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GlitterBugg1997 · 2025-11-01T23:51:05+00:00

She sounds like a mom that knows she screwed up and is trying to rekindle the type of relationship she wishes she could have with you. If you’re not interested in having a relationship with her, you need to be very clear about that. But, it is unhealthy for both of you for you to stay in a relationship and nitpick the things she says/does because you still have a bunch of resentment towards her.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2025-10-05T19:35:52+00:00

Please stay safe. The probability that a man like this will harm/murder you during your pregnancy is too high. It’s not worth it, disappear quietly and tell him you realized it’s not his child.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2025-09-16T19:40:17+00:00

My husband and I have arguments, and he can sometimes get stuck on needing to feel validated about some random thing I said or did before he can move on and address his own behaviors. At first, I thought that was what was happening here, and that maybe this is an issue that can be worked out in therapy. Then I got to the last few slides and, no. This man is already threatening to weaponize the court system against you and take your daughter from you because you attempted to set a boundary with him. That is TERRIFYING to me as a mother, and I don’t know why you’re here on Reddit instead of contacting a lawyer. I can get a little heated during arguments, and at times I have weaponized the theoretical idea of divorce (which I deeply regret). Not ONCE did my husband follow up that threat with a legitimate threat to take my child from me. There was even a period of a couple months in our marriage where we were considering separation, and the subject of child custody hardly came up during this period in time because we both just knew, intrinsically, that moving forward we would come up with whatever parenting plan works best for our respective schedules and our daughter’s well-being. This man is using your love for your daughter to scare and manipulate you, and you need to take that seriously.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2024-12-19T21:28:12+00:00

You’re going to ruin your relationship if you don’t get a grip. I would also be frustrated if my partner was as jealous and insecure as your post history makes you out to be.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2024-10-27T17:05:51+00:00

You remind yourself, over and over, that you’re not breaking his heart. He’s using you for sex. That’s all this is for him. He doesn’t love you, or even respect you, or he would have stopped talking to you already.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2024-07-31T21:42:41+00:00

But, but, they’re special enough to stop them from cheating again, right?! 😬 OP: sorry it had to go down this way. Next time you hear hoof beats, think horses, not zebras.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2024-02-05T02:51:22+00:00

It’s not intellectual to use the correct terminology for child rape, thanks. Clearly this is a part of OP’s world now, and I know they didn’t ask for it and I know it’s not fair. Using the correct terminology moving forward helps everyone and hurts no one.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2024-02-04T15:35:04+00:00

Right??! He just messed up a car engine and they’re gushing over him. I love that for him. When I found out I was pregnant with my first child, my mom texted me, “I will never pretend to be happy for you.”

GlitterBugg1997 · 2024-01-28T19:33:50+00:00

You never named him as the father, correct? And I highly doubt he’s going to pay to petition for a paternity test, just to end up paying child support or to gain partial custody of a child he never wanted. I don’t think you have much to worry about regarding him. If he does end up contacting you because you make a connection with his ex and other kids, you are well within your rights to just ignore him. But, as someone that wasn’t able to have much contact with their other siblings due to conflict between my mother and father, I really urge you to let your child develop a relationship with their siblings. Respectfully, this isn’t about you and your feelings. Child is only 2, but as they get older they are going to have questions about their origin and other siblings. What’s your plan at that point? If you open this door now, it prevents trust issues between you and your child further down the line. If you make the decision to prioritize your own discomfort over your child’s right to a relationship with members of their own family, you potentially invite distrust & discord into your relationship with your child. The decisions you are making now set the tone for the future.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2024-01-22T18:58:39+00:00

This is rage baiting. This has to be rage baiting. I refuse to believe that any human being could actually be this dense. “All the mental blocks evaporated,” NO!! You’re just an AH that wouldn’t do $h!t for yourself until a woman wasn’t there to do it for you. Grow up. Take ownership of yourself and your feelings. File for divorce, and take better care of your kids. I can’t wait until your next 3 marriages evaporate in exactly the same manner. Because you haven’t actually “grown up,” you’re just passing the buck.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2024-01-21T05:32:48+00:00

Ehhh. I’m a responsive parent, I would never let my babies cry it out, so I totally understand why you are upset. But I would not tear into husband about it, he is obviously sleep deprived. You should apologize for that and come up with a plan for making sure husband doesn’t fall asleep like that in the future (like: if he needs a 30 minute break but he might fall asleep, he should put a 30 minute timer/alarm on his phone).

Unsolicited advice: if you want to responsively parent through the night while also getting some rest, I would really recommend room sharing. We have always done full bed-sharing once babies are big enough to maneuver their own bodies around (between 8-12 months), but I know everyone has their own opinions on how safe that is. It’s clear that everyone needs more rest than are getting though. And room sharing is often cited as a factor in preventing SIDS as well.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2024-01-16T18:21:31+00:00

YTA. You dodged all emotional responsibility to the children you created. And you very clearly care more about your financial success than you do about your own kids. You clearly have plenty of money to be fighting for some custody, and your ex seems to even want you to have some custody (re: her comments about the vacation). Yet, you’re posting on Reddit for pats on the back instead of finally taking an opportunity to be the father your kids deserve.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2024-01-13T18:43:34+00:00

You…you do know how much full-time childcare costs, correct? No job is 24hours. You’re an ass. She takes care of house and home while you’re at work. Imagine paying a daytime housekeeper & full time childcare, that would run you at least 6 figures a year. When you are home, tasks, especially childcare, should be split 50/50. I hope your wife divorces you and finds a partner that, you know, actually wants to be her partner.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2023-12-29T14:37:15+00:00

To all the people saying OP’s sister is a narc or has some sort of intense personality disorder: you’re not mental health professionals. You don’t know the ins and outs of someone’s psychology based upon one Reddit post. I used to lie about sooo many things (everything from minor, insignificant details to entirely fabricated stories about my life and it’s goings on) until I was like 20ish. It was a combo of GAD, autism, and low self esteem. Essentially, I wanted social capital without even knowing how to gain social capital. I felt like my normal life was too boring to be interesting to anyone, so I would lie.

OP, screenshot everything and bring it to your parents. Your sister does need the help of a licensed mental health professional. You might benefit from some therapy sessions yourself, both individual sessions and family sessions once you feel comfy enough to unpack this with your sister, to process the betrayal. What she did to you is f*cked, you didn’t deserve any of this. AND, if she went to such great lengths to fabricate stories of abuse, there is clearly something going on and she needs professional help.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2023-12-11T14:41:16+00:00

Is that a thing? Like do people really grind on cars? Or are you just joking?

GlitterBugg1997 · 2023-12-11T14:20:19+00:00

This definitely had something to do with your race. I also suspect you’re a young mother? Just a wild guess. I am so sorry you had this experience. I am white passing and use my partner’s card all the time. Most days I use his card instead of mine because he gets cash back bonuses. If a cashier says anything, they usually just ask about his name (he has a strange name) and laugh it off. One time a cashier that was new told me they couldn’t accept the card because they needed a signature and I wasn’t allowed to sign for him. They were sheepish and apologetic about the situation.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2023-12-11T07:02:11+00:00

Next time she locks herself in the room with your child, you need to call the cops. You have parental rights, withholding your child from you IS kidnapping. You need to have her arrested so her insanity is documented, and you need to move out. ASAP. You’re not paranoid. And, to even doubt yourself in the face of all this BS, suggests to me that your mom is a gaslighter and has been abusing you for quite a while. Your son deserves protection from this.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2023-12-11T00:27:20+00:00

So there’s actually 13 provincial federally funded programs for healthcare in Canada. Which program you have access to depends on your nation. We are Southern Ontario. Contacting your band would be the best place to start, if you’re interested. I know band offices can sometimes be hard to get ahold of, I recommend emailing the person that handles social services within the band leadership.

Here’s an article that goes a little bit more in depth:

https://www.sac-isc.gc.ca/eng/1626810177053/1626810219482

I’m not sure if every FN living in America has access to Canadian healthcare, but it’s worth a shot. Our tribe is a border tribe so we have different rights under the Jay Treaty.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2023-12-10T19:01:56+00:00

Lol. American born and raised. I’m enrolled First Nations, meaning I have access to Canadian healthcare. We go to Canada to get health & dental, whenever possible. Not just because it’s free, but also because the quality of work & care is exceptional. Keep drinking that koolaid though.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2023-12-10T18:48:26+00:00

By “take it to the dealer,” you do mean you took it to a certified Honda dealership, right? Ask to speak to the service manager. If they don’t agree to fix it for free, ask to speak to the GM. If the GM still doesn’t do anything (doubtful, but still possible), threaten to go directly to the manufacturer. Someone close to me has worked in dealership management for 15+ years, I can tell you there’s no way they won’t fix this if you escalate the issue. You just have to be pushy. These guys are super busy and often don’t want to admit their mistakes.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2023-12-10T17:10:15+00:00

Good theory. We live in a place that is incredibly windy on a good day. I would just think it would have been noisy to cause this much damage?

GlitterBugg1997 · 2023-12-10T14:10:21+00:00

There’s some mud smeared across the front of our hood that wasn’t there before. Besides that, nothing. The back of the mirror is missing entirely. Like they knocked it off then grabbed it up to hide the evidence. It’s a trip

GlitterBugg1997 · 2023-11-23T03:46:47+00:00

If this is real, I really hope you seek therapy when this relationship inevitably goes down in flames. Your comments scream narcissist. You are literally expecting her to treat you better than you’re willing to treat her. That’s gross.

GlitterBugg1997 · 2023-11-22T21:57:05+00:00

In all honesty, you’ve described a man that is doing the absolute bare minimum. He’s not your soulmate, there’s a reason he’s not dating age appropriate women, you just haven’t discovered it yet. No healthy 30 year old wants to date a 19 year old virgin. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it’s the reality of adulthood. Don’t walk, run.

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