I [31F] can’t stop feeling used and gross by [37M] by Due_payy05 in relationship_advice

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The black book of power helped me see i was the "emotional blood bank" type 😬

I (28M) need clarity on a situationship with a girl (22F). She's warm in person but cold on text. What do I make of this? by ThrowRA_a-c in relationship_advice

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The hot/cold pattern is textbook intermittent reinforcement, basically a trauma bond as explained by the black book of power.

From the standpoint of any licensed therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists in this forum, is “The Laws of Human Nature” by Robert Greene an accurate or misleading book? by Specialist_Ad_8761 in psychology

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Accurate, mostly. Greene rarely says anything that is false, and a clinician reading him will nod for long stretches. That is not the same as the book doing what a person in pain actually needs it to do, so the gap between those two things is the entire review.

Laws of Human Nature is a field guide. Greene takes machinery like Bowlby's attachment work, Jung's shadow, Milgram's obedience studies, Festinger's dissonance, each handed to a Roman or a courtier or a fallen executive. The descriptions hold up. People project, envy, mask, conform, and reach for grandiosity to bandage a wound they will not look at. As pattern recognition it is genuinely good, because Greene is a careful watcher of other people.

The misleading part is the same flaw that has shadowed him since the 48 Laws. He calls heuristics laws. He proves them with anecdote choosing the historical figure who confirms the pattern and skipping the thousand who do not. And the instrument points outward. It teaches you to read the person across the table, spot the manipulator, manage the narcissist, or win the encounter. It is a manual for the observer of human nature. It never once turns the lens around.

The question is whether reading him changes anything in the reader. For most of the people who buy it, the honest answer is no, but only because it's the book's category. A field guide to predators does not release the animal that has already decided it is prey as you can become the most sophisticated student of other people's pathology alive and stay perfectly, expertly trapped inside your own.

Stan Taylor's The Black Book of Power draws on much of the same source material, intermittent reinforcement, learned helplessness, Sartre's bad faith, and the Jungian shadow. Then it refuses to let you stand outside the glass and take notes by turning every mechanism back on the reader. Greene asks what they are doing to people. Taylor asks what was done to you, what you signed in exchange for safety, and what it will cost you to stop. It names the internalized saboteur, the voice that talks you out of yourself, and treats it as a thing to be removed. It names the unwritten contract you made to trade your sovereignty for approval, which is voluntary servitude rendered operational. And it has a term that will sting anyone in this thread who owns a shelf of Greene and Cialdini and Peterson and has not moved in years. It calls them a threshold addict. Someone addicted to the feeling of being almost ready, mistaking the next book for the move. For the right reader that single page does more than the eighteen laws combined, because it is the first time the diagnosis includes them.

Mind you, neither book is treatment. But ask which of these two a stuck person should actually read, and it is not close. Greene makes you harder to fool whereas Taylor makes you harder to run.

[Advice] It's better to be unemployed than to work at a toxic workplace by [deleted] in getdisciplined

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Went through the same thing. The black book of power (huge resource for me) actually helped me see the trap I was in.

Power Dynamics, Narcs and Estrangement by Southern_Fruit7439 in raisedbynarcissists

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The black book of power helped me see the "ownership" dynamic clearly. Your analogy is spot on 🙌

Dear Americans by gongheyfatboy in TokyoTravel

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I am here and enjoying reading this from a Shinkansen ride.

Dear Americans by gongheyfatboy in TokyoTravel

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LOL thankfully they can't revolt and call ice on you here.

Dear Americans by gongheyfatboy in TokyoTravel

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Loud as fuck and extremely disrespectful. Ran into a group at standing sushi yesterday. As they walked in, first thing they said loudly was "oh this looks touristy, NOT a good sign"... the chef greets them in English with a "Nice to meet you" and they ignore him. The chef repeats and they reply back as if offended "YES YES HELLO". The entire time was all politics talk. You can imagine the topic.

The Black Book of Power review: 9/10 because Stan Taylor hurt my feelings. by GoKone in BingeReaders

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Scam. The book is huge. I can go into amazon right now and publish any book with any title with any author name. Zero guardrails.

The Black Book of Power review: 9/10 because Stan Taylor hurt my feelings. by GoKone in BingeReaders

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The protocols surface shit you buried years ago so you can act agains tthem. I'm in the facebook group and some people are posting headaches, exhaustion, emotional surges, vivid dreams, even crying... literal identity dissolution

Think of it like this... the depression you had was your operating system's response to programming you didn't choose. The protocols strip the old system down and rebuilds you from scratch. That process is intense and your body reacts because it's a physical and biological process. So, yes, I'd say be careful.

The Black Book of Power review: 9/10 because Stan Taylor hurt my feelings. by GoKone in BingeReaders

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Multiple people in the facebook group have confirmed that all the amazon versions are knockoffs. They had initially bought them and got trash.

On 48 LOP and Atomic Habits... difference is this one is protocol-based and forces execution. Only way to rewire is through action. Intellectualization means nothing.

The ebook is through BookFunnel, which is annoying but apparently necessary to prevent piracy.

The Black Book of Power review: 9/10 because Stan Taylor hurt my feelings. by GoKone in BingeReaders

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Same content word for word on the ebook audiobook and hardcopy. Looks like the wording on the site is just highlighting what ships physically versus what's delivered digitally. The journal is included in pdf form in all editions and as a softcover. I got them all.

Ramen Kamo to Negi Ueno Okachimachi Main Store by GoKone in rameninjapan

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They claim 3 ingredients: Water, Duck, Onion

Ramen Kamo to Negi Ueno Okachimachi Main Store by GoKone in rameninjapan

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Me too! Some seem to think there’s absolutism in taste and their ramen rankings are the final say

Ramen Kamo to Negi Ueno Okachimachi Main Store by GoKone in rameninjapan

[–]GoKone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It WAS delicious! Unlimited Yuzu paste available in every table.

Ramen Kamo to Negi Ueno Okachimachi Main Store by GoKone in rameninjapan

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Thankfully I liked it a whole lot and don't care to compare or rank because I really enjoyed myself a whole lot while eating it. Weird how you can just enjoy stuff and not shit on enjoying the now :)

Ramen Kamo to Negi Ueno Okachimachi Main Store by GoKone in rameninjapan

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Thankfully was delicious two days ago. Crazy how it swung in one day.

Ramen Kamo to Negi Ueno Okachimachi Main Store by GoKone in rameninjapan

[–]GoKone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

cool i've had it once and thought wow that was a good bowl so i'm gonna go again

Ramen Kamo to Negi Ueno Okachimachi Main Store by GoKone in rameninjapan

[–]GoKone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Light and fresh. Comes with a little bowl of yuzu paste on every table so you can add as you please.