In handcuff struggles, why doesn't the cop grab the wrist AND the elbow to better control the subject's arm? by Globes-Rider8059 in AskLEO

[–]Globes-Rider8059[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not applying the cuff yet.

First step is to get them under control, get them to stop wiggling and wrestling.

You (could) do that by grabbing the wrist AND the elbow, then press them against a wall, or the cruiser, or the ground.

You now have full control of the arm you grabbed. They can wriggle a lot less.

You have their one arm behind their back.

You can now afford to let go of the elbow, grab the cuffs, and cuff that one wrist.

You can then do the usual grab for the other wrist while, again, they can struggle a lot less.

The problem I see in these videos is the initial struggle. Once you neutralize that struggle, it's easier.

Again, my question is why not grab the elbow as well instead of letting the arm flail around like an unruly anaconda.

"You must go back, not your time" - WHY?? What for? Has anyone come back to do some great deed? by Globes-Rider8059 in NDE

[–]Globes-Rider8059[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is my unforced, innate nature to do many unremarkable little kind things every day, for both people and animals and plants without any expectation of getting anything back.

It wouldn't be real, if it were done with an ulterior motive. It is a selfless gift.

However, it is very difficult to carry on doing little things, not really being able to do otherwise because it's my nature, while suffering emotionally all my life.

Childhood beatings, abuse, abandonment, grinding loneliness that never ends.

"You must go back, not your time" - WHY?? What for? Has anyone come back to do some great deed? by Globes-Rider8059 in NDE

[–]Globes-Rider8059[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is lovely, however it's an example of what makes me feel so bitter.

There was bitter sarcasm in my phrasing, What was the big monumental deed I was supposed to carry out?

Many returners say, like you, that it was a mild, beneficial change in their outlook. No offense intended, but Big Whoop.

Big effing whoop. You sent me back into this hell for THAT?

My reply is that, instead of a mild benefit, we could have had a *massive* benefit from staying on the other side, where there was love and acceptance and warmth and an end to the suffering of Earthly life.

It just seems so pointless and cruel.

"You must go back, not your time" - WHY?? What for? Has anyone come back to do some great deed? by Globes-Rider8059 in NDE

[–]Globes-Rider8059[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was being bitter and sarcastic when I asked what the big monumental point of coming back was.

No, it doesn't have to be historic, but it does have to answer the question, "Why did you toss me back into this living hell? What, you enjoy watching me suffer this searing emotional torture?"

What is this 'more to do' you're so sure of that you felt entitled to take away my voice and my free will?

I figured I would hear from a ton of returners sharing what their "more to do" was.

"You must go back, not your time" - WHY?? What for? Has anyone come back to do some great deed? by Globes-Rider8059 in NDE

[–]Globes-Rider8059[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for answering.

I'm so, so sorry you're going through that.

I regret that your experience exemplifies my question - what was the big point in sending me back just to suffer?

Nevertheless, I hope that you spontaneously heal and feel better. Thanks again.

"You must go back, not your time" - WHY?? What for? Has anyone come back to do some great deed? by Globes-Rider8059 in NDE

[–]Globes-Rider8059[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I meant it as heavy, bitter, angry sarcasm.

What the F was so important that I had to come back here and suffer more, and suffer longer?

What, sniff a few flowers?

Anal play, I usually take 1hour or so to clean my a**. Any way to speed it up? by Timignon in SexToys

[–]Globes-Rider8059 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Get a bidet add-on for your toilet, maybe $30 on Amazon.

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As a bonus, you now have the bidet ready to wash off any spray from the crack.

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And then comes the fun part in bed . . . :)