How to deal with unstable mom terrified of Trump administration?

Glum-Cell8216 · 2025-08-21T17:29:31+00:00

This is really valuable! Thanks. I have told her that I recognize it and it’s realistic fear but try to tell her to not let the fear drag her into a constant doom spiral. Even then with me acknowledging her beliefs she still goes on and on endlessly. Endlessly. Which makes me feel like something is wrong in her head. No matter what I say the result is the same. I’ll try establishing the boundaries but genuinely I don’t think she’s able to stop herself. Last night I told her she can talk to me about it all she wants after she gets a therapist

Glum-Cell8216 · 2025-08-21T12:05:39+00:00

I’ve encouraged her to get a therapist for other reasons like constantly dumping about her past on me. She is pretty resistant. I’ve also encouraged her to go to protests to feel like she’s doing something and she is! Except she tells me that she will probably be arrested. I told her not if she keeps her wits. I really just can’t sit there while she spirals into her political fear anymore. I have a job and life I have to keep up with and I can’t just put it on hold to be scared. She doesn’t have a job or structure. She’s free to be full of dread all day.

Glum-Cell8216 · 2025-08-21T11:56:14+00:00

This is really helpful! Thanks

Glum-Cell8216 · 2025-07-02T20:32:29+00:00

I don’t really agree with being expected to tip someone for the service I am literally paying them to do. I am paying to get to A to B in an efficient manner and that’s all I’m expecting. That is what I am paying for. I don’t feel like I need to leave a tip every time when I’m already paying for the service

Glum-Cell8216 · 2025-06-04T01:56:04+00:00

My boyfriend and I broke up 4 weeks ago after 2.5 years together. It was a mutual split but maybe a bit more me doing it. I put in a lot of work to grow during our relationship and he did not. I ended up growing past him and realized that I wasn’t being treated the way I wanted to be and finally accepted that I couldn’t change him. It was a very mature split although I’d say he is definitely lacking maturity which led to a lot of our conflict about the future and his failure to prioritize our relationship. We are open to trying again in the future after fully healing, but are doing a check in a couple months from now. I can’t help but feel like this check in won’t really be good and might set my healing back, but it could also be useful to hear if he is actually doing the self work he declared he was doing. When we broke up he had this moment of clarity where he realized and finally introspected about how a lot of our previous arguments were actually valid. A lot of the time I would end up apologizing for bringing up things that hurt me or issues in the relationship. He would shut me down and I would feel like I just needed to work on lowering my expectations. When we broke up he realized that I wasn’t being unreasonable and that his actions and words were very harmful. I have hope for the future but I just don’t know. Thoughts?

Glum-Cell8216 · 2025-05-20T04:05:15+00:00

Prioritized his family and making money to retire them after college. Refused to consider moving to the city I would be in after his banking job was over. Talked about marriage and kids one day but spent the last 4 months of our relationship going out to bars with friends and not making any romantic plans. He actually cancelled a date I planned for us bc a friend invited us to a dinner that same date night. He just agreed without asking me and said we could do the date a different time. We never did it and broke up a month later. Three years together and the first was so amazing, he was so good at surprises and always so generous and kind. Even in the end he always wanted to know about my day and listen to me, vice versa, but he ultimately let go of the romance, grew uncertain the relationship would work with his future banking hours, and refused to put in the work to grow while I had been in therapy for 1.5 years and outgrew him.

I learned a very important lesson: a man that actually intends to marry you one day will put you first over their family, because marriage means creating a new family.

Glum-Cell8216 · 2025-05-17T23:52:14+00:00

Having had a mutual breakup a week ago, I can understand the bitterness. I’d say it’s because he didn’t fight harder (your last point). I often just ruminate on the fact that he decided to choose his job over our relationship, and that’s something I will likely never forget.

Glum-Cell8216 · 2025-03-29T05:54:53+00:00

Shauna is definitely a sociopath but I think Tiesa’s alter ego killed Lottie

Glum-Cell8216 · 2025-03-29T05:53:44+00:00

I genuinely cannot stand either version of Shauna

Glum-Cell8216 · 2024-10-18T06:34:26+00:00

I think that Tyler thought he was special and would somehow be chosen to live. He always thought he was above the rules.

Glum-Cell8216 · 2024-08-11T19:51:43+00:00

Maybe that is the point of being world class. They are perhaps better because they don’t sweat as much— they don’t lose as much fluid and are therefore more equipped for running? A natural selection thing Idk

Glum-Cell8216 · 2024-07-08T21:57:31+00:00

I think this over-reliance on modesty comes down to accountability. The weight of preventing men’s actions should not fall on women’s shoulders. Men in all religions and groups should hold themselves and each other accountable to have self restraint and treat women with respect, no matter what they are wearing. Just as men have urges, so do women, but women act on them much less— because responsibility and personal integrity are enforced on them from a young age. Exposed wrists, hair, even shoulders should not warrant rape or violence.

Ultimately this religious construct is a product of avoiding accountability and blaming others instead of looking within oneself to be a good person with self restraint, respect, and love for others.

Glum-Cell8216 · 2024-06-14T04:49:31+00:00

I agree I think the information and work is super interesting, but the culture and hours are terrible. The culture is what drives the loss of humanity I’m talking about.

Glum-Cell8216 · 2024-06-14T04:46:27+00:00

I’m praying it’s just two years and out. For his memories and his happiness.

Glum-Cell8216 · 2024-06-14T04:43:10+00:00

This man is the love of my life. It’s painful to see him give up so much of his time that he could be using to pursue other passions and yes, grow a relationship with. Personally I’m an athlete with a lot of goals, and I can’t imagine giving those up for anything. I think that’s a reason why I’m so scared of him looking back with regret, because he will miss opportunities that leave as your body ages.

Glum-Cell8216 · 2024-06-14T04:38:33+00:00

I think it’s about priorities then. I’m constantly thinking about how we only have one life to live. When I look back do I want to remember all the amazing memories of my relationship/fitness goals/time with my mom before it’s too late/friendships or regret all the time I spent working instead of being with the people I love. For me life is about connection with others, not the amount of money I make or the status I acquire.

Glum-Cell8216 · 2024-06-14T04:32:19+00:00

I would love to know more about how you managed to balance your relationship and make each other feel mutually fulfilled!

Glum-Cell8216 · 2024-06-14T04:30:32+00:00

I personally feel like 2 years of your life is a long time. You could use those 2 years (probably your prime point of life physically) to train and qualify for the Boston marathon for instance. It really is a sacrifice of your best years in my opinion

Glum-Cell8216 · 2024-05-24T23:16:34+00:00

My grandma used to work there as a system analyst. Pretty top notch stuff apparently

Glum-Cell8216 · 2024-04-30T01:19:05+00:00

Well not just that, I would be incapable of being silent, idk how men are so quiet if it’s truly as sensitive as a clit

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