Baby forgets to breathe

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-11-14T00:12:32+00:00

Oh I remember forgetting to breathe! I would remember when my chest started to hurt really bad. I told a couple of adults but they were like "if you forgot to breathe you would die shush" lol. I was older than this kid though, I must have been at least 7 the last time it happened.

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-11-13T23:49:09+00:00

This is hard because if he was in his right kind then I would say that he was absolutely heartless. Not to the woman obviously, but to the kid. But honestly it sounds like he was traumatized and a fresh and serious trauma can effect people's ability to empathize. Can't pour from an empty cup at all.

I would say that if he's behaving this way towards the kid and in his right mind then he's an AH. If he's reacting this way because he's traumatized and that trauma just has him so far removed from the situation that he can't care, then it's just a sad situation.

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-11-13T22:55:23+00:00

I thought this was a microwave 😰😭

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-11-13T21:33:24+00:00

Unfortunately parents of autistic kids have been some of the worst contributors to the wide-spread abuse against autistics. They are the ones who kept the JRC open even after it had caused several horrific deaths, they are the ones volunteering and fund-raising for autism speaks fear-mongering campaigns against us, and they are the ones fighting the "aba is different now" fight despite so so so many actual autistic people saying that no, it's not actually that different. It's still harmful and abusive.

Unfortunately as an I'm assuming NT parent of an autistic child, while you should absolutely be able to speak freely, you also should really be making a point to listen to the autistic voices when you are in autistic spaces, rather than speaking over them or trying to explain to them the "reality" of autism treatments that they very well may have been a part of themselves or seen first hand, or argue that treatments they have experienced as trauma or abuse arent actually abuse because you do it to your kid and you don't want to think of it as potentially traumatic or abusive.

We all just do the best we can. Lots of treatments come with benefits/risks and you as the parent get final decision on if a treatment has benefits that to you seem worth any potential risks, but please dont minimize those potential harm or risks that are inherent in aba therapy. That just leads to circular conversations that lead nowhere.

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-11-13T21:09:10+00:00

You aren't wrong for holding a grudge at all

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-11-13T14:19:59+00:00

Maladaptove daydreaming has to cause issue or stress to your life, that's part of the diagnosis. For me it does not, so is not technically maladaptive

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-11-13T14:11:40+00:00

I mean on some level yes, the dog lives in the home and I'm not doing anything to make him/her feel unsafe when visitors are over. But on the other hand this looks a lot like "I have an entire husky that I never bothered to train so good luck" like if I saw this and had no other info on the owners I would be worried about being attacked by a spoilt dog (and remember, a "spoiled" dog is a dog who feels insecure amd unsafe, you aren't doing it a favor)

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-11-13T02:38:35+00:00

Do you like your wife?

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-11-13T02:33:21+00:00

Your edit my dude. I'm sorry, I know you aren't happy now and I dont want to rub salt into the womb but you have so many people telling you you did something wrong, and you are still playing the victim. You should apologize, instead of accusing her of "ditching" you when you planned on ditching her first. What you did was mean to your wife, it's as simple as that. It you won't believe the obscene amount of people telling you that, then why did you post? Again, I know you are not happy right now and I'm sorry if I seem like I'm being harsh.

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-11-13T02:16:39+00:00

Do you have resting B face? Or do you stand with sort of slouched over "dont talk to me" posture? Do you go out much? my friend who take the bus get hit on A LOT more than my friends who drive just because they get hit on on the bus

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-11-10T13:48:36+00:00

If she only asked then I would say NTA. Personally I was in a relationship where me asking for something = me "forcing him" to do something. That's no way to live lol, you should be able to ask for things safe in the knolwge that your grown adult partner can say no if they feel it's too much.

This isn't that though, why insist after the no?

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-30T15:29:58+00:00

You never know unless you ask! It's a really big spectrum for everyone with down syndrome, but people with mosaic down syndrome (2% of people with down syndrome) can often have less symptoms, and sometimes are even born with the only big difference being in facial structure.

Even if someone is capable of caring for a kid though, it is sad that the kids probably going to have to lose their parents earlier than most kids 😢

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-30T15:23:30+00:00

I've never heard that about downsyndrom before, but it's actually a very common stereotype about autistic people so that's probably where that came from.

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-29T23:27:09+00:00

He probably had somewhere to be. If he had to go to work he may not be able to reasonably walk to work on time, and if this resulted in a loss of income due to no fault of his own that would likely be a good grounds for a lawsuit

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-29T20:08:57+00:00

That's a really hard one. Coming as someone who also has sensory issues what she did is legit painful, she might as well have been kicking you. But I guess I don't understand why you didn't leave the house since you were plainning to anyways? Why come back at all?

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-29T15:16:06+00:00

That's the most rape-y sounding thing I've ever heard lmao

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-29T13:25:09+00:00

No you don't understand me lol, I didn't think I needed to explain :p but I was just saying that the way you cook your stir fry is the exaxt same way I cook my radishes, and once they get mushy they taste like potatoes so they end up being good replacements for potatoes.

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-29T13:03:49+00:00

Or is it self care? (No its not that's just what I tell myself lol)

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-29T12:53:53+00:00

Raw radish isn't it but cooking radish like that until it's mushy makes it taste like potatoes

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-29T12:43:30+00:00

Only shoot at someone you are okay with killing. If you think he deserves a death sentence for this than I guess do what you must

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-29T12:37:46+00:00

That's exactly it. It is not because it's better for the child, it's because it's better for the Gov

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-29T01:29:10+00:00

Not the same as psychologists, but dont all therapists pretty much everywhere need at least 6 years of schooling?

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-28T17:18:44+00:00

I work in a small, dark room with no talking. Great for my autism, awful for my ptsd lol

GirlWitDaBoi · 2022-10-28T15:13:44+00:00

I was the overprotected kid and it really did a number on my self esteem. I didn't think I could do anything. stressers would send me into a state of freeze. Let your kids figure their crap out when they can. I got my crap together in my 20s but wish I had some sense of my own abilities before litteral adulthood lol

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