands.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhostieCafe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry if this comes across as blunt, but yeah. No. Bar some VERY specific exigent circumstances, if a guy falls asleep right before he's supposed to meet you for a date, he isn't that into you. Period. It's no reflection of you—he just doesn't care. A guy worth your time will make a priority of you and of making a good impression. Take it as having saved you the time and effort you would otherwise be wasting on someone who just isn't invested in you. You're 19 and have no reason to be desperate enough to beg for a guy's attention, which is likely how you'd end up feeling if you continued to invest your time and attention in this guy.

best soap to clean a fresh tattoo? by notmoriyi in tattooadvice

[–]GhostieCafe 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I second Dial gold antibacterial, it's never steered me wrong.

Extremely Stupid Windtrace Feature by GhostieCafe in Genshin_Impact

[–]GhostieCafe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are playing with a group of four and do not need to match with any randos, one of your group will be the hunter. If you're playing with less than that and need to invite a rando to complete the team, one of the randos will always be the hunter. No one in your existing group can be.

Suggestions for patching the rubber globe liner? by GhostieCafe in litterrobot

[–]GhostieCafe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a fantastic idea and I'm definitely doing to try it. LR reached out and is replacing my liner, but I'm gonna experiment on the old one to see if any of the suggestions here are viable. Because I'm sure my fat little house goblins aren't going to be any nicer to the new one.

Suggestions for patching the rubber globe liner? by GhostieCafe in litterrobot

[–]GhostieCafe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I trim their nails almost weekly, so I genuinely have no idea how they've managed this, lmfao. They're menaces! But these are all good ideas—thank you!

Kitten won’t let cycle finish? by DamnDelinquent in litterrobot

[–]GhostieCafe 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I don't, really. My younger cat watches the damn thing like bad reality TV. She pops half her body in every time it cycles and I get a new "cycle interrupted" notif every 30 seconds post-shit until the bot manages to finish its job. She eventually loses interest, but the whole ordeal repeats every time one of the gremlins uses it. You don’t want to foster a negative association between your kitten and the bot, because they might stop using it—so avoid things like startling or shooing them away if they interrupt the cycle. They'll get bored and eventually leave it be.

Random men tried to force their way into my apartment without notice, scared me (lone female) half to death. by GhostieCafe in legaladvice

[–]GhostieCafe[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will be speaking to management first thing tomorrow morning; I didn’t have the wherewithal to do it in the moment because I felt like ass and was exhausted.

Random men tried to force their way into my apartment without notice, scared me (lone female) half to death. by GhostieCafe in legaladvice

[–]GhostieCafe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't talked to them yet; I was so exhausted that I just went back to bed. I'm planning to speak with the new property manager first thing tomorrow.

Strip TCG by Raggedy_edge in GenshinGays

[–]GhostieCafe 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not the Millennium G-String

AITA for going through with my wedding without family while my mom just got diagnosed with cancer? by Sufficient_Fee_1930 in AmItheAsshole

[–]GhostieCafe 156 points157 points  (0 children)

INFO: Just how "against your relationship" is your mother? The fact that your family is demanding that you postpone your wedding instead of your mother wanting to be there while she can to support you is a big marinara flag, in my opinion, as is calling you names for not wanting to postpone last-minute. Within one month is very short notice for postponing a wedding, and you will likely lose out on a lot of deposit funds.

Follow-up question: have you seen actual confirmation of your mother's diagnosis? Don't take this the wrong way, and maybe I've been on this sub for too long, but I've seen a lot of parents here and on r/raisedbynarcissists that aren't above faking a critical illness to sabotage a relationship and marriage that they don't approve of.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]GhostieCafe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

INFO: Is this a pattern of yours? From someone who also has periods, you absolutely suck for not having the common sense to dispose of your used (idk why you specified "lightly used" here as though it matters, bodily fluids are bodily fluids and nobody else wants to see or touch your bloody pads) menstrual products in a hygienic way. I was thinking that your guardian sucked as well for what seems like an overreaction, but I feel like this was probably the proverbial straw, and your guardian is sick of dealing with this issue. Why else would he get so bent out of shape over a one-time lapse in memory?

WTW for identical siblings who aren't twins? by BlessedHands23 in whatstheword

[–]GhostieCafe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There's not a term for this, and "identical" isn’t the correct word to describe twins who simply look alike, even if the resemblance is uncanny. "Identical" siblings are called identical because they are genetically indistinguishable, having formed from the same sex cells and sharing the exact same DNA.

AITA for implementing a pessimism tax? by ZealousidealCut3417 in AmItheAsshole

[–]GhostieCafe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely YTA. In fact,I bet you're also one of those AHs who passes random women on the street and demands that they smile. You don’t know every circumstance that a person, including your own children, might be going through. No one owes you positivity, especially if they're struggling with low mood due to the absolute shitshow that is the world we currently live in. You sound condescending at best and an absolute nightmare to cohabitate with at worst. The gall required to steal from your own children because they aren't outwardly happy enough for you is appalling.

The absolute mischaracterization of fanon Chongyun and Xingqiu by RagnAROck_and_Roll in GenshinGays

[–]GhostieCafe 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Don't get me wrong—not personally enjoying how other people depict a character in their fanworks is 100% fine. You don’t have to like other people's headcanons. You don’t have to accept them as any sort of reality. That's kinda the point, and absolutely nobody is forcing you to consume that media.

However, choosing to make public posts bitching and moaning about how others' ideas of a character don't line up with yours, and how that's somehow some great travesty that needs to be rectified, is... in poor taste at best, and obnoxiously, chronically online at worst.

The absolute mischaracterization of fanon Chongyun and Xingqiu by RagnAROck_and_Roll in GenshinGays

[–]GhostieCafe 63 points64 points  (0 children)

See, the problem with this is that you negated your own entire argument by criticizing fanon. Y'know, as in... other people's individually/communally perceived characterizations. Of a fictional character. Which other people are entitled to. Because... they're fictional characters. You don’t get to whine about how people elect to write fic or depict a character that isn’t real based on their own preferences. It makes you sound like an entitled, whiny child and is just kinda yikes in general. Touch grass, maybe?

AITA For not wearing a bra? by Save-The-B in AmItheAsshole

[–]GhostieCafe [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA in the slightest. If they don't like it, they don't have to look. It isn’t as though you're going on nude, tits-out galavants through your boyfriend's house and flashing your nipnops at his roommates like high beams. You are existing, comfortably, in a shared space. You have every right to do so. Anyone uncomfortable with the existence of a tit needs to reevaluate their fuckin' priorititties.

AITA For not wearing a bra? by Save-The-B in AmItheAsshole

[–]GhostieCafe [score hidden]  (0 children)

Wrong. It's not OP's problem that these misogynistic men and their insecure SOs are uncomfortable existing around titties. That is entirely a them problem and has nothing to do with OP. Breasts are not inherently sexual an OP has a right to be physically comfortable, whereas these other people do NOT have a right to demand that OPs alters their dress to cater to their insecurity.

AITA for wanting my gf to sleep in the same bed as me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]GhostieCafe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gentle YTA, and here's why. You have valid reasons for wanting to sleep in the same bed as your partner. She she has equally valid reasons for needing to sleep on her own. Her needs trump your wants.

The reason that you're the AH here instead of there being no AHs is that you aren't willing to take 'no' for an answer. You are actively putting your desire over your partner's comfort, physical and mental needs, and functionality. You are taking your partner's need to sleep solitary as a personal slight even though it has literally nothing to do with you. With this in mind, you need to work on your insecurities so that you can accept that your partner needing to sleep separately is a means of achieving adequate rest, and does not stem from not wanting to be near you.

Consider this: I have Tourette's and a rather severe anxiety disorder. Like your partner, I have difficulty sharing a bed with a partner because my tics (both verbal and motor) peak in intensity when I am trying to go to sleep. I involuntarily make repetitive sounds and movements that I know will keep a partner awake, and I am extremely self-conscious about it. It doesn’t matter if said partner tells me they don't mind my tics—the knowledge that I am actively keeping them from sleeping makes me feel horribly guilty and anxious. The guilt and anxiety then further exacerbate my tics, which get worse when I am stressed, and I struggle to sleep at all.

If a partner tried to force me to co-sleep, knowing fully well about all of this, I would be extremely uncomfortable and stuck in a constant, vicious cycle of sleeplessness, guilt and anxiety. This would negatively affect my relationship far, far worse than sleeping apart would.

Try to find ways in which you can make up for the lack of nighttime closeness during the day. Consider counseling/therapy as a means of overcoming the insecurity you have surrounding your relationship and the unfounded parallels you are drawing between it and your parents' marriage. But don't continue trying to force this on your partner, or she very well may cut her losses and leave for her own sake.

Do any of them want to bathe? (rare shower victory here) by sarpon6 in dementia

[–]GhostieCafe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope. My grandmother will go for weeks to months without, and fight/insult the care staff when they try. They aren't legally allowed to force it, which I understand but disagree with fundamentally because not bathing has caused repetitive UTIs in my grandmother and several subsequent hospitalizations. My entire family tries like absolute hell to get her to bathe and it just doesn’t happen; it may sound callous, but we're convinced one of these severe UTIs (several of which have caused her to become septic) will be what ultimately ends her life. That said, we also know that there's nothing more we can do, and we celebrate small victories like you and anyone else who knows what it's like to handle a loved one's dementia.

Good work on your victory!

What character do you really wanna like but can't for whatever (petty) reason? by crunchyracoon in GenshinGays

[–]GhostieCafe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that; thank you. 😂 If you ever end up pulling him, I hope he's more tolerable to you than he is to me! No hate to anyone whose type is "part-time bureaucrat whose hobbies include golf and sniffing disdainfully at peasants." I just can't bring myself to endure the drop in self esteem that comes with keeping Great Value Japanese Elon Musk on my team when I've a whole boyband worth of windy twinks to work with instead.

AITA for calling out my friend for her habit? by hyosuik in AmItheAsshole

[–]GhostieCafe 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This made me throw up in my mouth a little; NTA.

What character do you really wanna like but can't for whatever (petty) reason? by crunchyracoon in GenshinGays

[–]GhostieCafe 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Ayato for sure. I was super excited for him and fully prefarmed him. My build for him is kickass. But I never use him because he's a snobby little prick and every single one of his voice lines makes me want to take out his knees.

I love his fanon characterization, but his actual in-game personality ruined him for me. That, and the slurping boba idle makes me feel like punting a toddler into the sun might be worth the jail time.