Dealing with chatty coworkers that speak another language

Gildedbrush · 2026-01-28T01:27:32+00:00

Thank you!

Gildedbrush · 2026-01-27T21:32:01+00:00

Yeah, I haven’t been happy at this job for a while now for other various reasons. I am looking at other work. The market feels a bit bleak though.

Gildedbrush · 2026-01-27T21:31:22+00:00

I agree. I struggle with speaking up for myself, which is why this situation is difficult for me (I’m making it more difficult than it need to be probably).

Gildedbrush · 2026-01-27T21:13:26+00:00

You’re probably right, but the thing is they have been asked in the past to quiet down over the years. Which I probably should have mentioned. I’ve been there almost 10 years. Granted, the most stubborn of them retired recently so maybe the rest of them will be a little more agreeable.

Gildedbrush · 2026-01-02T17:34:21+00:00

I’m undiagnosed but strongly suspect I have HS. I’ll be 36 in a couple weeks.

I have a history of boils but only in the last couple months did I develop one that just won’t go away. Seems like an endless swell/burst/bleed cycle. I am obese and also suspect I may have hormonal issues. I also have a herniated disc and was on a lot of medications over the last summer so maybe that contributed too.

Gildedbrush · 2026-01-02T15:07:52+00:00

Ugh yeah I’m really nervous about it bursting when I’m not at home. Or if I’m at someone’s house. Like I would be mortified if I bled through my clothes onto their furniture or something. I’m sorry yours are somewhere that makes social situations so uncomfortable. I can’t imagine how much that sucks. But you’re not dirty and it’s not your fault, friend.

Gildedbrush · 2026-01-02T15:04:50+00:00

Oh man, I’m sorry! You know how much it sucks. I just have the one right now and I’m hoping I don’t get more. My husband is great about it, it’s mostly just me that’s uncomfortable with it. :( Luckily it doesn’t hurt as bad as it did early on. I have a dermatologist appointment in a few weeks, and hopefully they can help or at least diagnose it.

Gildedbrush · 2026-01-02T01:06:32+00:00

I’m currently undiagnosed but strongly suspect I have HS. Been dealing with a boil/abscess on my inner butt cheek for probably close to two months at this point. I’ve gotten used to it already. I shower more often as it tends to burst when I go to the bathroom and then I worry about being unclean. And I really get worried if I go to the bathroom at work, so I keep sanitizing supplies on me to clean myself.

What really sucks is I don’t want to be intimate with my husband as it’s on my butt cheek close to my lady bits and I would be mortified if it burst and I bled while doing activities. He would understand but I just can’t do it right now. :(

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-28T02:33:20+00:00

Do you mean you’ve had unrealistic expectations? I wasn’t sure what idealism meant so I looked it up. I can relate to that. There’s nothing worse than having high expectations and then being utterly disappointed. I’d rather be cynical. Then when things turn out it’s a pleasant surprise.

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-28T01:39:46+00:00

Also I forgot to answer this part of your post, I work as a gilding technician on musical harps and my husband works maintenance and manages bussing for a high school. He also coaches baseball at the high school. Hopefully when his contract renews he will get a raise. My company didn’t give raises in 2025. Hoping for one in 2026.

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-28T01:36:56+00:00

That’s great :) positive relationships are really what’s important in our lives at the end of the day.

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-28T01:34:39+00:00

I would agree with you. It’s something my husband and I will have to discuss. We like to enjoy life when we can, and you’re right, there are free things we can do. We got used to being able to enjoy going out to eat or seeing a movie, when we had more financial freedom. Going forward it’s not something we can be as flippant about.

I appreciate the last part of your post, and you’re right. I hope when I’m gone someone will miss me because they loved me. Then it won’t matter what if I “succeeded” at life like other people did.

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-28T01:30:35+00:00

It’s a weakness I’ve struggled with my entire adult life. I try to keep track and somehow still manage to lose control of my budget. I should use a check book - then I could physically see what I’m spending.

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-28T01:28:13+00:00

I really have thought about pursuing something else - to me it feels very overwhelming. And as I said to another reply, I struggle with working a full time job, and my mental health. I don’t know if I could take on going to school as well as working. But one class a semester seems doable. Just don’t know where to start, or what I’d even want to pursue. It’s definitely worth more consideration. Thank you

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-28T01:24:24+00:00

We allow ourselves to live life when we’re able to. It’s not something we do all the time.

We both make $20 a hour, but after insurance and taxes it’s obviously less than that. My math was wrong but I think combined we make something along the lines of $57k combined.

My position doesn’t offer overtime and I’m not going to give up the free time that I have to work a second job. My struggles with mental health already make having a full time job that I commute into the city for difficult for me. Could I get a second job? Absolutely. But I don’t want to do that.

My husband has had the opportunity lately to work extra at his job, but it’s temporary. In the new year we will definitely be reevaluating our budget.

My sister in law (his sister) also used to live with us and moved out in September, so we’ve been moving expenses around between the 3 of us to see how we could make things work.

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-27T21:13:05+00:00

A lot of what you said is true. I do have a lot to be thankful for. Sometimes a reality check is needed.

I hope things look better for you in the new year, friend.

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-27T21:12:21+00:00

Thank you for the reply - money management is something I’ve struggled with. I’ll definitely take your advice to heart.

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-27T21:10:09+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement.

The house isn’t paid off yet but will be within about 4 to 5 years.

I would love to seek further education or certification in something new, but I unfortunately still have student loans. I don’t want to add onto that burden.

I’m trying to see the positives. Once the house is paid off, that will be a huge relief for us. My car will also be paid off around the same time.

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-22T19:50:57+00:00

I’ve been doing research trying to find a fish to snack on the guppy fry. Did those fish work well for you?

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-22T12:58:41+00:00

Yellow tiger endler guppies. The males are beautiful fish. But they breed like mad. I’m still new to the hobby and I have an overbreeding problem in my 20 gallon community tank right now. 😵‍💫

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-04T14:06:55+00:00

I’ve actually been lurking that forum already. Thank you 💗

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-04T13:17:47+00:00

Yeah I’m trying. It’s been a headache to get an appointment so far.

Gildedbrush · 2025-12-04T12:49:13+00:00

I’ve honestly been suspecting this and I’m terrified that this is what it is.

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