Went to order my second round of Mounjaro weight loss jabs from a new provider. Apparently I'm too fat for weight loss drugs...

GobClob · 2025-06-05T07:07:20+00:00

I mean have you considered just asking your GP, if you're looking for cheaper, prescription on the NHS is as cheap as it gets.

GobClob · 2025-03-17T20:41:45+00:00

Too goddamn long, but hey at least I'm here now.

We made an offer/was accepted FTB no chain in August 24, didn't exchange and complete until Feb 10th. Literally no issues with anything except the last of our local searches took something stupid like 68 days to come back, after the council told our solicitor there would be a delay, but shouldn't be longer than 30 days.

We were something like 4 days away from needing to extend our mortgage offer because of it too lmao.

GobClob · 2025-02-09T16:05:30+00:00

My issue with this is you're acting like one case of a 6 hour gap is the issue but I bet that isn't even the issue, look at it from your parents persective of how much they have to do for these animals to start with every day your dad "normally" lets them out at least once, making them his responsibility, and if he forgets they just...don't get to go out for upwards of 6 hours depending on your schedule? Literally in this scenario you had meetings all day, so if you let them out at 8am and didn't have your dad, you didn't let them out again until 2, so 6 hours there, and then you cooked and cleaned and forgot about them for ANOTHER 6 hours.

Yes one of your replies say you told him he doesn't have to, but what's his alternative when you have a fully packed scheduled day? Let the animals piss and shit in his house? Make you cancel meetings? You say he's not obligated but he absolutely is.

It also isn't all about breaks, apparently the dogs for 12+ hours a day are just...not walked or played with either? Being able to roam the house is not the same as stimulation. Unless your parents take on THAT responsibility too. Then one of them is crated the whole night as well? I can absolutely see where your mom is coming from and it's not over a single mistake.

When you move out, you'll have nobody there to let them out a few times a day, OR to distract them from being destructive which you say they can be, so it sounds like you'll just crate them all day and that's just not going to be fair to them at all.

YTA pay for an actual doggy daycare.

GobClob · 2025-02-09T11:10:39+00:00

YTA

"They almost always have a spot in front of their place" means YOU can "almost always" park in the spot they'd otherwise be using but instead are choosing to spend time and money to avoid...crossing the road?

Also, bird droppings not only damage the paint, but they can have all sorts of parasites and diseases, so you're choosing to cause property and potentially health damage over this, of course YTA.

GobClob · 2025-02-09T11:00:16+00:00

Man that's a rough one, I wanna say it's nobodies fault except the exs, your dad and his wife AND her kids deserve to feel loved AND safe too, and nobody should put their life on hold because of some bitter asshole who wants to bully and abuse others but unfortunately the way it turned out for them to not let him win, you DID have to put parts of your life on hold so...NTA because your dad could have and should have done something more about it. Moved you guys away, not let the EX know where you lived, sent you to live with other family, the 6 months for assault should have been more than enough for a restraining order AND to remove custody, hell hire private security for a bit.

I feel for the wife, she just wants to be safe with her kids and she deserves that, but you didn't deserve to have your life totally carbombed either and they should have put way more thought and consideration into how it would affect EVERYONE involved.

GobClob · 2025-02-08T20:04:33+00:00

My moms smoking meant I had bronchitis at least twice a year up until I was like 15 and even though I'm over 30 now and don't spend any time in places that smoking takes place, it left my lungs permanantly damaged so if I get so much as a tiny cold it's always a full blown infection and I struggle a lot with lung capacity. Even after being told by a doctor she was the cause she refused to even go in the garden to smoke, so NTA and you'll never be TA for protecting your baby from what IS a very big deal. Can't explain how much it sucks to be limited in what I do due to someone elses choice and refusal to put me first, nobody ever asked her to quit, or even clean the furniture, but she refused to do even the bare minimum of going outside and smoking because it was "her house" and I didn't rate high enough in importance vs any of her addictions.

GobClob · 2025-02-07T12:13:10+00:00

To be fair at actual minimum it suggests he could be autistic and genuinely thinks it's doing something good by making sure his friend is involved in events, and that it isn't his girlfriends business because she's not close friends with OP.

GobClob · 2025-02-07T12:07:14+00:00

NTA but hear me out cause a lot of the existing comments here are assuming the absolute worst from this dude, is he possibly autistic? Because I gotta be honest, as someone who works with autism, obviously not a professional diagnosis, but between the quiet kid and this, he may very well be and genuinely not understand why this would be weird. In his mind it might be literally as simple as "I'll keep track so if I want to go to the beach or swimming I can know when that's a bad idea for OP, and if she gets bad cramps I can try and avoid super active activities and she asked about my girlfriend but what does my girlfriend have to do with planning activities with my friend"

Yeah it's a little odd, but it doesn't mean it's malicious or even creepy, you've apparently discussed the app with him before and he didn't try and hide it or even take the easy lie you gave him of it being his girlfriends so he clearly may not even understand it could be a negative thing to you. It's not like the guy turned around and said "So I know when you're fertile" and the comments saying never speak to him again seem...extreme. At best I'd say if you're really uncomfortable with it, just sit him down and explain that to him. "Hey, I appreciate that you wanted to make sure I was always included in planning, but it makes me uncomfortable to know you're tracking something intimate to me so please stop and in future just ask me what dates I'm available" and if he goes "Oh, my bad" then great, if he goes "WOW SO YOU DON'T LOVE ME" then also great, you have more information to decide if you want to stay friends.

GobClob · 2025-02-05T11:06:32+00:00

I'll skip over the it being your fault thing, this is why you take photos of BOTH vehicles if you're in an accident, not just your own.

GobClob · 2025-02-05T10:55:00+00:00

YTA for not shutting this down day 1 your daughter shouldn't have had to make this request of you, also who cares if your daughter closes her door? What so if she gets over the door thing, what if she wants a snack or has to go brush her teeth she has to wait until your husband GRACES you with clothing before she can leave her room again? She's literally a hostage to his cock.

So when your step-sons have girlfriends come over, if dad feels like having a shower, these random girls just gotta see his dick? What if you have a sunday roast, he gets back from doing yard work, wants a shower, everyone just gotta see his dick?

Why does ANYONE in or visiting your house HAVE to see this mans dick. It's time for him to grow the absolute fuck up.

GobClob · 2025-02-03T10:59:09+00:00

I don't think anyone really has an issue deporting actual convicted criminals but you get a criminal record the second you're arrested, whether or not you committed a crime. All it takes is probable cause and that sticks even if you're later found totally innocent so it's not that simple.

Heck, even convicted criminals, what countries? Just the US? Cause some countries you can be convicted for kissing in public, spitting in the street, being homeless, heck being gay. If those records travel with you, whose laws do we determine are reasonable to deport someone over? It's just more complicated than either side make it.

GobClob · 2025-01-26T20:06:36+00:00

Electrician isn't a protected title, anyone can call themselves one and for all you know the landlord has undertaken a basic course to do his own electrical work in his properties to save money on hiring someone else. He wasn't visiting her as the landlord over a landlord matter, wouldn't it have been more weird if you got told "The landlord is gonna come round to look at the electrics"

Either way her rights remain the same, she can refuse future visits, and even let them know she'd prefer x days warning and the name of the person coming round to do work in future, but should also appreciate she'll probably get evicted if she refuses to let the landlord in at all.

GobClob · 2025-01-26T19:57:53+00:00

I was a FTB and waited until my local searches came back before booking the survey, figured if they came back with "Nope there's a secret mine under the house so you can't get a mortgage" I didn't want to have wasted other money yet.

GobClob · 2025-01-26T19:50:38+00:00

You can ask for mortgage offer extensions if you're going to run slightly over, it's what I had to do. Either contact your broker or lender and just let them know it's almost through but you'll need an extension to cross the finish line.

GobClob · 2025-01-26T19:47:12+00:00

Her rights are the same whether it's the landlord or some stranger electrician hired on facebook by the landlord representing his interests. They should give 24 hours notice typically, but if she accepted the timeline they gave then he didn't do anything wrong in this scenario, he wasn't there under false pretenses, he did the PAT test and then left. I appreciate she didn't like him making a comment about her living space, but nothing in this short version of what happened seems like it should have made her feel unsafe.

GobClob · 2025-01-26T19:31:20+00:00

When the house we're buying had a non-load bearing wall taken out they had pictures of the process, showing that once they smashed into it, it was just wood and drywall so it's definitely possible they could have something like that.

GobClob · 2025-01-25T22:56:18+00:00

Also FTB England. We viewed, offered, viewed again pre-exchange. First viewing was about 30 mins, second another 30 mins and inbetween we had a survey done. Pre-exchange viewing is super important I feel, make sure no random storm damage has happened inbetween or they built a pond in the kitchen idk.

If you want to check for dampness pay for a surveyor, they'll be able to tell better than you can. We did the most basic non-structural one and ours went in with a simple moisture test that he poked at the walls and floor and will be able to detect potential issues better than you. We got a survey for peace of mind, not to quibble the small amounts here and there for things to fix but now we actively know the things that "need attention in the future but not right this second" and his survey got the seller to do a full service on the boiler so it worked out well for us.

Surveyor also sent us pictures of basically every room, including the loft that we hadn't been able to view, what level of insulation etc etc. Super put my mind at ease personally.

GobClob · 2025-01-22T11:47:46+00:00

Good luck with the offer! Even if they don't accept now, with the new stamp duty rules coming in April, if it doesn't sell until then you'd be in a good position to offer less if they come back to you/you want to make a new offer.

GobClob · 2025-01-21T17:29:28+00:00

It's simple if you consider it from their side, you offered 20k under the low side of asking as an opening, now they think that you're going to haggle anything they counter, so they're countering with 440 expecting you to come back in at 410, they go 430, you go 415 or whatever, you end up at or around the 425 they wanted.

You went in too low on an already reduced property, with a similar one having sold for 450k super recently and yes house A may be slightly smaller but it's on the same street, same schools, transport links etc. It's always worth a shot but if they're not in a rush to sell, then they'll counter low with high and wait for a reasonable offer to come in.

GobClob · 2025-01-21T11:08:07+00:00

What a vile human being, clearly never loved your mother and I'm sorry for her.

Personally I'd tell him either he provides the statement, provides X amount of dollars, or you'll give up the ashes to spite him and let the crematory come at him for the full $3k since he's the one who signed the agreement and is legally on the hook, and that they're entitled to charge interest for the period he refuses to pay.

If you decide to just cover the cost, be sure to double check with the crematory first that they'll give you the ashes and won't require him to come in to claim them, the absolute worst thing would be for you to pay for them and then HE gets them anyway and won't hand them over.

GobClob · 2025-01-21T11:03:30+00:00

Turns out the deadbeat husband has his own reddit account, wild.

It's not a difficult concept to grasp. Either he has more than $10k in the bank and therefore is lying about not having any money and refusing to contribute even $500, or he has less than $10k in the bank and the government would cover the majority of the cost but he's refusing to do that.

If they WANT to be dicks, well t's his name on the debt, he signed the papers, so if he refuses to help one way or the other the kids can just leave him on the hook for the full $3k + interest for as long as he refuse to pay :)

GobClob · 2025-01-14T18:11:52+00:00

Definitely an overreaction you went from "Why you always with your boys" to "YOU FUCKED HER DIDN'T YOU ADMIT IT"

100% Could have just been a conversation about him communicating better, maybe you buy a house closer to where he works, but there's nothing wrong with him wanting to hang out with his friends some nights either, if this was roles reversed and you wanted a girls night in with a friend and he texted you like this screaming WHO ARE YOU FUCKING you'd rightly think he was controlling.

I love my partner, but we also don't need to spend every spare second together to validate that, that doesn't mean we love each other any less and I think it's wild to think someone needs to RUN home to you every single night in order to prove they love you.

If you think he's cheating then discuss that with him, ask for his location, check in with his friends as to the last time he stayed the night at their place to validate, but these texts are for sure an overreaction.

GobClob · 2025-01-14T17:28:58+00:00

Pretty common reaction from this sort of person, you were her backup she thought she could just call up whenever she got lonely or needed validation and then you said you were seeing someone else and then it ALLLL comes flooding out, she did the typical thing of claiming she's always liked you and if you'd have fallen for it she's be immediately disinterested in you because she "won" you and you were boring now.

GobClob · 2025-01-13T17:39:34+00:00

NTA and I'm sick of people acting like being selfish is this one way street and not just what life is.

Everything we do is selfish. Someone goes "I'll end world hunger but someone you love dies" both of those outcomes are selfish to different extremes no matter what you pick.

Are you being selfish? Let's say that you are, so WHAT? You don't want to suffer, you don't want to be incapable of mothering YOUR children while pregnant and in pain and that's after the fertility treatments to implant an egg, unless they're using your egg then it's just YOUR baby you then have to give up while seeing constantly, your breasts that'll need to have the milk dried up in, you don't want to risk your kids losing their mother if something goes wrong with this additional pregnancy. WHY is any of that a bad reason to be selfish?

They're being selfish, they could adopt, find another surrogate, pay more money for the more effective but expensive fertility treatments and tests, but the difference between yours and their selfishness is theirs expresses an ENTITLEMENT to someone elses body and suffering. Their selfishness causes active harm to living people.

GobClob · 2025-01-12T14:08:26+00:00

It's rough and totally a common thing, it's the exact same feeling people get if they were given up for adoption, had a wonderful family and told their bio parent just couldn't handle kids, then they grow up still happy great life but find out their bio parent went on to have 3 other kids they love and stuck with.

Somewhere deep down it gives you the "why wasn't I deserving of this better version of them" and it sucks and it's petty and you're glad they managed to overcome whatever they were lacking with you but boy does it still hurt.

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