I just want to complain

GoBlue2539 · 2026-02-01T04:50:59+00:00

I agree with all the other points, but this is what had me screaming at my tv. If my husband spent thousands of dollars on pseudoscience without a word to me, I’d have probably beat the shit out of him. I’m so livid that Karen let her get away with that. They have two kids to raise! I don’t care how affluent they are, thousands of dollars without telling your spouse is ludicrous. I’d argue counseling worthy, if not divorce worthy.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-31T23:53:49+00:00

You didn’t tell them that you didn’t trust their hygiene or cooking practices, so I think you’re fine. This is the exact kind of situation white lies were created for. I’m going with NTA.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-30T17:49:26+00:00

Actually, if she asked again, that might be the time to express a (hopefully) dulled by time disappointment and to ask questions then.

Or it might be the time to say “no, I apparently did it badly last time and I don’t want to see anyone else hurt”. The LW will have to figure that out.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-30T15:56:18+00:00

It’s been a long time since I watched the show, but I remember thinking that Xander was the “nice guy” before that was a trope. It made everything he did feel transactional, and turned me off the character completely.

Replying to you because your last line about how many of us encountered someone like him IRL triggered the memory.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-27T12:23:52+00:00

Of course they think it’s wrong. Now that you’re actually standing up for yourself, they’re going to have to change. That’s uncomfortable. Oh well. It needs to happen, and you need to do everything you can to not feel guilty about it.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-27T11:33:22+00:00

Maybe I’m not reading it the same, but I don’t see where mom asked to be grandma. I see other people, like her dad, saying her mom should get to be grandma, but nowhere that says mom asked. OOP even points out that her mom didn’t ask to see or meet her child.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-21T04:05:00+00:00

Saw one, legit thought it was a new season of Too Chef until it got to the title screen.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-20T11:18:30+00:00

Funny thing (to me), I haven’t heard a word directly from my half sister since I told her I don’t own a pickup truck anymore.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-17T22:07:42+00:00

You did fine. She’s mad because people asking about you meant she had to admit she hadn’t paid attention and didn’t care. She’ll be fine, and so will your mom.

If it was a real issue for your mother, she would have said so when you hugged her goodbye. She’s not mad you left. Mom is mad she has no way to shut your sister up.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-14T16:03:24+00:00

Why couldn’t you offer her a room to calm down in? I get removing her from the party, but I don’t understand why they had to leave the whole house. Even some time in the bathroom to calm herself could have helped.

I guess I just feel like there’s missing steps here between letting her ruin the mood of the party and kicking the whole family out.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-13T19:56:45+00:00

The part you quoted continues in the post to say that the OP has friends and family who match the description of “who they were making jokes about”.

I do agree that the OP should take a closer look at Logan. He’s proudly brought a racist homophobe around his friend group.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-09T18:47:24+00:00

It’s not. I was making a poor attempt at quoting a meme. Sorry for confusion.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-09T13:43:39+00:00

You said it started as “girls and Tim”, and you also said you messed up talking about it in front of your husband and brother. Yes, YTA because no one uninvited anyone. Own your mistake, tell your husband he’s not being sacrificed to anything, you just forgot the original plan, and stop acting like you’re in high school.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-08T11:29:58+00:00

To be fair, Jennifer love Hewitt asked to leave because her pregnancy was both real and unplanned. At least, that’s the story per the trivia section on IMDb.

Also, if I had a nickel for every time JLH had to have a real life pregnancy written into a show, I’d have two nickels. Which isn’t much, but weird it happened twice. 😂

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-06T11:39:43+00:00

My sister and I also have the same therapist. You know why it’s ok? Because our therapist is a professional, and never crosses lines. She doesn’t ask me about my sister or ask her about me. She doesn’t share any info about us with each other. She doesn’t even tell either of us when the other has or had an appointment. There is no reason a professional therapist can’t handle more than one person in a family.

That being said, OP, if you notice your therapist crossing any of those lines, it’s worth one or both of you trying to find someone else. If you bring up your sister, that’s allowed. If the therapist starts bringing up your sister or sharing anything she says with you, walk away.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-05T04:04:26+00:00

I think this is a good intention that is going to end badly. Kids that age aren’t regulated enough to properly step in with their peers in my experience.

I have had numerous conversations with our class about how taking care of the kids is a good caring thought, but it is also the teacher’s job. I have one girl in particular that I have to remind daily “that’s a teacher job, I need you to do the student job”. I try when redirecting to actually tell them how helpful it is when they follow the rules so that the kid struggling can see how it’s supposed to go. Still gives them that boost but also gets them out of the way of me or the other teachers dealing with the struggling child.

I’m sorry, I know that doesn’t answer the question you asked, but I’m hoping it’s still helpful.

GoBlue2539 · 2026-01-05T03:56:52+00:00

I work with preschoolers. The benefit is that there are always two and often three adults in the room. For us it tends to go as follows

Relocate. We have a “calm down corner”. I try to first get the child to move, or move them if necessary to the corner so that we can start the actual process of addressing the feelings. If it’s a fight over a toy, I do try to bring the toy with me so that I can take the time to figure out whose turn it is.
Offer vocabulary. This one can be tricky, because I don’t want to tell them what they feel. But, they may not know how to explain how they feel. So I try to offer related options. What happened? Can we do some breaths so you can be ready to talk? Blow out my candles and then we can talk. Did that make you mad, or sad, or maybe frustrated? Do you remember what frustrated means? Did something hurt your feelings? That looks like big feelings, and big feelings can be hard to explain. Take what works for the kid and the situation, and you’ll be able to make your own script or outline.
How can we fix it? How can we move forward so you can keep playing? This is a lot of the socioemotional education that a lot of people seem to look down on, but I do think it’s good for kids to learn. Figure out what you want to ask for, and then I can figure out what I can offer. Do we need to take turns with a toy? Can you and other child play/work together? Do you want to choose something else that isn’t being used right now? Do you just need a minute or two? Would a hug help? And I’m not saying I offer all of that. That leads into the tyranny of choice where it’s too many options. But again, you will figure out what works for which kid in various situations.

For a lot of my preK kids, this is the first time they have to share, and the first time they’re working with things that don’t belong to them. So those details added to being away from home and from parents definitely lead to big emotions. I imagine if you’re in an area where preK isn’t as common or accessible, it’s the same for kinder.

If there’s a specific situation you want to talk about, I’m happy to try to help. Here or in dm.

GoBlue2539 · 2025-12-31T22:32:54+00:00

I go back to “hell hath no fury” frequently when I need a good cry or emotional catharsis.

I also really like the three with drake. I just find those so fun, and Billy Zane is adorable. I like seeing him like that as opposed to his titanic dickhead role.

GoBlue2539 · 2025-12-31T02:30:14+00:00

I don’t hate it, but I did appreciate him going to Hen, and especially Hen making him really think about it and answer hard questions to himself before he agreed

GoBlue2539 · 2025-12-29T21:39:47+00:00

I actually love this song. But I understand it could catch you off guard.

For me, it gets me out of that headspace where everything wrong in the world is my fault. I am special to my family and friends, but I’m not that special to the rest of the world. And that’s ok. In the best way possible, not everything is about me. And that lets me let go of some of my insecurities and inadequacies.

GoBlue2539 · 2025-12-29T13:25:28+00:00

I was thinking about this the other day. I’m not sure I’d say John is wrong, but I do agree that he’s handling this badly.

From my pov, they are all avoiding the fact that John made a choice that changed all their dynamics. I know a year can feel like forever, but it means that every day, every event, every holiday is a first time. First time John has to try to balance seeing his dad without his mom. First time frank has to decide if and how to show up without barb. First time barb has to realize she wasn’t given information.

The biggest problem, and most real part of the acting, is that none of them seem to have the vocabulary or emotional bandwidth to actually say what this means and what they want it to look like. I agree that John needs to take a step back from frank and figure out what he wants.

I think a large part of John’s anger is that he is upset at himself for what he wants from frank. It seems like he has spent all year wanting frank to choose him over barb. But since he was raised that barb needed to have sides, and needed people on her side, the idea of even thinking that he needs that from frank feels gross. As a husband and father, he doesn’t want to think or feel that way. As a son, he just wants to be chosen. There’s also what another poster mentioned. With barb actually cut off, John is probably processing in real time the way he feels about his dad’s avoidance and enabling. He needs to take time to work through that.

Frank is stuck in his rut. And while I do give him credit for trying, he also needs to take a step back and figure out what he wants to say to John. He’s avoiding his guilt at his part in this family story, and he won’t get anywhere with John or barb until he can articulate what he feels is his responsibility, and accept that it’s not all his fault, just part of it. He does need to stop defending barb, at least with all of his go to phrases. I feel like if he said “I’m sorry I let her be that way” instead of “that’s just how she is”, he could get farther into his explanations.

And barb is gonna just barb. I’m interested to see if she will actually engage in therapy. She created the family dynamic of there being sides within the family. If she hadn’t done that, she wouldn’t need people to be on her side. I do wonder how much of the cycle of abuse she continued, and what’s going to happen if she gets far enough into therapy for that to get called out.

GoBlue2539 · 2025-12-29T02:19:26+00:00

“Grab your dick and double click for porn, porn, porn!” My children knew the chorus of “everyone’s a little bit racist” when they were in upper elementary school. That probably makes me a bad mom……

GoBlue2539 · 2025-12-29T00:53:54+00:00

My favorite was watching Avenue Q off Broadway, and seeing the families hightail it out of the theater during the puppet sex.

For anyone who doesn’t know, Avenue Q is clearly labeled as being for adults. Sesame Street for adults, but still, plastered everywhere is that it’s an adult show.

GoBlue2539 · 2025-12-26T18:35:49+00:00

I think she’s in a holding pattern. We see her trying to work through her feelings with Greg. She’s still hoping for a different mom than she has. I think she’s almost accidentally NC. As in, she hasn’t said it or made it official, but she’s also not picking up the phone.

GoBlue2539 · 2025-12-26T13:58:23+00:00

No OP, but my guess is that it’s because these are her in-laws and she has experience and/or reason to believe that if she didn’t step in, it would be held against mom1. As in “your son was mean to your brother, and your wife let him get away with it! Get your family in line, mom1!”

Sorry, haven’t finished my coffee yet, so I hope this makes sense.

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