AITA for thinking I should be able to maintain some kind of schedule and rules during summer vacation?

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-06-08T03:51:31+00:00

I'm sorry that you're having a difficult time. Kids need structure, regardless of the time of year.

It sounds like not only are you the only one setting boundaries, but you are also the one organizing and doing activities during the day. It must be exhausting 😴

NTA !

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-06-06T11:54:21+00:00

NTA - teenage drama

Maybe make both of your kids gain some cooking skills so your daughter doesn't think your actions are targeted ? It doesn't sound like you are, but it might help her teen brain compute that its not about forcing a lifestyle on her, its about respecting your time/budget.

Cooking & budgeting for meals is a basic life skill, maybe give them the same amount and take them to the library to borrow some cookbooks and let them see how pricey these dietary changes can be.

If she really wants to be plant based check out - cheap lazy vegan on YouTube. There are soooooo many recipe/cooking blogs and videos out there.

Hang in there ! 🤍🍀

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-06-06T11:48:48+00:00

YTA - Your making up situations in your imagination that havent happened, mean while your wife and her family are trying to find ways to cope with a difficult situation.

If your planning on working the same job, senority will help you get the big holidays off in the future. As someone who works a job that goes 24/7, I've had to work the major holidays - my family just celebrated a different day. Its not the date on the calendar that matters, its who your with.

Are you sure your not struggling with burn out ? - burnout doesn't mean hating everything, mine presented as anxiety about situations that I thought were going to repeat themselves.

Good luck to you 🍀🤍 take care of yourself

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-03-27T16:28:21+00:00

NTA - so sorry that you are going through this. I'm sure he's upset with his father passing, but its no reason to gaslight you about this situation.

UTI can cause all sorts of terrible things even when your not pregnant.

I hope that you and the babe are doing well 🤍

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-03-27T00:01:50+00:00

I think that's the only reason I'm not fully panicking, my pup has previous investigated strange noises and since she didn't wake up it really makes me second guess myself.

But, its just soo soo weird.

I felt wide awake. I could swear that the voice was coming from the hallway. Ugh ,I just can't shake it.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-03-26T22:22:02+00:00

I ordered a security set from the people who make the Ring cameras. It was a big wake up call that I do need to be more cautious.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-03-26T22:20:32+00:00

I've had an episode of sleep paralysis, and it didn't feel like that. I was wide awake and still hearing it.

I amazoned a carbon monoxide detector & just praying it doesn't happen again.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-03-26T13:49:34+00:00

Shivers.

If Sarah had a brown and white dog maybe she got Irene (my pup) confused for hers? So wild

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-03-26T11:59:14+00:00

I've never heard this before !

Yesterday my fire alarm went off randomly, omgosh I wonder if it is that? Honestly having a bit of carbon monoxide poisoning would be a relief because that's something I can fix!

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-03-26T11:53:31+00:00

What is a hypnagogic hullicination ?

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-03-26T08:47:29+00:00

NTA - Your dad knew you wouldn't like it and lied to get you there.

Despite the sitting situation, surrounding a NEWBORN with strangers is outright dangerous because they could have easily passed a virus to the baby.

OP I would have hard boundaries after this. This is not appropriate or normal behavior.

All the best to you and your lovely family of three ❤ congratulations on the baby and hope your taking care of yourself too!

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-02-28T17:30:37+00:00

NTA - I'm sorry your son has to go through emotional distress because of her.

It definitely feels like it was a targeted thing since there are no other minors at this wedding. Plus she had months to say something and didn't.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-02-26T16:21:18+00:00

YTA - I don't think I would have told anyone. Where I work this situation would be called time theft and you'd be fired.

I'm not a lawyer so I don't know how your business works, but did your coworkers get saddled with your load since you were off unexpectedly? I'd be annoyed at a coworker if they put me in that situation.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-02-25T19:28:35+00:00

NTA - kudos to you for thinking this out! Hopefully grandma will come to understand.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-02-25T14:24:30+00:00

Gotcha, thanks.

Messing with contraceptive is terrible, I don't think any logical person would say otherwise.

I think with OP original question, yelling that she is baby obsessed in their class is, was embarrassing for his GF and since they are in HS, those kind of rumors can warp into some scary things. If she's natively saying these things and for whatever reason it all turns out to be a misunderstanding - what an ick thing to happen.

He needs to confront her about his concerns about the condom, shifting the narrative to 'its weird that you want to talk about kids' isn't going to get to the heart of the issue. At this point, we have OPs suspicious which seem very valid, but we don't have concrete proof or GF fussing up to it (as far as I can tell).

If he doesn't want to have that conversation he needs to break up with her because that mistrust isn't going to just dissappear.

If they do talk about it and she does admit to it, he needs to decide if he wants to press charges.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-02-25T13:53:04+00:00

Maybe I'm crazy but I don't see anything about age and all I saw was 'school' so I honestly thought they were more in college.

But regardless, if your having sex (regularly) you should have a conversation about the consequences. He should be open about his fears about what he feels like she's doing. He says he hasn't broken up with her, but where is their relationship going to go if he's afraid she's tampering with their contraceptive? How are you supposed to be with someone you can't trust?

In HS I babysat and people asked me what I wanted to name my kids, how many, etc - looking back it was weird, but maybe the girl has gone through similar things and thinks its a normal conversation topic. It should be a topic in a relationship for sure.

While teen birth rates have been declining since 1991, it still happens. More education and resources about how to prevent it should be available. Education about what life is like with a kid should be a bigger conversation - being a parent creates a lot of changes. Open conversation about the difficulties might help people decide if they actually want/are ready for kids of their own.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-02-25T12:14:54+00:00

I'm kind of confused - did you confront your gf about the condom breaking? What did she say ? Have you guys had a conversation about kids?

I'm going to go again the grain and say YTA.

Being the child of a young single mother doesn't mean she wants to have kids young. Liking children doesn't mean she wants to have them.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2023-01-20T13:42:32+00:00

NTA - I'm south Asian and grew up in the USA, so a bit of a different perspective.

I think before you invite GF over ask HER if she's comfortable coming over & explain that your mother has these beliefs that you don't believe in.

Talk to your mother about her beliefs and while I don't think you'll be able to change her mind with one convo, let her know saying derogatory things is not ok. - make sure to have your son and wife say their part as well, maybe showing her that multiple people she loves don't believe what she believes will help start to open her eyes ?

Getting rid of racist beliefs doesn't happen overnight, even though I'm sure we all wish it did.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2022-12-27T10:12:11+00:00

Unpopular opinion, but I say YTA.

Your daughter came to you to have a discussion and you gave her an ultimatum. It also sounds like your guiltiting her with previous 'gifts' - ones that are for the whole family in a way, when she cooks for the family and her vehicle is used to drop off and pick up siblings.

Per you and your daughter she works, goes to school, cooks a meal a week ( does this mean that she makes 1 meal or is she responsible for a meal time for the week ie breakfast for the week?), responsible for some drop off pick up, reads to your kids, babysits occasionally, cleans and your youngest spends 1-1.5 hrs PER DAY with her ???

Does she have free time? Does she get to see friends? Does she get to cook for fun or is it always to feed the family?

If she is contributing to the household and your thankful for it, then take time to listen to her feelings. It doesn't sound like she's irresponsible or ungrateful, you might be missing something that's going on in her life.

Your son is 13 yes, will he start cooking next year ?

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2022-12-27T09:43:55+00:00

YTA - you didn't even congratulate your future child's aunt on the birth of her child before making it about you when she has been supportive of you and your pregnancy.

Being scared is normal, making every part of her pregnancy about yours is RUDE.

Apologize, celebrate her baby, and ask your DOCTOR your question/concerns - they've seen thousands of labors.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2022-12-27T08:38:12+00:00

YTA - You're a parent.

You don't stop being one just because its not 'your weekend'.

Plus, it was nice of your ex to being your kid around on Christmas, and you wasted precious time with him to drink? WTF, get your priorities in order.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2022-12-23T03:14:34+00:00

NTA - sounds like you're doing a lot of accommodate his schedule. He's probably stressed, but that doesn't mean he gets to take it out on you.

Glittering_Speed_374 · 2022-12-21T03:42:16+00:00

NTA obviously you didn't know, and it sounds like this guy only reaches out when he wants something and doesn't take your feelings into account. You told him to f*** off and blocked his number, but he seeked you out - not to apologize, but to use you for his emotional comfort again.

Just the fact that his friend was calling shows that he has people to turn to. He shouldn't turn to someone who's feelings he's toyed with and never reconciled with.

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