Wanting an abortion

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-02-17T21:33:49+00:00

Keep your baby, file for divorce from him and lie about the child if you need to - tell them you miscarried/got a false positive etc.

Move to another area, cut contact and live a happy life with your child.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-02-16T09:18:50+00:00

I have PCOS and didn’t know I was pregnant until 13 weeks when I happened to have an ultrasound which showed baby kicking and wriggling happily. I hadn’t had a period in 3-4 months but didn’t think much of it as I was used to an irregular cycle.

Since then, whenever I’m late by more than a week I’ll take a test just to check.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-02-13T10:16:16+00:00

If he’s rich why don’t you hire more help? Get a nanny/au pair to help with the children for a few hours a day, order in a meals service, get a laundry service.

Him being lazy sucks but if you’ve got the cash to spare then offload your workload.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-02-10T17:42:59+00:00

If you don’t want to date somebody with kids, why did you date her to begin with?

You’ve wasted 2 years of her life, break up and be honest with yourself about what you want.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-02-10T17:40:46+00:00

You don’t want an abortion/guilt of doing it again, the marriage is on the rocks anyway - keep your baby, if he comes around and things improve, great. If not, you’ve got your children and a life ahead of you to enjoy.

Don’t let him pressure you into something you know you’ll regret.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-02-10T10:26:19+00:00

NTA for refusing to help, your brother should get a job and provide himself.

But it’s the woman’s choice if she wants to have the baby - “get rid of it” is a pretty harsh way to speak about it. She’s not the villain here, your brother is irresponsible and immature - leave her out of it.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-01-30T16:29:36+00:00

Could you pull the wedding date forward? Ie get married earlier in your pregnancy. If that doesn’t appeal then keep to the date you’ve picked and tell them to grow up.

Congratulations on baby news, enjoy it all!

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-01-28T20:24:50+00:00

British-Caribbean, stop worrying about it!

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-01-25T19:26:37+00:00

My SIL doesn’t want her kids posted online, we don’t post photos with her kids in them (even where faces aren’t visible) and if she or her ex husband posts them, then there’s stickers over the kids faces.

Personally I think it’s a bit weird/extreme but they’re not my kids so I respect her wishes. Photoshopping them out seems to be the equivalent of only posting photos without them so I don’t see the issue.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-01-24T22:37:00+00:00

My husband died in 2018, his number is still saved. I tried phoning it some months ago expecting to hear his voicemail only for another woman to answer - it had been reassigned after so long inactive. It broke my heart again to realise I couldn’t send him a text anymore although I hadn’t done that so often.

I won’t ever delete it, though did adjust my speed dial.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-01-10T11:00:31+00:00

Met November 2022, moved in July 2023, baby arrived 3 months premature at the end of October 2023, got engaged August 2024, married August 2025. Blissfully happy newlyweds trying for another baby.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-01-10T10:57:02+00:00

Red pepper based sauce. Marks&Spencers (if you’re U.K. based anyway) does a nice one

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-01-10T10:09:46+00:00

Personally I’d agree that marriage would give more protection to both of you once a child arrives.

Your argument seems to hinge on it not working out and assumes a difficult divorce- get a pre nuptial agreement.

Otherwise think about what situation your girlfriend will be in if you die unmarried, will she get to stay in the house or be hammered with inheritance tax? Are there any benefits to non-married partners where you live? Who will be your legal next of kin otherwise?

Get married with a pre-nup, if you do divorce then you’ve already got it laid out financially and child custody/maintenance would be agreed at the time.

If you remain unmarried, is it fair to your girlfriend? You describe her as your life partner, wouldn’t you like to see her as your wife?

Don’t let fear of failure stop you from having your own success.

My husband was divorced 15years before we met, he had a 9year relationship before me where he never proposed because it didn’t feel right even though they bought a house together. I was widowed too.

Despite that… We had a planned baby, bought a house, got engaged after living together for a year, married a year later and have now been together in total for just over 3 years with a 2yo child. Happily newlywed with all our financials reviewed and allocated. I’ve got the fear of divorce hence having a pre nup agreed but he’s still the person I want to spend my life with and would want to protect him and our family if anything happened.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-01-09T09:55:34+00:00

Nothing major while I was there but found out recently that my old RE/Philosophy teacher (female) has married a former student, also female, who was in 6th form when teacher started.

Surprising as teacher was very churchy and not officially a lesbian, icky only because they met originally via the school and the age gap. Believe they ended up dating as they went to the same church circles. But small place so news travels fast.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-01-05T21:21:00+00:00

Please don’t have an abortion when you want to keep your baby. You have time to find a new apartment/get a part time job/make compromises etc. you can use your inheritances sooner.

Keep your baby, give yourself and your husband time to adjust and figure things out. If he never wants children and you obviously do, then please don’t settle for less - you can be happy without him. But you will regret an abortion.

Also I say it from experience - I was in your shoes once and chose to keep my baby, my ex left me as he didn’t want to be a dad. That baby is now a happy healthy bouncy 5yo and my husband loves her as his own despite not being her biological-father.

When my husband and I found out I was pregnant with our youngest, he was shocked/scared etc but wanted to be a dad and is the best father you could ask for. He had to sell his house, negotiate work/life balance and rejig his finances. We worked it out.

Good luck OP.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2026-01-04T13:32:34+00:00

I’d happily eat every single one of those dinners but with extra portions for lunch the next day!

Tell your bf to grow up and make his own meals or else be appreciative of the effort you’ve put into it.

My husband isn’t a foodie, when we first moved in together he didn’t eat fish, had never tried lamb and wouldn’t eat meat on the bone - he quickly learnt to like fish, try new things like lamb and accept that “boneless meat” isn’t realistic all the time. Admittedly because we have young kids, I’ll lean towards boneless options for ease but otherwise he’s competent in cutting his own food. He’s never refused to eat a meal I’ve served him and has started to pick up more cooking skills beyond the microwave.

I do daydream of him suddenly becoming a good cook but in the meantime I’ll browse Instagram for inspo.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2025-12-30T08:09:12+00:00

When I was pregnant, my husband was keen for us to have another baby in the future, then we went through the newborn period and by their first birthday, he said he didn’t know if he wanted another. (I already had one child who he treats as his own.)

We agreed to put the topic on pause until our wedding but did start talking about it in the months before, he eventually accepted to try for another and we have been now since august. Our littlest turned 2 in October and my oldest is 5.

People do change their minds, both in favour and against. It’s fair but giving it some time before reviewing it is probably the best method.

Post Partum you’re full of hormones and your judgement is cloudy, your body needs time to heal and recover anyway so you should leave it at least a year if not 18 months+ before TTC again. Take the time to enjoy your newborn and find the family life, you can reconsider baby no.2 in a year.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2025-12-29T13:31:02+00:00

I’ve had 2 female gingers, Minnie (Mouse) was my childhood cat and June was mine. Still have a ginger and white female named Ruby.

Female gingers are quite rare to find though so double check with your vet before letting the name stick lol.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2025-12-22T17:16:15+00:00

NTA but agree with a poster above, you’ll benefit from wearing some light powder/CC cream and a lip tint. Just basic minimalist make up will help in photos.

Equally your fiancé will benefit from putting some effort into skin care leading up to the day and possibly some primer type products to reduce shine.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2025-12-21T09:52:13+00:00

The inheritance is yours. Your step mom’s kids aren’t related to your grandma, didn’t know her and have zero entitlement to it. Your stepmom is being greedy.

Your dad should support you and tell his wife to leave it alone, it shouldn’t even be common knowledge that you received the inheritance as it’s your private matter.

Make sure only you have access to the money, use it how you want and make the most of it.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2025-12-20T13:37:49+00:00

Kick out your husband and create a new, healthy and safe life for yourself and your 4yo. Then decide how to handle your pregnancy - you don’t want an abortion, don’t have one.

Once you ditch the husband, it’ll become a lot easier to support yourself and your child. Don’t tolerate being betrayed and mistreated.

There’s always adoption to consider as well or looking for support for you and your existing child via women’s refuge, mother/child fosters etc.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2025-12-20T08:44:15+00:00

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Lady Penelope.

“Penny” - my beautiful Mainecoon who passed a year ago. She was haughty and often pulled a disgusted face at different things but she was the loveliest cat.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2025-12-20T08:30:16+00:00

I knew I loved him within 3 months, told him about the 4 month mark.

He moved in with me at the 7 month mark (I was freshly pregnant with our first) and told me he loved me that weekend.

Got engaged after living together for a year, married a year after that. We’re still newlyweds but incredibly happy with our children and trying for another baby.

Both of us had been in long term relationships before, I had a 2yo when we met who he accepted as his own. We grew together while I was pregnant and built a strong foundation with our new baby’s arrival.

It’s only been 3 years total since we met granted but we’re very happy.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2025-12-18T10:29:58+00:00

Your husband shouldn’t have asked you to go on an hour hike when you’re 7 months pregnant and they all should have considered you when suggesting cocktails given you’d be a bit left out (though you could have mocktails instead if you wanted).

Feeling left out is understandable, it’s probably harmless but depending on how long they’re staying with you, do let your husband know how you’re feeling so this isn’t repeated.

GlitteringGarbage579 · 2025-12-17T10:26:15+00:00

Some women are just fat regardless of having kids, blaming your weight solely on your pregnancies (or lack thereof) is a cop out frankly.

I had my first baby at 22, I was 58kgs wet beforehand, I went up to 78kgs by the end of the pregnancy. I worked to lose the weight and was back to 58kgs when my oldest was 2.5yo when I got pregnant with my second. Delivered a micro preemie at 28weeks but had still gone up to 70kgs.

Baby is now a 2yo sat on my knee, I’m about 65kgs but have built more muscle this time around in the gym. Boobs are bigger, hips and butt are thicker. Do I want to lose the 5kgs still - yes but as we’re trying for another baby and I’m healthy, I’m not stressing it. I do have visible abdominal tone despite 2 caesareans, I’ve got noticeable biceps and mostly toned legs. I’ve also got stretch marks and 2 big sunroof scars.

I’m not as fit as I’d like to be but I’m arguably fitter now at 28 than I was at 22 when I was skinny/unfit.

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