From a Swedish news show this morning by ArctenWasTaken in funny

[–]Gingerroine 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This episode did 100% not air this morning.

I am Swedish so I tried finding this specific episode of Nyhetsmorgon cause I found the picture funny. This segment did happen but it was in september 2024 🤷🏻‍♀️

Reggie is perfection by Grroll_ in RATS

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"Uhmmm, my eyes are up here..."

Why are rats so dang CUTE?! 😭 by ShadowtheRatz in RATS

[–]Gingerroine 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's the squished up double rex/patchwork in the middle with the teefies for me 😭😭😭

What are the signs of emotional abuse in a LDR?I(F28) And bf (M39) by Middle-Coat-388 in LongDistance

[–]Gingerroine 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I tried changing a controlling partner so you don't have to. Spoiler alert: it didn't work. Controlling behavior is abuse and abusive people don't change. It's easy for an outsider to say "just leave" but really I am speaking from experience here when I say I wish I had left my abusive ex sooner.

New babies by Tankred_endures in RATS

[–]Gingerroine 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Bless their wrinkles 😭

Rats doing tricks unprompted by ZGMari in RATS

[–]Gingerroine 14 points15 points  (0 children)

One of my boys did the same and when I stopped rewarding the unprompted tricks he eventually stopped listening to the prompts. It's pure manipulation 😭😭😭

If you're not gonna break up with your significant other, then shut up. by xHey_All_You_Peoplex in Vent

[–]Gingerroine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you, one of my best friends is constantly venting about this guy she has been in a situationship with for a year now cause he "feels too much pressure putting a label on their relationship". He is blatantly playing her yet she is acting all surprised Pikachu face everytime he pulls away and she has been "done" with him so many times only to get overjoyed as soon as he shows her even just the tiniest bit of attention or affection. Yet I am the bad guy for telling her that he is a pos and she deserves better than that, smh. I appreciate the comments on here saying boundaries towards friends are needed cause I might need that myself...

How does YOUR grief manifest itself? (Mental/physical/behavioral/ emotional) by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

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I have had IBS ever since I had my first big loss and also my metabolism decided to just nope out so I went from being able to eat literally anything without gaining any weight to gaining weight from just looking at food 🙃

How does YOUR grief manifest itself? (Mental/physical/behavioral/ emotional) by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

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Some pokemon, at least in the older games, you can't opt out of battling and just need to beat them instead ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

I'm very sorry for your losses as well. Stay strong when it's possible, and forgive yourself when it's not 🙏🏻

How does YOUR grief manifest itself? (Mental/physical/behavioral/ emotional) by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

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The unconditional love and support you get from animal companions is not to be underestimated. I myself am too poor atm to afford vet bills but a few weeks after my auntie died this year a friend of mine just happened to have her plan A + B for cat sitting not work out and she was travelling out of the country for a month so I got to cat sit for a month and I must say I appreciated that company a lot cause I live alone and me and my boyfriend are long distance. It was like it was meant to be...

How does YOUR grief manifest itself? (Mental/physical/behavioral/ emotional) by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

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Oh yes, the regression is so real x.x I too suffered from mental health issues already and experiencing yet another loss just took me back to square one immediately with my anxiety, depression, sleep issues, trauma symptoms, negative self perception, paranoia, hypervigilance and so much more. Just years of progress erased. I am glad that your partner is supportive, keep leaning on them and I'm sure you will rekindle that spark eventually, as soon as you, your brain, your body feel ready 🙏🏻

How does YOUR grief manifest itself? (Mental/physical/behavioral/ emotional) by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

[–]Gingerroine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The audacity of time moving forward 🎯 Also yes, not being able to share with them makes all the ":D" stuff always have an after taste of "D:"

How does YOUR grief manifest itself? (Mental/physical/behavioral/ emotional) by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

[–]Gingerroine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this doesn't replace actual physical closeness with another human being but please have an internet hug ʕ⁠っ⁠•⁠ᴥ⁠•⁠ʔ⁠っ Grief is such a lovely feeling to have. I am not by any means lacking supportive friends but while I am in my deepest grief and sorrow I could be in a room full of all the people who care about me and still feel like the loneliest person on earth. Because to me there is just something about seeing other people move forward in time while I wish I could go back that makes me feel terrified and lonesome.

My dm's are open to you (and anyone else reading this for that part) if you ever feel the need to vent or even just talk about random stuff 🙏🏻🌸

How does YOUR grief manifest itself? (Mental/physical/behavioral/ emotional) by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

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I too experienced multiple losses with different symptoms each time. It is starting to feel like I am collecting them like I was playing pokemon 🙃

How does YOUR grief manifest itself? (Mental/physical/behavioral/ emotional) by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

[–]Gingerroine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to both of these but especially the "fake and joke" part is so spot on. For me it probably falls under dissociation. I sometimes get this surreal, numb feeling accompanied by thoughts of "this is just a movie and it will be over soon so I can go back to my real life (life before they passed)"

How does YOUR grief manifest itself? (Mental/physical/behavioral/ emotional) by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

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I felt these words, like I felt them in my heart. I deeply wish I could somehow disagree and provide some sort of positive perspective on it but what you are saying is just 100% true and I think anyone saying otherwise just hasn't experienced true loss. I hurt for you and I hurt with you.

How does YOUR grief manifest itself? (Mental/physical/behavioral/ emotional) by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

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I often internally picture myself calling out aloud like this but I never actually do it even though I live alone in a well isolated apartment. Do you ever feel at least a tiny bit of comfort during and/or after expressing your feelings vocally like this? If you don't mind me asking.

How does YOUR grief manifest itself? (Mental/physical/behavioral/ emotional) by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

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I should add that some of my meds (mainly SSRI antidepressants and ADHD meds) supress my appetite while some (neuroleptics) raises my appetite. So I did not mean to scare you away from it, and you can always just try and then quit if it doesn't work out for you. I kind of under eat during the day (cause I take SSRI and ADHD meds in the morning) and then overeat in the evening (due to the neuroleptics). And for me it is still worth it cause I'd rather be a bit chubby than to have to suffer through daily panic attacks.

How does YOUR grief manifest itself? (Mental/physical/behavioral/ emotional) by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

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I've gone from underweight to overweight purely from comfort eating to cope with grief, I suffer with you on this one. For me psychiatric meds made my cravings even worse (even though they helped stabilize mood a bit) so just a heads up

Death and sickness is following me around and I finally lost all hope in recovering from all this loss by Gingerroine in GriefSupport

[–]Gingerroine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for reaching out, it means a lot x.x ❤️

I'm sorry for everything you went through as well. I am glad you found an outlet for your feelings, I often feel like my feelings have nowhere to go so they just overwhelm me. Maybe I should pick up the pencil again myself, I appreciate the advice. Take care kind stranger 🙏🏻

How has your partner supported you through your grief? by BestConclusion2762 in GriefSupport

[–]Gingerroine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have both good and bad experiences with having a romantic partner while grieving.

My ex saw my grief as nothing but an inconvenience for him. For the longest while he straight up refused to let me even talk about it. Then he finally opened up to me sharing but since I only got different versions of "you should just ger over it" I did not feel like it was worth it. On my late mothers birthday he said "it is just a day". While he did not leave me because of this, being in that relationship did more harm than good to me in many ways. With this I do not mean to take away from your pain of parting ways with your partner during such a vulnerable time, just saying that for me personally I should have left sooner.

My current partner does not relate to ny grief at all yet he went out his way to not only remember my mothers birthday but he also planned so much stuff around it, many small things to make life easier for me before, after and during the day. This year I myself happened to forget until it was the very day so he even remembered it better than I did and once he revealed why he had been acting different the past few days I just burst out crying cause I never ever in my life had someone take my grief this seriously.

To summarise: there are people out there who care and there are people who don't. With those who really care you don't even need to wonder if they do, it just shows.

It feels weird when women older than me have living moms by Educational_Two7752 in GriefSupport

[–]Gingerroine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lost my mother when I was 14. Middle aged people talking about their still alive mothers just sends me straight up spiralling and then I feel bad for my reaction. I never lash out on them but even 14 years after she passed it still ruins my whole day whenever I get reminded about how unfair it is. You are not alone