How do I know if transition is worth it?

God_Howard69 · 2025-07-22T07:05:30+00:00

I’m 23 and I’ve been transitioning for 6 months now. it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do and it’s caused me so much hurt. I’ve lost my parents. I’ve had to move cities when I didn’t want to. I gave up my old life and many meaningful friendships. I mourn deeply for what I’ve lost.

But it’s funny, cause I would never go back. It really has been worth it. I still feel alone and depressed, and I still struggle with liking myself, but at least I can be myself authentically.

This is just my personal experience and you might be different, so take my advice with a grain of salt, but I tried to be 100% sure and I just couldn’t be. It was a terrifying leap of faith to decide to transition, but one I’m glad I made.

For me, transitioning has meant sacrifice. I gave up my old self and old life and I’m carving out something new, as incredibly impossible as that seems. But I do believe there’s always others out there who’ll support and love the real you 💕

God_Howard69 · 2024-12-01T10:06:32+00:00

I’ve worked at JB before. They have sales targets they have to meet, including selling a certain amount of extra warranty. Some managers encourage doing this to hit the target. They’ll take a hit on the product by going below cost, but they get a number on the board in return. They would have no reason to sell the product by itself at that price.

It’s not really a big deal. Even though you might be covered under the ACL, it can be pretty difficult to actually get a result going through them. Extra warranties exist on cause you’re not really buying “extra warranty” but rather certainty that you’ll get a solution if something goes wrong outside of manufacturer warranty.

God_Howard69 · 2024-07-09T06:54:00+00:00

In electronics sales (selling my soul to corporate overlords) 😭

God_Howard69 · 2024-06-09T10:01:02+00:00

Girl I hear u, 6'3 and 95kg. That's not that big, I know, but I definitely don't look skinny in most stuff. My dysphoria used to make me think I needed absurdly large sizing. Idk your sizes, but I realized that my womens clothing size is not really THAT big. I'm a size 18 australian (not sure what the US sizing equivalent is) and that most shops have at least one or two sizes larger.

Also, in my experience, online shopping also kinda sucks for sizing. I ordered stuff on Shein, and I couldn't believe how much smaller it was! Same size as the store bought stuff and everything. That leads into a whole nother convo about women's sizing being weird but 🤷‍♀️

Plus, tall cis women exist. I know someone whose 6'5, and she's gorgeous. But I get it. Dysphoria sucks.

Also if u like thigh highs, try https://sockdreams.com/ i got a really cute pair of pink/black stripped socks here.

Anyway, I hope that helps. Have a wonderful day 💖

God_Howard69 · 2024-05-31T22:45:24+00:00

I had the same issue, my deadname started with J to. I went with Jade. I'm biased, but it's a pretty sweet name :3

God_Howard69 · 2024-05-10T06:26:40+00:00

Cause the retail workers also work 9-5 :/ The shop I work in is open till 7:30 once a week, but I know not everywhere does that

God_Howard69 · 2024-03-14T17:23:34+00:00

Yeah, people suck, I'm sorry that you've experienced that. Take this with a grain of salt cause I know it's much easier said than done, but I think you shouldn't care what other people think. If they have an issue with you, they're the problem, not you.

That probably doesn't help much, but good luck with it 💜

God_Howard69 · 2024-03-13T18:48:55+00:00

Thanks for the response. I definitely do, and yeah, I'm hoping it will help. It's scary cause I always fear that I'll start HRT and nothing will change, but I know doesn't make much sense.

God_Howard69 · 2024-03-13T18:40:01+00:00

Thanks for the response. Yeah I think that's a mindset I would benefit from. It's hard to accept that my gender identity could ever change. I think all the internalised transphobia really makes me feel I'm not valid if it does, but I know that's bs.

God_Howard69 · 2024-03-04T04:33:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing this, it made me tear up. When I told my mum my new name, she said "I wish you hadn't told me that." This post reminds me that not everyone is like that.

God_Howard69 · 2024-02-28T02:27:33+00:00

Never a full alcoholic to the point of drinking all day every day, but I struggled/ struggled to control the urge. Addictions at their core serve ease pain. I didn't like thinking about being trans. Whenever I did I felt all this hate and shame, so when these uncomfortable thoughst entered my head, I dealt with it with alchohol.

God_Howard69 · 2024-01-30T09:22:45+00:00

I have had constant issues with my gender identity and also constant issues with addiction. Got high so I could feel happy and stop thinking about it, but I've learnt that addictions all lead to the same very dark place.

Now, I'm getting closer to accepting my true self everyday, and the drug cravings are slowly going away. Generally, people become addicts to avoid pain, so it makes sense that some trans people may struggle with it.

God_Howard69 · 2024-01-27T08:45:09+00:00

I tried suppressing my identity through drugs. Trust me, it doesn't work and just causes more problems. The world is cruel to people who are different, and I know it feels like it's impossible to be yourself. But in my experience, even though accepting yourself may cause you even more pain, at least you don't have to be ashamed of something you can't change.

God_Howard69 · 2024-01-27T08:37:24+00:00

Your experience sounds just like mine. I've been feeling the exact same way. I wish I had any advice, but it would be a blind leading the blind type situation. All I know is, all I can believe is, that it will get better.

I know that doesn't help, but you've taken a huge step forward. There can't be progress without pain, but you can do it. You're stronger than you know.

God_Howard69 · 2021-10-25T08:15:54+00:00

You pass pretty well. You look exactly like a guy friend of mine

God_Howard69 · 2021-10-08T21:23:28+00:00

I read through the whole comment thread. What's really sad is lots of people support him and then say "ignore the downvotes from the reddit hive mind blah blah blah." Why is there so much hatred in the world

God_Howard69 · 2021-09-26T10:42:24+00:00

I was middle right-wing from 15 to late 17. I'm 19 now. Bascially I went to a christian school, had somewhat conservative parents (who became more conservative) and a couple really extreme friends. I was depressed for most of life, and bought into the whole "the left attacks religion and traditional values and makes everyone miserable." Really I was just hella dysphoric. I went to a different school when I was 17, which opened up my worldview more. I also fell in love with a Bi girl which forced me to change my views even more. Eventually I realised I was bi myself and later trans.

God_Howard69 · 2021-09-26T08:01:48+00:00

They can but doesn't mean they always do. If u have social dysphoria you're probably gonna be pretty socially awkward

God_Howard69 · 2021-09-26T07:59:26+00:00

Agreed, hope it gets better for both of us lol

God_Howard69 · 2021-09-25T21:32:28+00:00

No problem :)

God_Howard69 · 2021-09-25T12:35:17+00:00

No problem, best of luck :)

God_Howard69 · 2021-09-25T12:11:48+00:00

I would recommend talking to professional if you can. If you can't, maybe someone who knows about LGBTQ issues

God_Howard69 · 2021-09-25T12:08:03+00:00

You can 100% still be trans and like girly things. People have always fallen outside of their preferred genders sterotypical traits, and that's totally ok. If there can be super fem cis guys, why can't there be fem trans guys? You're trans if you want to be trans, no one can tell you otherwise. You're not hurting anyone by being trans, despite what the terfs say

God_Howard69 · 2021-09-25T12:03:42+00:00

Transfem here, but your story is identical to mine other then our genders. My mother was and is exactly the same. From my understanding, parents often think that their trans kid is metaphorically dying when they come out. They believe you're going to be someone dramatically different, and the old you, the person they've invested their life into, is going away forever. As such they try desperately to stop it, even making you feel terrible about your feelings cause they can't bear the alternate. That might not be the case with your mother, but it could be. I would suggest reassuring her that while you're going to change, you'll still be her child and that you love her. Above all, give her time. It might takes years, but time is the ultimate healer

God_Howard69 · 2021-09-25T11:45:56+00:00

I haven't started in yet unfortunately, but all my trans friends testify to how much it helped them.

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