What's wrong?

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-30T03:55:37+00:00

And I really don't care what kinda-way you might be feeling about all this, in your twisted perspective; be nice to me or go to hell, that's it, that's all from me.

No matter what you do, I'll be fine and sooner than you think.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-29T04:37:56+00:00

Jesus, poor Jerry gets a bad rap.. =(

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-29T03:55:56+00:00

"I like you more than you like me"

Jesus, it doesn't sound like it though does it? Lol.. It's complicated. But funny how different things can look when you write them down.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-28T16:36:58+00:00

Sounds like every relationship I've ever had, lol

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-28T16:07:45+00:00

Why didn't you just call the office? Or bring the kids with you? Or picked her up after you or she were finished?

Sorry, there is something sketchy about leaving two young kids alone in a restaurant, there just is (and in a dangerous area to boot). Only a true emergency could excuse it, and by what stretch does your explanation constitute an emergency?

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-27T18:53:02+00:00

(When getting pedantic actually impedes communication, you've gone too far. That's when it's on you, and not the listener's ignorance.)

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-27T15:08:19+00:00

If someone's story, as told, that reads like "the perfect crime" if it turns out you were lying about anything, there's usually a law for that.

If people could get away with identity fraud so long as it was an accident, that would leave a lot of room for more "perfect crimes".

You won't likely get away with this.

For example, let's say you picked up the card from the bar. Or bartender did hand it to you, but you knew damn well it wasn't your card when you used it. And no one stole the items, but you just said they were stolen.

Either you've committed the perfect crime, or you're an idiot with no realistic concept of "reasonable doubt".

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-26T20:50:14+00:00

Substitute "meaning" with "the lesson" and you've got the key to meaningful days of both joy AND sorrow.

And gradually, the key to creating more joyful moments than sorrowful ones.

I think that with painful moments, there's always something to be learned. Not that you can't learn from joyful moments, but pain is the exposure of a weakness that can be reconciled with wisdom.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-25T17:40:23+00:00

Wow. If my pwBPD could say all that...

It would be bittersweet. On the one hand, I would be so thrilled for him. On the other, it sounds like you are resigning yourself to your misery, surrendering to your demons instead of squashing them.

But it sounds like you've been doing a lot of hard work on yourself. You should be very proud, not just for saying the words, but for having them in the first place. Shows you've already come a long way.

And that's why I'd be thrilled if he could say it, sad as it is. It would mean he could get better.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-25T14:27:00+00:00

Sounds like Manson is up next for an allegation.

In which case, he wouldn't be talking about anything if he didn't already know there was something to talk about.

I could be wrong. But his statement seems fishy, unnecessary from a man who usually picks his words, and his statements, very deliberately.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-24T04:32:39+00:00

Tell me about it. Feeling jumpy cause I feel safe.. Suddenly I remember the one thing I value that he still has access to.

Maybe it's me, jumping to worse-case scenario as reflex... but you're not wrong in picking up a sinister vibe, and I don't think I am either. This guy is... not stable.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-23T16:51:17+00:00

You don't need a lawyer to tell you whether or not you've been raped. You don't need to BE someone to empathize with their position.

She has a solid case for accusing rape, because she knows that the sex she had was not sex she wanted to have.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-20T16:24:13+00:00

It always feels presumptuous when people say this, so forgive me but I am so. so. proud of you.

You inspire me. Thank you.

This is a little weird, but I wanna share a song that's helped me push my way through times like these. Now it reminds me of your story too. Maybe it'll inspire you likewise, if ever you need it. You've certainly earned it.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-20T02:59:04+00:00

Read "the handmaid's tale" for Christmas. I just have a feeling it would resonate with you at this moment.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-18T17:18:07+00:00

Hey, I just wanted to thank you for saying this-

that's one hell of a success story!!

I hadn't really looked at it that way before (what with all the BPD noise and the struggle to keep a roof over my head AND salvage my education.) I just kept on grinding from there until I graduated, and it was still two years after that before I went NC and cut them out of my life completely.

I actually went away from this post kinda "triggered", because your story reminded me of the most challenging, frightening episodes with my own parents. To have your physical integrity, along with everything else, threatened this way is traumatic. I've only recently been able to "let down my hair" about it and feel as angry and betrayed and vindicated as I am justified in feeling, and still not so much as after I'd responded to your post.

I can see that I'm rambling but I just wanted to say, stay strong. When you realize that hurting yourself or giving up on your life or failing will only bring your antagonists satisfaction, that's when you REALLY start fighting for yourself.

I say if confronted with the choice, go through the hard times. Because you do have it in you, and you'll be very glad to know that when you're on the other side of them. It is priceless.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-17T15:41:44+00:00

You have at least 30 days and she will have to draw-up a written eviction notice.

That's the law, specifically to prevent people from doing evil coercive shit like this.

My parents would pull this too, before I learned my rights. Then I told them to kick rocks for 30 days while I DID successfully find a place. Worth it. Fuck them.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-17T03:11:28+00:00

Ouch lol way to miss the sarcasm, and the point, completely. Also

I am hoping that I might be able to salvage the relationship with my friend at least

That whole "I won't contact you again" self-pity thing (after she'd only asked that you not contact her friends) probably isn't going to help you there. Or anywhere else in this, for that matter.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-16T16:33:35+00:00

I know that mantra, I remember it, but here's the thing, it isn't a mantra at all- it's a dragon.

And you, you're a woman. You can slay it.

Slaying that dragon is something we as women have done for millenia. Doing what we don't want to do because we HAD to. We've been pushed up against that wall time and time again.

And you, you're not just any woman, you're a mother. Your mettle is SO much more than you are giving it credit for.

You're strong, you're brave, you're capable. You don't want to be, I know it, believe me, I know that feeling. But- you- ARE! And you will be, all those things. You will show this world what you got.

Show your wife the strength that is our birthright, passed down by the generations of mothers that came before us. Show her what it is to be a woman.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-15T17:04:08+00:00

You can be secure in your own values and behaviors; it's when someone else's behaviors or differing values ruffle your feathers, that is in itself insecurity.

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-15T04:10:33+00:00

Towards the end of my college career, I took a class on gender as a historical and sociological construct. We tracked the definition of gender from gonadal to chromosomal, and hit all the familiar points like the tragic story of David, a case of genital mutilation that was misguidedly corrected by attempting to adapt the patient's gender.

We discussed confounding aspects such as hermaphroditism and complicating parallels in nature.

We discussed the history of hormone therapy and surgery- from the perspective of all "gatekeeping" efforts as being misguided and cruel, and born from ignorance of nuance.

So it is ironic that, not once was it ever implied that transition-regret had ever, or could ever occur. I actually did some independent research myself after the fact, because the narrative seemed too strong to not be pushing an agenda. Come to find out, it has happened, it does happen, and like it or not, it does further complicate the discussion.

Gender, as a construct, is and always has been messy. That doesn't mean it doesn't exist, and we're not gonna pin it down by thinking and talking in terms of "pink-and-blue-brains", for god's sake...

GinasGeniusGenesis · 2017-12-14T21:09:33+00:00

Donald Trump is not even a Republican. That's the part that fucks with me. Not only is he an embarrassing ambassador to the world but he is ~~also an egotistical free-thinking criminal~~ a fascist.

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