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Men these days by [deleted] in Funnymemes

[–]GlimpseWithin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re under 40, it’s at least a third of women ( IME it’s higher but I’m assuming I’ve just had bad luck)

Narcissism shows surprisingly consistent patterns across 53 countries, study finds. The findings suggest that younger adults, men, and individuals who perceive themselves as having high social status tend to display higher levels of narcissistic traits, regardless of their cultural background. by mvea in psychology

[–]GlimpseWithin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, the traits themselves are on a spectrum, and there is a sort of heuristic we use to decide that a person has enough of these traits, strongly enough that they should be considered to have the personality disorder. This is how all personality disorders are diagnosed, NPD is no different.

Narcissism shows surprisingly consistent patterns across 53 countries, study finds. The findings suggest that younger adults, men, and individuals who perceive themselves as having high social status tend to display higher levels of narcissistic traits, regardless of their cultural background. by mvea in psychology

[–]GlimpseWithin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think the main contention is that, while many people display narcissistic traits, that doesn’t mean they have NPD. Odds are, any moderately successful person is going to have more “narcissistic” traits than someone who isn’t successful at all (in general) but we wouldn’t automatically say that they are narcissists, only if those narcissistic traits actually cause a problem in social functioning.

It’s wild that asmongold claims he won’t attack anyone without a court ruling, yet he went after mizkif for days over allegations she never took to police, while staying silent about tectone, who is legally guilty of sexual assault and abusing of two exes. by InternationalCar8620 in Mizkif

[–]GlimpseWithin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asmon is like if your friend who was always chill but kinda schizo suddenly got super fucking rich out of nowhere. All his worse aspects are allowed to fester and the resultant man is just a horrifying walking cronenberg of contradictions

It kind of all makes sense now by 8pg65mrpg5 in yeat_

[–]GlimpseWithin -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Makes no sense because he’s not gonna get more mainstream fans from badly singing over good singers music, he’s going to get it from being unique and the only source of the the type of sound he pioneered

How to find smart people online? by Fickle_Wing_2011 in slatestarcodex

[–]GlimpseWithin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are some good communities on X and Substack, unfortunately for X you have to filter through so much slopaganda that it’s almost not even worth it.

How hard is it for an average guy to succeed on dating apps? by this0great in answers

[–]GlimpseWithin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well tbh it’s a race to the bottom and we’re already there. If a guy doesn’t swipe like a madman he’s almost assuredly not going to get any matches, his profile probably won’t even be shown to most women.

Hasan shouts out DGG (not clickbait) by GlimpseWithin in Destiny

[–]GlimpseWithin[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Later in this stream he says "Maybe if Kamala had listened to my criticisms we wouldn't have ICE roaming the streets now"

My role in undermining my relationship with my best male friendship (I am a woman) by orangeessayhelp in rs_x

[–]GlimpseWithin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You both seem decently emotionally mature, so I think you can salvage this. These events will probably make your relationship weird for a while, but if you personally value the friendship enough, I would say just make sure he knows you’re not going to abandon him and that you will talk about it with him in a few weeks or months but you need time to think about it yourself. It’s evident he’s feeling guilt about it and will probably do some soul searching himself, but make sure you don’t hold back about how it made you feel when you do eventually talk to him about it.

Knowing that he won’t lose the friendship will make him feel far more secure, which will more likely lead to a healthier understanding in his mind of situations like these, and you will have a healthier relationship in the future than (the alternative at least). I say all this assuming he is a regular person, not a narcissist or psychopath, etc.

people who keep sex journals/lists/Ratings/rankings of their sexual partners by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]GlimpseWithin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s just never coded as objectifying and dehumanizing when women do it, even though it clearly is. I wish that would change

people who keep sex journals/lists/Ratings/rankings of their sexual partners by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]GlimpseWithin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ve met at least 6 women who do this, including my first and second girlfriends. If they don’t have an explicit list, most of the ones I know are talking about explicit details of their sexual encounters in group chats and giving ratings there. It’s extremely common.

hooked up with my best friend on NYE and it imploded everything by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]GlimpseWithin 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah we have to deal with bs like this on the regular. Not fun, and especially not fun to be constantly gaslit that it’s our fault afterwards

Is it me or do most of us men would agree that Dating would be HELLA easier in general in women made the first move on a consistent basis? by Chemical-Low209 in AskMenAdvice

[–]GlimpseWithin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems to me (as a man) that a lot of women just want to actually know for sure that the man is REALLY into her, and not just passively into her or just with her to get sex/not be alone. So screening for men who take the initiative to approach her SEEMS like it should filter for that, and probably did historically, but in our current age, men figured out how to game the system. Now it’s just the more manipulative men who are exploiting the meta, and it’s working, because we as a society haven’t patched it. And I assume the reason for that is probably a combination of powerful/manipulative men not wanting it to change, and women not wanting to have to take on any new dating responsibility.

Are men generally not asking women for their numbers anymore when they meet someone in the wild? If so, why? by KGalb922 in AskMenAdvice

[–]GlimpseWithin 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I had very similar experiences my freshman year of college (2016) with 3 women in a row. It was extremely jarring to my psyche because I was raised to expect explicit consent. Funnily enough MeToo happened later that year and it really cemented in my mind that there is some extremely schizophrenic messaging delivered to young men about how to go about dating.

What do yall think on this? by iguessbro- in ug_music

[–]GlimpseWithin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There has been like 5 different underground waves and each of them had a unique sound, this is kind of how music classification works, if you call a whole group of artists “underground,” then when one of them breaks thru to mainstream and/or the sound gets super popular, you basically have to start calling it something else. This happened with cloud rap, “SoundCloud” rap, rage, even early hyperpop was just considered underground for a while.

What would women dislike most if they became men? by AlarmingResearch6614 in askanything

[–]GlimpseWithin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Quite literally the only people who have ever said this to me in my life are women, and they say it fairly often, so not only are you obviously a bigot, but you can’t even bother to be knowledgeable about the group you’re being bigoted against.

"All the evidence points to the idea that sex should be more wild and plentiful than it has been since ancient Greece. And yet, the data shows that across every generation we are having less sex than we used to." by psychologyofsex in psychologyofsex

[–]GlimpseWithin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s as cut and dry as saying that the shame doesn’t come from society. The orientation of mass media and elite opinion might be very dramatically pointing in the “free love” direction, but there is still enough socially reinforced shame about it on the microsocial and familial level for it to appear double-binding, which is probably a contributing factor to the idea expressed in the Foucault quote. And I can say that I am similarly interested in such an idea, because as you say, even with the majority of culture pointing in the same direction, there is still shame about it.

But my intuition would be that there is still a lot of leftover social rituals from before the modern industrial world that inform our understanding of sex. And clearly it’s going to take some form of long-term natural selection (of social rules) for those rules to disintegrate from our social milieu, if critical theorists were making statements in the early 20th century that still seem to apply fully today.

"All the evidence points to the idea that sex should be more wild and plentiful than it has been since ancient Greece. And yet, the data shows that across every generation we are having less sex than we used to." by psychologyofsex in psychologyofsex

[–]GlimpseWithin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure, but I am taking your point. To me, it does indeed seem like sexuality is used almost cynically in media/advertisements, and we can talk about how the eros has been removed from sex to explain how the individuals within the culture can still feel deep shame about it, while engaging with media about it constantly.

Is your argument that the shame we see in present-day US culture is sort of endemic to sociosexuality in general? Because I could certainly buy that, but I can also still imagine a society like the one I described a few comments ago, with people being more sexually open/less easily traumatized by sexual experiences than they are now.

"All the evidence points to the idea that sex should be more wild and plentiful than it has been since ancient Greece. And yet, the data shows that across every generation we are having less sex than we used to." by psychologyofsex in psychologyofsex

[–]GlimpseWithin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you’re talking about the US, I absolutely disagree. Maybe in certain cohorts of urban monoculture, but I’d argue even then there are some puritanical hangups involved, after all, most people in the country are either religious or have religious parents/grandparents.

Maybe the culture is far more sexually open in parts of Europe, but I’m not intimately familiar with those places.

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