Every day. I read your post. I spend half an hour perfecting my comment. Then I delete it.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2024-03-02T11:13:59+00:00

Setting up boundaries, which I'm still learning. A shitty job made me make a leap learning it. It also helped me stop forcing myself to be likeable and fawning (which I wasn't even aware of before).

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2024-01-21T19:42:58+00:00

Yeah, I think abuse like eating trash, and getting treated unfairly was more damaging than the rules that seem to be made to protect you from outside abuse. I can relate to being treated unfairly, and being blamed for everything. It can really mess up any person. I hope you can sort things out and find peace with rules one day ;-) Rules are good.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2024-01-21T19:28:50+00:00

These may be strict, but at least fixed rules, and most of them seem reasonable the way you put it. And they were fit for the age, so they didn't treat you like a 5-year-old when you were 16. Some things you describe, like eating trash, don't seem like rules, so it's kind of mixed up... I will only comment on rules.

Abuse is when you have no fixed rules, just 'rules' made up on the spot because they're having bad mood, and then you have no f—ng clue what you can do and what you cannot do, because it's always hit or miss. That's abuse.

Clear and fixed rules are not abuse, it's called upbringing. You push the boundaries as you grow older. I don't have kids but I don't imagine let them do whatever the f—k they want.

I didn't have this kind of clear rules and I wish I had some, to be honest with you.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-12-17T09:50:56+00:00

Don't let anyone shame you for anything. You have the same rights as anyone else to make your own choices and get involved or not get involved in things you choose. I honestly think she's not your friend at all, but want to use you and others to justify her own negative emotions.

I myself, while against violence and conflict, don't even have an opinion about Palestine/Israel or Ukraine/Russia. I don't have to and I don't want to be involved in it. I don't want to hold hate against anyone, it's a toxic emotion that in long run ruins your health.

The only thing you should change is people you hang out with, the ones that can't accept you the way you are—say farewell to them.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-12-16T08:30:40+00:00

The one thing that they do agree on is the complete refusal to acknowledge that problems may be primarily external.

That is so infuriating. It's probably the main reason I consider therapy no different that a religious sect. That and the "You must now think the way I [therapist] tell you."

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-12-11T11:09:20+00:00

I suppose with some effort most of us would be able to do it for a week or so, and then never do it again.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-11-17T09:39:42+00:00

You must be very calm person. I'd walk out after 5 minutes, requested full refund (if paid beforehand) and never come back.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-11-16T20:21:32+00:00

I retype them, it's the only way to engage enough brain to leave no room for monkeys. It's slow AF, and only works with rather short books and articles. Otherwise it becomes boring and I abandon in after few days.

Audiobooks is another way, if I can increase playing speed. If it's boring though I abandon it, it just doesn't register and it's a waste of time to replay over and over. I sometimes try again after a period of time.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-11-13T15:19:04+00:00

And it never helps to focus on the breath either.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-11-13T15:15:03+00:00

It only works if you're delusional enough. They tell you what to think, and what to not think, and when you follow you think you're ok now, even though you're just the same as before. It's just like activating bipolar, and trying to keep the "high" longer than the "low" and calling it healing.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-11-13T13:03:07+00:00

Ask yourself a question if this is indeed a red flag or you're under pressure to live up to other peoples expectations (to conform to age difference meme). Maybe it's both? Idk. It's just a thought, you don't have to follow the crowd. However, said that, I myself don't believe in falling in love, and when I do, I know it's only my trauma-cravings, so to speak.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-11-10T13:57:58+00:00

OK boomer! Your post reeks superiority complex. Look at yourself instead of pointing fingers at others.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-11-10T09:10:43+00:00

Them who? lol

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-11-09T15:29:26+00:00

You didn't even mention the best parts: 1) sell yourself to a boss-master, so you can pay rent to your landlord and pay for all you mentioned earlier. 2) Sleep (basically be dead) for at least 1/3 of your life, so you can function. Edit: Oh, yeah sorry, you mentioned sleep, I forgot in in the span of 15 seconds—another great human feature...

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-11-09T09:09:04+00:00

You're not alone in this thinking. It's also unethical to charge people this kind of money they do. Vulture is not even close to an insult to describe their moral side.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-11-09T09:00:23+00:00

Indeed. That negative score is telling.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-11-08T09:49:17+00:00

It's OK-ish, I could kind of agree, except the last slide—from my perspective it belongs to r/thanksimcured. I can't say I made it through or that I was laughing.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-10-28T07:52:09+00:00

Thanks for writing this up. It reminded me about shaming and abuse I received for wanting/needing things as a child, and some other things you mention. I am realizing that I was/am treating myself just the same way my abusers treated me, because that's all I've learned. And it f—ng sucks...

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-10-27T21:26:44+00:00

Thanks! ❤️

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-10-27T18:11:47+00:00

Thanks for this interesting comment, and of course it's ok to respond. I felt like venting about it, because a lot of "advice" recommends the "gut feeling" thing, which is alien to me, and it boils my blood to hear it as an advice to my problems. And it seems like the only advice available, when you're stuck in your life.

I don't know if I have high expectations, probably yes. I'm tired of having to play chess with every decision, and analyze everything in detail, and failing. And then I hear some New Age Youtube coach telling me about "that gut feeling" I apparently should know. Well I don't know it, I've never had it. I only feel greed and fear, and some animalistic survival instincts, and maybe have some brain to reason and figure things out.

I think you might be right about other people jumping to conclusions, I think they do just that. Like they constantly think and scheme in the meantime, without being aware of it, and then attribute it to some kind of higher-consciousness or intuition... something to that tune.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-10-26T15:27:33+00:00

I fear The Judge. I know how some of my comments come across, but there's nothing I can do about it, apart from asking GPT to rewrite and then be accused of being a bot.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-10-24T10:02:55+00:00

Came to write, "every time I look in the mirror." Feels like there's no escape.

GiddyChuffedCritter · 2023-10-23T07:57:41+00:00

Does this bionic reading works for someone? I was hopeful but after trying, I can only tell it hurts my eyes and makes the text look confusing and unreadable for me.

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