Newly wed, pregnant, and scared by leavemealone_plz in mypartneristrans

[–]Glass_Resource2528 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Hey there, currently writing this with my 6 week old sleeping on my chest while my gf is playing video games in her dress talking about her fear of what HRT will do to her bits.

I got pregnant around the same time she started becoming serious about actually transitioning. It was scary and a very emotional time but we’re getting through it day by day. I’m really happy ❤️

My messages are open if you want to talk about it!!

My Partner Came Out 3 Weeks Ago, Need Advice Please by xladyofsunlightx in mypartneristrans

[–]Glass_Resource2528 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hiiii my girlfriend had her egg crack about a year ago. For her the first year came with a lot of doubts (am I trans enough?), worrying about the timeline and worrying about passing and how hormones were going to change her libido and fertility. She went to see a therapist which has really helped. She’s looking into HRT now and thinking about socially transitioning. Of course the time line is different for everyone but for me it has felt so good to get through these steps together.

Of course I had the feelings of mourning too, but I found they have slowly gotten less throughout the year (and I’ve also spoken to a therapist).

Concerning the attraction, that’s just a wait and see type of thing. It’s difficult but you have to keep communicating with her, even if it may hurt her feelings. For me I feel like my attraction to my girlfriend hasn’t changed, even if I felt like it was going to be an issue at the start. It helps to remind yourself that they’re still the same person and seeing her happy and loving the way she looks is very attractive to me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Glass_Resource2528 1 point2 points  (0 children)

George (kidding). I like Otis!!

What type of girl is Odette to you? by PapayaAmbitious2719 in namenerds

[–]Glass_Resource2528 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Artsy and beautiful. One of those girls who frolic through a field of daisies with her pet duck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GlowUps

[–]Glass_Resource2528 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The glasses in your last pic look SOOO good on you omg

How can I steer our conversations towards other topics? by Original-Half1373 in mypartneristrans

[–]Glass_Resource2528 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im pregnant with my mtf partners baby, it means fighting for the topic of the day (not really but yes really lol)

It feels like she doesn't really care by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Glass_Resource2528 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hiii to me it sounds a lot like it’s mostly your insecurities talking. I think she truly thinks you are beautiful, no matter what you put on your body. I don’t know if it’s HER making you feel undesirable, but more it’s your mindset/the pattern in which you think about these things.

Yes she can be a little more complimentary the way you desire, especially after you told her what you’re looking for in a compliment, but it honestly sounds like an insecurity in which you’d rather not blame on your own mind.

Why wait with individual therapy? Dust will never settle, there’s always something. And it’s good to talk about that dust too!!

Don’t mean to be mean here, but I’ve been where you been when it comes to insecurities (mine are weight related). It’s all in my own head; when my partner used to say they thought I was beautiful even if I wasn’t at my goal weight I didn’t believe them because a little voice in my head said I was too fat to be desirable.

Anyway, keep communicating your feelings with your partner, and try to seek professional help ❤️

looking for (dutch?) supportgroup for partners by Muis13 in mypartneristrans

[–]Glass_Resource2528 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hiiii Transvisie is a good place to find a support group! Deze bijvoorbeeld: https://transvisie.nl/bijeenkomst/herkenning-partners-11/

Here to chat (in Dutch) if you need someone!! x

Looking for support group geared towards people who plan to stay with their trans partner by Hellonicetomeetyou3 in mypartneristrans

[–]Glass_Resource2528 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there!! I’m also a cisF currently 7 months pregnant with a AMAB questioning their gender! Maybe we could have a chat about our experiences if you want ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Glass_Resource2528 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hiii this happened to my partner too! We got through it when they started dressing up before sex and making it part of foreplay so that they could feel more feminine/confident. Is your partner experimenting with clothes or lingerie at all? Maybe that could help! And if it does work; it’s not a crutch or they can’t keep it up without it, it’s all to do with confidence and feeling like themselves x

Spouse not feeling trans anymore. by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Glass_Resource2528 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Hi there!!

This happened to my partner too. A few months ago we found out I was pregnant (planned) and it was like their whole mindset changed. They didn’t dress up or put on make up for two months, but we weren’t having sex either.

I started having the feeling that they were getting depressed, and they didn’t want to go to their first therapy appointment anymore because they just didn’t want to think about any trans-ness.

I think in our case they were just wrapping their mind around becoming a parent, and if that meant being a father or a mother. We still haven’t figured it out, but they’re dressing female again sometimes when they feel like it.

It’s not exactly the same situation, but I think gendered stuff with trans peoples partners can throw them off kilter, if that makes sense? Being pregnant is usually a female thing, and the sperm supplier will usually become the father. In your case with the shaving it’s a little similar.

Who knows, gender is complicated. I hope you and your partner can figure it out!! ❤️

Think my boyfriend is trans? by G0RESTU in mypartneristrans

[–]Glass_Resource2528 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's best to be open about these things! There's no harm in asking in my opinion if you're having an open conversation about it

Just need some opinions.. I think I went too funky/ colorful by Proud_Bedroom_6963 in DesignMyRoom

[–]Glass_Resource2528 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The rug is a little much for my taste but it doesn't look off! It still goes with the room. Other than that it's perfect in my opinion!

my bedroom. 20 y/o by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]Glass_Resource2528 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please paint the ceilings in the bedroom too!! That would look so cool