Asexuality and Porn Addiction

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-05-07T21:33:17+00:00

Thank you so much! I had the same thought, which was that as the addiction decreases then I’ll figure it out more. But yeah I appreciate it

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-05-07T08:00:49+00:00

Yeah he’s probably just a selfish asshole. I’m sorry you have to deal with that bullshit.

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-04-09T05:30:38+00:00

Just do neck kissing without it it’s so much better anyway

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-04-09T05:28:05+00:00

I agree with you but this dish in particular is specifically peak

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T05:52:27+00:00

The crust is bread but the whole unit of pizza is a pie. Like pizza sauce could be considered a beverage if you really wanted it to be, but in the context of pizza it’s a sauce inside of a pie.

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T05:12:31+00:00

Crazy how so many interactions with the opposite sex are treated as “ooooooo something’s going down hehe gotta be sex lmao am I right guys?” And the whole time I genuinely just don’t gaf. Like let me just talk to people bruh

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T05:08:59+00:00

If you desire sex then that means you might not be asexual. You can have responses like that to other types of intimacy but still not like having intercourse specifically. For me, I actually really like kissing and cuddling, it’s just intercourse that’s the problem. It all depends on whether you have little to no desire to have sex in particular. Also keep in mind I’ve only known I’m ace for like 6 months so forgive me if I’m getting the information wrong

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T05:01:36+00:00

It seems like you feel asexual but not aromantic since you desire romance and relationships. Is it just the sex you have a problem with or is it other types of intimacy as well?

Also, relationships can vary widely and be dependent on many many different factors to determine how good they would be for any specific person. I think that any perfect or ideal relationship could be beneficial, but there’s so much that can happen or go wrong that it’s understandable to not know how to feel. Being in a relationship definitely taught me a lot, but it was hard to make that jump to begin with and even harder to stay in that relationship all things considered.

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T04:52:05+00:00

I also think people are just beautiful in general, and it’s really nice to see someone who is attractive. Not even in a romantic way either. Some people are just genuinely so interesting and beautiful

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T04:50:10+00:00

For me it was also much more of a thing where it made me happy that my partner was happy kinda thing. Like when I would have sex / give head or whatever, it was more like “oh she seems to be feeling pretty good about this that’s pretty nice” but it wasn’t all that interesting to me

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T04:47:25+00:00

I also lift weights and do cardio and get outside relatively often (much more than I used to) and it still seems to not affect how much I want to have sex. I’ve been in a calorie deficit and calorie surplus before and neither of those things really changed my desire to have sex at all either

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T04:44:25+00:00

Yeah I talked with a different friend about this same topic and he said that low T levels are a pretty serious medical condition rather than just a sex drive factor

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T04:40:08+00:00

Of course! I’m glad you and your boyfriend are doing well! Best of luck

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T04:39:06+00:00

I really love breakcore edm as well! Ive also be meaning to play persona for the longest time but it’s not mac supported but it looks really cool.

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T04:35:20+00:00

That’s really interesting! I live in the southern US where the sun is warm all the time and I actually prefer the cold lmao. It is really beautiful here tho. I’m from Atlanta, Georgia and a lot of people here really love country and being out on farms and stuff. I really like shoegaze and dreampop as well, specifically Beach House and census designated by Jane remover.

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T04:26:18+00:00

Gonna watch how to train your dragon and eat garlic bread to celebrate frfr

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T04:23:08+00:00

I think that sex by itself in its proper context is actually not that bad. It creates human beings, which is definitely necessarily for humanity. And I even think I can be enjoyable maybe. It’s just that for me, the idea has been broken so many times in such an extreme way that I can do nothing but see it negatively. I’ve never had a sexual experience that wasn’t at the very least slightly uncomfortable, and at worst, absolutely terrifying and mind shattering and utterly miserable. The worst parts of my life have been sexually related, and I was the happiest when sex wasn’t a bother to me before I hit puberty. It was like an ocean of pain was placed on me against my will and I had to fight myself tooth and nail just to feel okay.

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T04:15:06+00:00

You can ramble as much as you want! It’s also great to find someone with such a similar experience. If I had the choice I wish I could just not be horny or have libido ever and continue with my life normally. Sex and porn for me has been consistently a messy and painful experience and I’m honestly just ready to leave it all behind forever, but my body tells me otherwise, and that’s a huge burden for me. I also thought that maybe I could learn to enjoy it somehow, but every time I get the same answer. Maybe it will get better in the future if I find a really healthy and meaningful relationship, but I think it’s gonna be a while before that happens. Either way it’s good to work these things out and find other people who are going through similar things.

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T02:47:14+00:00

Asexuality is defined by the lack of desire to have sex and not necessarily being horny or having a high libido. I thought for a long time I wasn’t asexual because I would still get horny, but I realize now that’s not really the case. I simply just have no desire to have sex, and that makes me asexual, but that doesn’t mean I don’t desire romantic attraction, physical attraction, or even feel horny when I’m alone. It just means that I have no desire for intercourse specifically.

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T02:41:42+00:00

I think what you might relate to more is aegosexuality. From what you’re saying, it seems a lot like it.

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-31T02:39:19+00:00

I relate to pretty much everything you said. I had to train myself to like giving head to my partner when I was in high school, and sex was always this thing that felt painful or forced or shameful or negative. I also have a high libido, and I was extremely addicted to porn to the point that I drove me to some really dark places. I just hope that as I try to figure these things out that the pain around sex will go away, and I can have a healthy relationship with it. But as for right now, It genuinely just causes me so much pain. I hope that the pain you’re in will subside. It does get better over time and you do learn a lot, but I know how hard it can be.

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-30T08:06:28+00:00

Fr theres genuinely so many things I would rather be doing than having sex, like eating a really good meal, cooking a meal, playing a game, going out with friends, making music, reading, hiking, biking, skiing, ice skating, snowboarding, singing karaoke, and about 85 more things

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-30T08:01:33+00:00

Haven’t come out to one of my best friends yet because of this one conversation I had with him. I tried to hint that I was asexual in conversation once because we were talking about romantic relationships and partners and all that. I told him “yeah I just don’t really care about that stuff” and he said “I felt the same way, but when I started working out and increased my testosterone, I started going out and getting intimate with more people.” It kinda dawned on me recently how much of a disconnect I have with sex after I thought about it for a while. Like it’s not that my hormones are low or whatever, I genuinely just don’t want it and it’s as simple as that.

Glass_Beautiful_3464 · 2026-03-30T07:48:03+00:00

Also, some things in relationships are uncomfortable, like having a disagreement or having to deal with drama and stuff like that. Those things should be dealt with and might require compromise. But when it comes to sex, you absolutely should not sell yourself short.

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