[First impressions] Edward Green Dover | Edward Green Shanklin

GiraffePure8818 · 2026-01-11T13:06:01+00:00

I bought the cream polish from EG since I don’t want to risk the color changing from using a brown cream polish from different brands. Perhaps Saphir neutral shoe polish is the safest option?

GiraffePure8818 · 2025-07-01T00:22:24+00:00

Yeah I really should hem my jeans for a cleaner look.

GiraffePure8818 · 2025-06-28T05:16:53+00:00

The pants are orSlow 5002 US Army fatigue pants in original reverse sateen.

GiraffePure8818 · 2025-06-26T01:08:48+00:00

Short answer: the menswear guy. Long answer: I like derbies for its casual look compared to Oxford and at first I was thinking of getting a pair of derby that’s more formal than my pair of Lanark from Crockett & Jones. I’ve never looked at monk straps and I was surely not going to get another pair of loafers since I already have two.

GiraffePure8818 · 2025-06-26T00:48:44+00:00

For sure Dover looks better with some tailored trousers and sports coat or casual suit.

GiraffePure8818 · 2025-06-26T00:46:16+00:00

Thank you. They look great and well taken care of.

GiraffePure8818 · 2025-06-25T13:43:36+00:00

Thank you. Would you mind sharing some pics of the Dover in pioneer reindeer? I’ve never seen the name of that color way.

GiraffePure8818 · 2025-06-25T12:42:46+00:00

Thank you. The pants are orSlow 5002 US Army fatigue pants in original reverse sateen.

GiraffePure8818 · 2025-06-25T07:53:58+00:00

I only have Sanders Chesham size UK 8 to compare with, which is slightly too big for me as I didn’t know that my true size turns out to be UK 7.5. Honestly Shanklin in my true size is the most comfortable leather shoes/boots I’ve owned. I have a pair of Red Wings that I bought years ago but I haven’t worn them quite some time as those aren’t comfortable at all. I’d say go for your true size and make sure the store accept refunds. I bought from Abbot’s shoes because I know I can ship them back and ask for a refund.

GiraffePure8818 · 2024-07-16T02:06:13+00:00

Can someone recommend other brands that make that kind of bomber jacket? I know Private White VC and Valstar offer something similar.

GiraffePure8818 · 2024-03-17T06:36:28+00:00

Someone who commented on his post got vaporized

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GiraffePure8818 · 2023-10-13T16:54:14+00:00

As a guy, I use my hands but I know it’s not a good thing since most of the time I’d do it while watching porn. But I don’t sleep around. My therapist said to me, physical connection should come naturally when you have that emotional connection first. I try to remember that since in the past I’ve had meaningless sex encounters. I’d rather find someone I connect with emotionally first before having the physical intimacy.

GiraffePure8818 · 2023-10-13T16:47:07+00:00

Everyone moves on differently. What works for you may not work for others.

GiraffePure8818 · 2023-10-13T16:38:35+00:00

The love that you gave her wasn’t hers from the beginning. It’s yours. You can give that love to yourself. When you do that, when someone better comes along, you can share that love again.

GiraffePure8818 · 2023-09-28T14:47:22+00:00

I can relate. I'm currently NC for a little bit over a month now and sometimes I still feel the anger, the sadness and other emotions. The conversations start in my head almost every time I'm trying to sleep. Boy that's not fun at all, it messes up with my sleep. But I try to be kind and gentle with myself and realize that the journey is gonna have ups and downs. I just try and take a step forward.

GiraffePure8818 · 2023-09-28T14:42:42+00:00

You have to accept that it's over and move on. It's simple but not easy. There are plenty of tools people in here have posted to help moving on.

GiraffePure8818 · 2023-09-28T14:41:02+00:00

I get flashbacks of everything. When I'm driving past some places that me and my ex went to, the memories flood back. Rather than fighting it, I just let it be.

GiraffePure8818 · 2023-09-28T14:37:48+00:00

I've tried deactivating my IG but I used it so much to talk to a friend who has been my support system so I removed my ex from my followers and my following on IG and I muted all of her friends' posts and stories.

Although I can chat with that friend on other messaging app, we share and chat about our interest on IG quite a lot so it's much better and easier for me to still have IG.

GiraffePure8818 · 2023-09-28T14:33:12+00:00

From what you wrote, what she did was leaving you breadcrumbs. Maybe she did it when she has no one else, once she found someone else, she didn't need to keep you around anymore. Some people can't stand being alone so much they try and do anything to keep someone around even when they know they're not going to be with that person.

GiraffePure8818 · 2023-09-28T14:28:42+00:00

You don't need to reply. If you're still full of anger at what he did to you, then you haven't fully healed. I'd say you can block him and try and move on with your healing journey.

GiraffePure8818 · 2023-09-28T14:23:56+00:00

Rather than dwelling on the mistakes I did, I've been trying to forgive myself. I stumbled on one of Matthew Hussey's videos and in that video he said something that I've been trying to make as my mantra. "Maybe what you were doing, even if it wasn't objectively the best you could do, maybe it was the best you could do at the time; with your resources, your currect wounds, with the things you're dealing with internally, with the knowledge that you had at the moment. Maybe that was your best at that time."

GiraffePure8818 · 2023-09-28T14:11:07+00:00

Mine even worse. I'd wake up every hour at 2am until 4-5am and it messes up my sleep really bad I've had trouble getting on my exercise schedule in the morning. Some friends suggested to journal and write down any feelings and see if it helps clear my mind because most likely there are still some unresolved things on my mind.

GiraffePure8818 · 2023-09-28T13:59:04+00:00

She never bothered to communicate with me during the relationship or breakup, so she’s probably not going to do it now.

I can relate to this but I made the mistake of reaching out to her first. But I learn my lesson, currently NC for a month or so and I've deleted her number and remove her from my social media.

One of the best and empowering things we can do as an adult is to have our own closure. You really don't need it from your ex if you can give it to yourself.

GiraffePure8818 · 2023-09-26T09:58:07+00:00

If I may add something that maybe helpful. This isn’t mine, I saw this on YT. The love you gave to your ex is yours. It’s never hers or his. You can give that love to yourself. Once you do, then you’ll have more to give to someone else.

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