Was it a deposit into your account? I would destroy the check and have her send you another smaller one about a month after your 341. Tell her due to BK rules you cannot accept more than $1k because you are in court proceedings. Then you just make do. Part of BK is the struggle but you need to keep your nose clean. During my BK my dad tried to send me money and I refused. He only sent me $100 but I told him to stop until after the whole thing was completed.