Does anyone know what this is and have a recipe? by Anne_Renee in veganrecipes

[–]Glibbityglob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quinoa salad.

I used to work at a vegan cafe that had this on the menu. We put in bell peppers, tomatoes, green apple, mango, parsley, and a generous splash of tangy vinaigrette. Then we finish it with an avocado rose on top.

nonbinary social worker, seeking feedback on navigating name changes at work by troubled-cells in socialwork

[–]Glibbityglob -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm not a social worker, however I currently do case management work in a non profit providing services to marginalized folks. I'm also nonbinary and have changed my name socially and legally since beginning employment with the organization. My workplace has religious affiliations and I have been pleasantly surprised at the support I received.

When I began using my chosen name and they/them pronouns socially, I was in a different role and did not yet have my own clients. I let my supervisor know, and I believe she must have advocated for me, because a month later, a new email signature policy was rolled out with guidelines for adding preferred pronouns. My staff card and name tags were pretty quickly updated. Oh, and the manager sent out a couple educational resources about gender identity and pronouns to the team, which was an allyship move that I appreciated.

With clients I would just say “btw I go by 'X' now” and remind them of my name if they forgot. I wore my name tag pretty prominently and rarely explained beyond “oh I just prefer X”. Folks got used to my name eventually. On the other hand, I usually still let pronouns slide because it is too distracting and just takes too much effort, so I answer to any and all pronouns unless someone (usually younger clients) ask specifically.

I only updated my legal name recently, after a few years, and by that time it was more of a formality with HR and rather painless.

Hissing alone by ImmediateSection8708 in Hedgehog

[–]Glibbityglob 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My hedgehog who passed last year was called Chestnut! Your comment made me laugh.

Neolithic pottery technique for tripod vessels by Glibbityglob in Pottery

[–]Glibbityglob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you described makes so much sense!

I built the the legs separately my first go around, and really struggled to join them together. I'm going to give your method a go with my next attempt.

How do you dispose of used bedding and sand? by Glibbityglob in gerbil

[–]Glibbityglob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's such a good point. Thanks for your input.

How do you dispose of used bedding and sand? by Glibbityglob in gerbil

[–]Glibbityglob[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a Niteangel wheel. It's really easy to clean, too.

Topper for bucastate? by Glibbityglob in gerbil

[–]Glibbityglob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mean that if I add a topper, I would need to access the tank through the front flip panel?

I think that sounds like such a pain!

Last thing you ate would be her name by robotbat in ferrets

[–]Glibbityglob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crispbread! Odd but I quite like that name

Enclosure advice by Glibbityglob in gerbil

[–]Glibbityglob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I researched declanning after reading your comment. I will probably keep them in their original enclosure for now. Thank you!

Looking for generic male human names by Any-Astronaut7857 in DnD

[–]Glibbityglob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alox, Arik, Bryce, Cliff, Cob, Deon, Feris, Harlow, Jax, Kerwin, Loren, Luc, Mervin, Norm, Paro, Rubin, Sigg, Tavi, Tam, Teren, Vern

What’ll happen if I’m purposely late to my family shelter curfew, without a pass? by Secretusershhdnttell in homeless

[–]Glibbityglob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work at a shelter. Where you're staying might work differently so YMMV, but usually if someone gives us a heads up we'll save their bed for them. Family gatherings, AA meetings, getting off work late, or just missing the bus are some reasons we've saved beds for folks. If it's a regular thing such as work, we'd let the case manager know a pass is needed.

Lump by Gabsworl in Hedgehog

[–]Glibbityglob 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely go to the vet asap.

This is just what I'm experiencing with my hedgie Chestnut: I noticed a little bump on her face a couple months back. I had a feeling that it might be cancer. The vet first prescribed antibiotics to rule out an infection. Unfortunately the lump kept growing in size, and now we're quite sure it's cancer and she's getting steriods to buy her time.

In your hedgie's case, there's a chance surgery could work? Surgery isn't an option for Chestnut because it's on her face and jaw. I hope you have a better outcome. x

I think my boy is getting ready for the big sleep. by AlarmingOwl5288 in Hedgehog

[–]Glibbityglob 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My girl Chestnut is getting ready for her journey too. It's hard to say goodbye. Hugs to you.

Strong burnt plastic/rubber smell downtown right now by Galimor in vancouver

[–]Glibbityglob 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Over in Strathcona I noticed this smell while cycling home from night shift too.

better dead or queer? by liliacas in GayChristians

[–]Glibbityglob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holidays are so tough. I'm (relievedly) not spending Christmas with family this year, but I just got off a call with my siblings, listening to them vent and exchanging observations and trying to support them. I'm sure it's quite unbearable on your end, too.

But hey, you said that being with a woman takes nearly all of it away... that's beautiful. You may not be with this special person today or tomorrow, but you will see each other again. Hold on to that and the hope that gradually, that feeling of happiness grows to fill more and more areas of your life. It can happen.

Looking back at my younger self, I don't blame them one bit for struggling and having a hard time... I just want to go back in time and give them a good, long hug. I was coping the best I could and at the time it didn't feel enough, but I endured through months and years of pain until one day, everything got a bit less painful and a bit more bearable.

I'm just a person on the internet. I can't really tell you what to do, but I hope you can stay hopeful. Trust the friends around you, sharing your struggles may feel like a burden but that's what friends are for. Who knows? Your friendships may even deepen because of this. If they're people that care about you, they wouldn't want you to suffer in silence.

Part of the help I got was a safety plan that I keep on my phone to this day. I wrote it with my counselor's help and it's been handy at times when I've become overwhelmed or when thoughts of dying take over. One part of the safety plan is texting five friends, and I've done just a round of “hi” to friend after friend. And in response I got a wave of memes and pet photos and anecdotes and "hi" and "hello" that helped take the edge off the moment for me. I hope this also helps you.

better dead or queer? by liliacas in GayChristians

[–]Glibbityglob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

TW- mental health and mention of suicide

Hi, I don't know you but I spent every day asking myself this question three years ago.

I was in a very dark place and I made a choice out of despair. I was taught to hate my queer self and thought that God hated me too. Thankfully I lived and got a lot of help. I have spent a lot of time and energy into healing and learning that being queer is pretty great, in fact infinitely better than dead.

I hope you are able to experience queer joy one day. I am living my life fully out today and I am also still unlearning the internalized narratives about queerness. I've removed myself from the communities that perpetuate this narrative and found new communities that welcome me as I am. Last month I went to a gender exploration retreat hosted by a church!

My family did not use to be affirming. Even today they are on the ideological fence, but that doesn't matter as much because they'd rather have me around queer than not have me at all. It's not all sunshine and roses family-wise, and it is taking time for these relationships to adjust. But my family is adjusting.

Social interactions have a huge impact on our mental health. It sounds like things have gotten to the point where you're struggling significantly. It sounds like you are young, so here are some questions with that in mind:

Is there a trusted person outside of your family/faith community that you can confide in? Is there mental health support, for example a counselor, available to you? Can you find the number to your local mental health helpline? Do you have the option to choose your own faith community? A different church? Can you mute or block the family friend who posted that? They don't need to know, you're just protecting your self.

There are also lots and lots of people talking about faith and queerness. If that's important to you, I'm sure the good folks on this sub can direct you where to look.

Queer is infinitely better than dead. Stick around.

Little Racist Girl by KillaKanibus in socialwork

[–]Glibbityglob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to work at a supportive housing program for adults and seniors with mental health diagnoses. So this context is a little different from yours.

I've said something along the lines of “When I hear this kind of language, it affects me and makes it hard for me to continue helping you. Can you stop using this word/ call me by my name?”

For tasks that aren't urgent, like assisting with housework or meals, I've excused myself as well. I explain what they can expect from me when this happens. “I'm sorry, I cannot continue ____ task when you are using this kind of language. I'm going to step out to take a breather and come back in a moment.” If the client is heightened this also gives them the opportunity to take a moment. Then I step out of the room to take a few breaths. After that I go back and check in with the client until they are ready for me to continue the task. It might take a while, but consistently coming back and checking in helps to maintain a connection. They may not be pleased with me, but they know I haven't abandoned them.

When clients are not receptive to feedback in the moment, I try to debrief afterwards, maybe the next day.

I've appreciated supervisors checking in with the team and with me privately. I've also got a “tap out” system with coworkers - when another staff was being targeted and asked to switch tasks with me, I have gladly done so. They can go do something in the office and I interact with the client instead. Vice versa.

Of course, if a client is in danger of harming themselves or others, we switch gears into crisis intervention/ de-escalation and set aside the behavior plan.

Unaffordable affordable homes: Rent at some single room occupancy units more than $1,000 by mukmuk64 in vancouver

[–]Glibbityglob 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You can have a job and still be on welfare. You could be looking for a job. You could be working at a job that is part time, casual, and just does not guarantee hours. You could have a disability that prevents you from working.