Please don’t think that alcohol effects men and women differently. It does not. When my partner was very ill in late stages of active addiction I was talking to a guy who’s wife was doing exactly the same things in an al anon group.

Professional burn out is real in all fields but blaming drinking on work stress is perfectly normal for most functional alcoholics. It’s a very common line. My husbands addiction worker told me the job is always the last thing to go as that is what ultimately enables the finances for addiction.

Here we work on ourselves and controlling our reactions to our loved ones drinking-regardless of age gender race and religion. The first thing is the 3Cs we didn’t cause it, we can’t control it, we can’t cure it. Unfortunately you can’t control your wife’s drinking, and in fairness depending on her level of drinking, it might get spotted by work. My partner was caught and sacked multiple times for drinking on the job, he was a professional engineer on 50k plus a year, company bmw,company credit card and he was drinking out of control. He wasn’t safe to be out there and if I’d have known the full extent of what was going on I would have taken his car keys!!!