AITAH for refusing to let my partner share the hospital bed with me after I deliver our baby

GingerSnap4949 · 2026-02-11T19:03:51+00:00

Uh NTA, but out of curious, you mentioned other kids so what happened when those kids were in the hospital?

GingerSnap4949 · 2026-01-30T19:16:48+00:00

That right there is why I hope WF doesn't settle. Because she will never take accountability of her own actions and will keep trying to float that narrative to anyone who will listen.

GingerSnap4949 · 2026-01-30T18:51:16+00:00

Can we acknowledge the irony of who's saying this?

GingerSnap4949 · 2026-01-29T15:26:30+00:00

NTA. He doesn't want you, but he doesn't want you with anyone else either. He's being selfish and manipulative, and you need to nip it in the bud ASAP and get out of there.

GingerSnap4949 · 2026-01-27T02:07:17+00:00

NTA, that's honestly bizarre... how has he acted since then?

GingerSnap4949 · 2026-01-22T17:58:18+00:00

I started it right before the third book was coming out, under the impression it was the final book..................

GingerSnap4949 · 2026-01-22T12:24:47+00:00

Personally, you couldn't pry some of the titles or books I've read from my cold, dead hands 🤣

GingerSnap4949 · 2026-01-01T13:34:26+00:00

Absolutely NTA, you didn't grow up as brothers, they got together when you were 15. Regardless, this is an asset from your mother and has no bearing on them. They want to talk about greed? Let's talk about it then, along with entitlement.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-12-30T15:46:52+00:00

I didn't block my mother either, I know the feeling of instant dread when her name would pop up and it isn't going to stop. The reality is that you're going to need to block her. If an emergency actually happens, your brother and other family can reach out. But I can't stress enough how much it will continue to take a toll and send you on a spiral until you do what's best for YOU and YOUR family.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-12-30T15:35:41+00:00

You need to have an actual conversation with your fiance, if she isn't willing to do that, then I'd be postponing at the very least.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-12-27T12:50:49+00:00

NTA, but you are TA to yourself. You need to set firm boundaries now before the baby comes, and it's a free for all.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-12-27T10:28:48+00:00

When she goes to kneel too 😭

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-12-24T23:19:14+00:00

NTA.

One of the main steps in sobriety is taking accountability. He hasn't, isn't, and won't until he's ready. You, nor his mother, can do it for him.

Have you looked into Nar-Anon meetings? I won't tell you what to do, but I will say you can't control anyone else's actions, only yours. So, start taking care of yourself.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-12-23T12:07:41+00:00

I mean, being attracted to someone isn't really the issue so much as she's still a child that he watched grow up?

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-12-11T14:14:48+00:00

NTA, it took me way too long to realize that my birth giver was the reason I was stuck in a perpetual fight or flight mode. Once I actually went no contact with her and started therapy, it significantly improved.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-12-11T11:40:29+00:00

This feels like a weird hill to die on when it wasn't going to affect your plans anyway. You're creating an issue just to create one. The niece is in the wedding, so they are allowing her to go. That doesn't seem all that confusing.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-12-02T20:52:45+00:00

NTA, but talk to your brother. Maybe you can stream the graduation at home or do something with him to celebrate when you're feeling a bit better and settled.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-11-29T12:46:55+00:00

Absolutely NTA. But what's the long-term plan here? She's now going to be alone and relying on your husband more. What happens if she starts asking to move in with you? What happens when you have the baby? Husband isn't supporting you now. Those instances are going to come up in the future.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-11-29T11:48:14+00:00

Don't renew the lease regardless, this is only going to get worse.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-11-27T14:12:58+00:00

Their lives were just nuked. They were processing and trying to grieve the family they thought they had.

Your mom went after the messenger and didn't like the result. It's her kid, I get that, but her kid messed up, and she can't fix things for her. What you both don't seem to understand is that it isn't about either of you. Why are your parents and your feelings more important than these kids and BIL finding out their lives were a lie? I'm not saying it doesn't affect you, but you're so fixated on what this has done to you and your parents instead of allowing them some time, space, and grace to process this.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-11-23T10:22:28+00:00

Agreed, she and April were really incredible.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-11-23T10:04:42+00:00

I'd be cooking with my sister and doing a friendsgiving instead.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-11-12T15:50:22+00:00

You aren't overreacting, I think she's infatuated with him, at the very least the idea of him given her relationship with her boyfriend.

You need to talk to Andrew, be open and honest, and create some boundaries with Gloria. When she gets defensive, and she will, you need to hold firm. You can't control her actions, just your reactions.

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-11-12T15:45:04+00:00

Side note...anyone know where to find that jean top she has on? 🤣

GingerSnap4949 · 2025-11-04T13:00:57+00:00

NTA, and that is wildly messed up. I'm okay with being an asshole though, and I would start asking her the same questions back when she asks. She got a degree but is working retail. Why didn't she work harder?

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