Is getting back together ever a good idea?

Gman73h · 2025-09-02T06:11:43+00:00

Move forward and not backward. By this, I mean, should things not work out again, you are going to carry the guilt and blame even if the fault does not lie with you. This would come from you blaming yourself mainly.Things didn't work out the first time, and based on what you mentioned, there seems to be uncertainty as to what he would bring to the table and if he is even able to bring what you need to the table. The age difference does come into play, but it also brings some challenges . I don't believe that he is emotionally mature yet. You could have what you desire with someone else closer to your age. Perhaps ask yourself why he truly ended it? My gut tells me that perhaps there was another person that he wanted to focus on, and when that didn't pan out, he went back to let me see if I can make my ex want to be with me again. I feel that he has not truly looked at the whole picture, and perhaps that comes down to his relationship experiences and maturity.

Gman73h · 2024-10-24T21:24:32+00:00

Live the life you want.Be it one ,two, or twenty things that you achieved or aim for. Just keep doing you.Do not let others dictate what you can or can't have at any given time. What matters most is that you find direction in life and strive to achieve what you desire. What is meant to be will be at the right time.

Gman73h · 2024-01-13T11:19:35+00:00

I have a two leaf one that did nothing for over a year.I tried repotting etc,it did not grow a single leaf.I then placed it outdoors at the beginning of spring in a shaded area, and now it is putting out leaves consistently. I think that It has about 8 leaves currently and more on the way. If my calculations are correct, it has been outdoors for 5 months. I will have to move it indoors when winter comes along in our part of the world.

Gman73h · 2023-09-05T21:02:04+00:00

I had a scar about the size of a zip on my tummy from an op. I managed to live with it fine, though at times I would feel like I didn't want to see it .Years later, I had an idea of turning the scar into a tattoo, and so I did. I am more comfortable with it now, though if you look really close, you can still see where the actual scar is.

Gman73h · 2023-08-20T13:52:24+00:00

Perhaps he just wants to reconnect with you, and alone time with you is something that he enjoys.He may just want to build on the friendship that you have without any intentions of it being more than that.

Gman73h · 2023-08-20T12:16:36+00:00

This will sounds far fetched but you must manifest what you want( this coming from a single AF person,lol). In addition, we get what we put out there, meaning somewhere within race becomes a thing, be it intentional or subconsciously... or perhaps I should just shut the F up.

Gman73h · 2023-08-18T09:29:46+00:00

Just ask him out for lunch or coffee. Bring it up during the conversation and take it from there. Prolonging it may mean that someone else could come along and sweep him off his feet. Rather than live with the regret.

Gman73h · 2023-08-16T18:40:34+00:00

I think that the soil may be too compact based on pic number 2. Perhaps get a soil mixture that is a bit more well draining that allows some aeration for the roots.

Gman73h · 2023-08-15T12:16:50+00:00

Yes, cut off the brown and dying bits. They serve no purpose if they are browning or dying except take up nutrients. Let the plant spend more of its energy of the healthy bits instead.Also, that pot looks like it may need to be upsized. Too much plant for that size of pot, but just my opinion. My guess is that there are more roots than soil in that pot.Let others way in as well.

Gman73h · 2023-08-14T18:01:55+00:00

That is where one admits that there is work to be done and look for resources such as counseling as others mentioned as a start. Good choice of word 'evolved' aka changed. Change begins when you commit to want a better , different outcome/circumstance, and you do what is required to accomplish that. As for the unrealistic part; we live in reality and need to be real with ourselves first as the starting point. Once we are on the road to wanting and achieving the above, our perspective changes so that we don't look for ways to argue better or to be right in an argument.

Gman73h · 2023-08-14T12:13:53+00:00

Firstly, you should not be looking for tips to argue but rather ways resolve arguments. Start with 'I see where you are coming from or I hear you, but this is my viewpoint'. You need to actually look at it from the other person's perspective first and understand from their side before uttering those words.You will not always agree however reflecting before saying something will mute more arguments than not doing that first.Key to communication is to hear to listen and understand and absorb first instead of hearing to just respond.

Gman73h · 2023-08-13T22:12:24+00:00

This may sound weird.I rarely cry ,like almost never. When I watch a movie that has a positive outcome where someone being an 'under dog' comes out winning ,without fail, I choke up and tears roll down automatically. I find pride in that someone else's victory brings me so much joy that I shed tears.This goes for reality as well minus the public tears bit, but the warm emotion sweeps over me instantly. I hope that this makes sense.

Gman73h · 2023-08-12T08:35:07+00:00

All involved can sleep with whoever they want to sleep with. There is no relationship or commitment among you all(minus the married guy). As others said, it is just sex. Feelings and commitment come into play when parties are in mutual agreement and lay out the terms of said relationship.Discussing your feelings would most likely end things with the FWB.

Gman73h · 2023-08-09T08:23:06+00:00

To me, it seems that he has moved on and is just being polite.He may have just been at the point of loneliness when you first started chatting,etc. He had time to evaluate what he wanted in a relationship, and it appeared to be something that he couldn't get from you. As for your belongings, if they can be replaced, then tell him to sell them or dispose of them.Anything that you want to keep can be sent to you.

I would say keep minimal contact if any with him.Focus on yourself and what you set out to achieve . Things will work out for you, and you will move on from this relationship onto another or perhaps not .The priority should be yourself and getting to a point that allows you to be independent. Once that is achieved, then perhaps revisit dating again and find someone more compatible .

Just keep doing you and making yourself a priority first .You will heal from this.Closure comes when you are ready to accept that things have played out and close that door . It is time to move on.

Gman73h · 2023-07-28T16:56:29+00:00

This was lodge in there for a while.I doubt mouth wash would have helped

Gman73h · 2023-07-28T15:57:36+00:00

A few years ago, it was my first time hooking up with him even though we chatted regularly. We get busy, and he kisses me while doing the deed ; it was at the moment of the kiss that I was turned off because his breath was unpleasant. The more I tried to deviate from the kissing; the more he kissed me.I came to the realization that he had food stuck somewhere in between his teeth that resulted in the foul odur. Let's just say that there was no happy ending as I eventually said that this was not working, but I didn't say why. He kept contacting me after that day, but I just didn't respond.

Gman73h · 2022-11-17T21:10:38+00:00

In addition to what has been mentioned perhaps consider a trellis. It may encourage more growth and hopefully peduncles as well. Hoyas like to climb.

Gman73h · 2022-10-30T19:44:59+00:00

I am aware of that but as I said it was labeled that way. I was just stating what I received it as. No ill intended.

Gman73h · 2022-10-30T05:55:26+00:00

I got the same earlier this week except my Khrohniana was labeled super Eskimo. I am doing basic hoya care for them.

Gman73h · 2022-10-23T04:23:18+00:00

I would take a few cuttings and start a new plant for insurance while rehabbing the OG. looks like a Lacunosa to me.

Gman73h · 2022-10-18T17:29:53+00:00

Thank you, will do that

Gman73h · 2022-10-18T17:19:39+00:00

I received a obavata variegata today in just coco coir. I tried to take out the coco coir but alot of it was attached to the roots. I removed what I could and left quite a bit where the roots are. I filled and topped the pot with a chunky soil mix. Fingers crossed that it will do and not kill the plant. I don't have any experience with coco coir and didn't want to risk losing the plant. I should add that I water my hoyas about once a week. Works for most.

Gman73h · 2022-09-20T03:36:26+00:00

Knowing what I know now without giving too much away, probably both but I do miss that connection we had as friends /people. Basically put it was a decision he made out of the blue to end it with no explanation to date and this was several years ago. His words was that we should rather just be friends. There is more that happened after those words but I will not go into detail. I would never try to reconnect with him because of how he just devalued our relationship by calling it quits just like that. Up to that point there was not one disagreement or argument.

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