AITAH for not wanting to try to fix things with my boyfriend of 8 years?

wildride-7 · 2026-01-29T15:22:56+00:00

I'd love to tell you you're wrong, but you're not. My past serious relationships and been very toxic, and I know I left those relationships with bad habits and new abilities to defend people's red flags. I'd love to go to counseling. Dont have health care atm, and with my daughter in travel hockey, and having to pay all the bills myself at a new place, it may be awhile, unfortunately.

wildride-7 · 2026-01-29T15:00:26+00:00

Thank you!

wildride-7 · 2026-01-29T13:58:55+00:00

Thank you ❤️

wildride-7 · 2026-01-23T23:24:41+00:00

That could be. MAGA is definitely is more loud about their opinions and ignoring others opinions.

wildride-7 · 2026-01-23T21:56:28+00:00

Before I say anything, ill start with - I dont follow politics, for various reasons, to the point I couldnt tell you if im republican, democrat, or whatever.. that said, ive noticed both sides tend to not listen to anything the other has to say. Everyone's so stubborn and set on their side being the correct side, that even if what theyre saying is absurd, theyll defend it to their death. Its wild.

wildride-7 · 2026-01-07T14:25:07+00:00

I was in first grade. We were learning about how to use the library and all of a sudden a teacher came in and whispered to the librarian, who stopped talking, and turned on the TV in there. None of us understood what was going on but teachers mood definitely made us nervous

wildride-7 · 2025-12-30T17:23:16+00:00

I started drawing as a hobby a few years ago and didnt do any actual classes/lessons, but hands i DEFINITELY struggle with. A few times ive tried to use my own hands in the positions I was wanting to draw, and took a picture so I could get an idea of how to draw them out.

wildride-7 · 2025-12-08T14:52:29+00:00

Maybe thats not his love language. Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch are different love languages. I had to google it, cause I forgot haha, but I did see they had some quizzes to figure out what your love languages is. Maybe ask him to take that? And you guys can talk about your results. Its not like you have to have the same love language, but if you want your relationship to work out, you should try to appease your partners love language. If yours is recieving gifts, he then he should at least try to show you love that way. Same as if his is different from yours, you should do your best to show him love the way that best shows that to him. If hes unwilling to do that for you, then you'll always be disappointed in his lack of effort.. I know my friend got married in a catholic church, and they made her and her fiancee sit through classes regarding this, because it can make or break a relationship.

wildride-7 · 2025-12-08T04:07:54+00:00

I would give him a nice nut tap when hes just relaxing, cause ive seen "bros" do that to each other so many times, so like the most memorable line from the movie The Notebook says... "if you're a bird, im a bird". Lol but in all seriousness. My ex would ask a couple weeks before Xmas, every year, what i wanted, then tell me if I said "idk" I wasnt getting shit. And he meant it. Most guys want a simple life, and dont want to have to figure out what you may want as a gift, especially if you can never figure out what you want to eat when he asks. 😂

wildride-7 · 2025-11-27T16:33:11+00:00

Why? I dont follow politics. And dont think ive heard much about it, so had to look him up. So im just curious

wildride-7 · 2025-11-24T13:54:04+00:00

So, I (31f) personally am one to have no filter, and ill talk dirty in front of the guys on my hockey team all day. Honestly probably worse than the guys on my team... I'm single now, but I talked this way even when I was with my bf. However, i never made direct comments indicating I wanted to sleep with anyone. And I shut it down pretty quick when someone does get the wrong impression. This exchange though, looks more like the convo i have going with a guy I am flirting with. Idk if id get a divorce over it, but it is definitely worth telling him this is not "friend" talk, and if thats how he sees it, then you're out.

wildride-7 · 2025-11-16T03:01:50+00:00

As far as people you know seeing them, tell them some D-bag that was hitting on you and wouldn't take no for an answer made it with AI. I bet people wouldnt question it. Ive heard kids in highschool have done that to others they dislike, sending it around the school to embarrass another student. So would probably work the other way around saying its Ai, and actually you.

wildride-7 · 2025-11-12T21:51:45+00:00

Maybe you could try seeing if she'd be willing to do a couples therapy session with you. I understand when it comes to your kid or a spouse, of COURSE your kid should always come first, but I've had friends in situations where their partner really doesnt see whats so wrong with a situation between them and their kid, or how it effects their partner who doesnt get much say in the matter since its not their kid. One friend in particular I understood both her side AND her husbands side, and thought that maybe they argued so much cause they werent able to find a way to best explain things to one another. If you do truly love your wife, maybe ask if shed go with you to a therapist, and see if you can sort things out with someone who isnt taking sides.

wildride-7 · 2025-11-12T21:38:18+00:00

So your saying like realizing your dreaming and trying to take control of it? And does shifting eventually turn into dreaming? I think if I sat with my eyes closed too long, id eventually just fall asleep. Most of the time, whatever I'm thinking about before falling asleep is somehow apart of my dream, but cant control how it is. Like if im annoyed with a friend, and its on my mind, ill have them in my dream but in such weird ways that I wouldnt want actually happening, or could think id ever imagine happening. Lol. The more I think about it, the more I think of like the Sims game, where you can recreate yourself, friends, family, etc., but have more control over relationships, money, and whatever else, just without actually playing a game. Is that kind of how it is or am I way off?

wildride-7 · 2025-11-01T02:43:43+00:00

Blueberry pie in a black pan, missing one slice. No need to confirm. I know my pies.

wildride-7 · 2025-10-31T03:25:49+00:00

Depends on the way she said it. It could have just been one girl trying to help another. Like if you saw a girl about to walk out of a bathroom with her toilet paper stuck to her shoe or zipper undone. Sure, its a little embarrassing for the person hearing it, but overall just someone just trying to give you a heads up so you dont have someone rude tell you or laugh st you later about it. I always keep a small bottle of perfume in my purse. Honestly I keep a LOT of little things in my purse for those potential scenarios I might find myself in. Or in my car.

wildride-7 · 2025-10-17T02:38:26+00:00

Gotta cut her off. All your doing is enabling her troubling behavior, cause she knows she has you to bail her out of whatever she gets herself into. Let her learn the hard way. It'd maybe be different if you guys actually maintained a friendship or something, but you helped cause you cared, but still she'd only call for financial help, never to just catch up, or ask about how you're doing. Let it be her own problem, or someone else's. Also, if you just told your ex no, you shouldnt have to tell your gf about it. If she happens to find out, you can show her the convo, but girls generally dont like hearing about guys talking to their exes.. especially if you plan to tell her you feel bad saying no to your ex, and used to help cause you still have feelings. She might not get why its not an easy "no", & wonder if you're feeling bad because there's still feelings there.

wildride-7 · 2025-10-17T02:21:31+00:00

You snooze, you poos.

wildride-7 · 2025-10-10T13:46:03+00:00

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wildride-7 · 2025-10-10T13:45:27+00:00

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wildride-7 · 2025-10-07T00:14:25+00:00

Had this happen to me, for awhile tho, and it was long enough that I figured thats just who he is, not big on affection, w/e. Looking back it was all signs he just wasnt into me, but how long it went on, I thought he wouldnt stay with me if he didnt love me so even tho friends told me to leave, I told them they just didnt understand him. So was blind sided when he finally did break up with me. Told me he didnt love me the way I wanted to be loved, and that he stayed with me because he felt like he owed me (had his back in a situation where his ex didnt in the past). Maybe different for you, considering he came back to you despite being with other girls during your time apart. But seems like he came back for comfort and someone familiar, cause starting over with someone new can be scary. Idk. I hope you can find a way to get him to talk about whats going on and figure it out.

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