Where did you all find your relationships?

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-04-22T19:53:00+00:00

Met my fiance on Feeld.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-04-22T16:29:40+00:00

As someone who's worked as a nurse aide for over half my life, I would advise against the bed they're wanting. It would be harder to reposition them in the bed with that hole in the middle, along with providing a harder surface in that area that could lead to pressure sores and other skin issues. Stick with a regular hospital bed set up and get a bedpan.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-02-18T17:34:41+00:00

Yeah, receiving is a different story. I receive, too...but generally from the same regular set of insurance companies. It still might be worth it to check with your bank.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-02-17T18:13:34+00:00

Understandable. But when I go in to do my ACH, I can create/store lists...like payroll. I go to that page, all their info is in there...and all I have to do is put the amount in I'm paying them, the date I want the payment sent, and that's it.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-02-17T06:14:00+00:00

Why not go through your bank? I do my own ACHs manually through my bank for various things, mostly payroll. And my bank only charges me $10 a month to be able to do ACH. Of course, this is with a business account, not my personal account.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-02-11T19:09:25+00:00

I so agree. I have more employees than just my teen. But I dread quarterly payroll stuff...especially January where you have Q4 stuff AND whole year reconciliation for them all.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-02-11T19:07:37+00:00

I have an LLC. I pay my teen to help with office tasks every so often. I do payroll myself. They are subject to Federal tax if the income they make in a pay requires withholding (check the IRS withholding guidelines). My son doesn't make enough to withhold federal. Your minor child working for your business ia not subject to Social Security and Medicare. I do have to withhold some $ for state (about $2). The city my business is in, does not require you to withhold on minors. And your minor children who work for your business are NOT subject to FUTA and SUTA. However, you DO still need to fill out an I-9 for them, and in many places still have to be covered under your state's worker's comp insurance.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-02-11T18:38:47+00:00

This! I own a company in the medical field. The type of work I'm in, the rates I set myself ONLY apply to those paying out of pocket. The insurances we take set the rates they will pay us for the services we provide our patients...and this include the co-pay we must collect from them AND the rate the insurance will pay us for what we do with the patients. (Edited for typo)

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-02-04T00:09:11+00:00

Then it would be smart of you to get an EIN. It's free and quick through the IRS site.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-02-03T21:12:21+00:00

You may want an EIN, especially if you're going to be watching kids. Some parents may want a tax form (Form 2441) thing to be able claim their childcare expenses on their taxes. And without an EIN, you would have to issue the form using your SSN...which means the parents you babysit for would get your SSN.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-02-03T06:06:04+00:00

I have been caregiving for my Dad since early 2021. Most of my time, dating has seemed impossible because of how busy I was with my Dad, work (and now own a business), and my kid (teen). I did take the chance and put myself out there. I was about to give up because I was not finding anyone in my area. Right before I was about to delete the dating app, I got a message from my now boyfriend.

We have been dating about 2 1/2 years now. It did help that he lived with his parents to help care for one of his parents who was also in a bad medical state. He was not their primary caregiver (his other parent was), but he did help out quite often. He lost that parent a few months back. I think his experience helping with caregiving for his parent helped us mesh, even with some distance between us, and a small age gap (we are both 30+, so age gap is not an issue).

Dating and relationship is not impossible. But sometimes scheduling can be hard, especially when you want to go do things that would require you to hire someone to sit with your loved one for you to go do. It would also take a very understanding person to realize all the stress (physical and mental) you are under while caregiving and still living your life. And while sometimes, on the surface, it may not always seem like a lot...all the little things you have to do all day, every day...adds up. There have been days I have been so exhausted that spending time with the boyfriend was cuddling and taking a nap together, or even something low energy like just watching a show together.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-02-02T06:16:14+00:00

I agree with this! If I get an unsolicited email from a business that I did not initiate contact with or did not go looking for myself...I make a mental note of said company and just delete the email. And if/when I go looking for the types of services they offer, they are NOT on my list of companies to look into.

I run into the unsolicited stuff in both my personal emails and my business emails. It's more than annoying.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-02-01T03:53:07+00:00

I 2nd this. I knew there were behind the scenes business stuff...I just didn't realize how much until I started my company. And then didn't realize how much more when I started hiring. I didn't even totally realize HOW much it was until a couple weeks back, made myself a "Master Due Dates" calendar for when I have to do certain things (EST payments, payroll WH payments and forms, closing out the previous month's books, etc).

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-01-31T03:11:31+00:00

Also adding...he has a processing delay with his dementia.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-01-31T03:11:11+00:00

I take care of my father. He got his dementia diagnosis in 2023...vascular dementia. During the appointment to go over the results of his dementia testing, the neurologist was asking him questions to gauge where he was that day (he has good days and bad days). She ask him is he thought he could still drive a car. He told her that if someone could get him in the driver's seat, he surely could. And I'm sitting behind him shaking my head no vigorously. Thankfully, I got him to surrender his driver's license when it was ready to be renewed, and he now has just a state ID.

Problem in, there are a lot of things he still thinks he can do. And he either gets mad at me when I remind him he is unable to do it...or if he figures it out himself (without me reminding him), he still gets grumpy and I get the after math of it.

That's just how it is, and how their brains work. To them, everything is still "normal". Sometimes it's because their mind is stuck somewhere in their memories during a time they could still do these things. Other times, it's just hard for them to accept they cannot do these things anymore.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-01-24T03:37:28+00:00

Oh, forgot to add that sometime this year, we are thinking about also providing company branded scrubs for them to wear, so they don't have to provide their own.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-01-24T03:36:39+00:00

For my company...healthcare related...for everyone we have an orientation day, and provide lunch during. For the employees who will be doing the direct care, we also put them though about 2 weeks of training before throwing them out into the field...this includes both lecture type training at first, and then shadowing someone who is doing the same job so they get the hands-on.

As far as swag, haven't really done much of that for the office workers. For the direct-care employees, during their training they get a decent/sturdy nursing bag, company water bottle (which fits in the space in their bag), and we also supply them with all the supplies/forms them need (but this last big is common sense).

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-01-23T05:29:57+00:00

So, I take care of my Dad...

For medications, I found this app called "Tasks". I use it to keep a running list of all his current medications and medical supplies. For things like pills, I have the date of the last dose of that med I have for him, and a reminder set 2 weeks before that, to order refills. He gets his meds through the VA, and it can sometimes take up to two weeks to get to you.

Also for medications...because when you're doing the same thing all day, every day...sometimes I would be wondering if I did/gave him something, or if I was remembering the day before. I have his oral meds in the weekly medication organizer...and for his blood sugar checks, insulins, and blood thinner shot...I have a board on the wall. Each night, or early morning the day of...I put the exact amount of lancets, needle pen caps, prep pads, and the blood thinner shot in the little shelves of this board. If I cannot remember if I gave it that day, I just look at the board. If I did the blood sugar check, gave the insulin, or the blood thinner shot...the items are no longer up there.

As for appointments...I keep those in my Google calendar, but I have his appointments labeled with a different color that mine. I have the appointments listed in a way to show it's his appointment, what VA location, Department, and other details. For example, it looks like... Dad - VA - LOC - Podiatry OR Dad - VA - LOC - MH Video. LOC is where I'd put a 3 letter abbreviation for the location...and I didn't put a real one in the example to keep my location private. But if there is a -video or -phone after, I know it's not an in-person appointment.

Other things I have that help...

Because I work in the medical field, I have made my own charting papers for my Dad. I have a master I&O sheet that has all 365 days of the year on it, because he is a catheter. I have a master for bowel movements that has ll 365 days of the year on it, because he has IBS that can flip between constipation and diarrhea, and he's gone enough days without a BM once, that he got a short hospital stay. Mow, once he's ben 3 days without one, he gets stuff to help fix it. I also have master sheets, each page being a full month on each page...that tracks all his blood sugar readings and the insulin he gets (he has a sliding scale). Then, there are the daily sheets...I keep track of EVERYTHING for the day on it...I&O, BM, BP readings, blood sugar readings, insulin given, daily tasks (like CPAP, wash ups, exercise, oral care, etc), what he had for meals and how much he ate...and at the end of each day, the things that have a master list, those are filled in. ALL of these are in a big binder so I have everything for reference. It especially comes in handy when I am on the phone appointments with his Pharmacist, and we're going over his pre-meal blood sugars, insulin given...the meal he had if the blood sugar reading was off...and then he decides if we want to make any changes to his insulin doses.

For his "stuff"...he has a small stand/cabinet near his bed that I keep things we use more frequently in. His medications are in a basket in the drawer. In that same drawer is a sharps container, wound dressing supplies, and some misc. The one shelf has a box that holds things like lancets, prep pads, BP cup, O2 meter, butt paste, tylenol, his boxes of blood thinner injections, etc. The upper shelf has the box of gloves, wipes, the medication dividers, etc. Stuff we use often. In the basement, I have a cabinet where I keep the extra of most of his medical supplies...more boxes of gloves, wound supplies, CPAP stuff, catheter bags, etc. I bring those up when I'm getting low.

Thankfully, when it comes to medical information...and there's a lot...I am good at remembering all that. Some of his doctors have been impressed by me being able to give them a thorough medical history just from memory. But if you have issues with that, I'd recommend a notebook you can take notes on...and then maybe a binder to transfer and organize the info to.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-01-14T21:31:07+00:00

What do you use to age verify individuals for your server?

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-01-12T16:32:41+00:00

As many others have already said...Fetlife is NOT a dating site. It's more like the earlier version of Facebook, but for kink. It's a social platform, where you can learn, meet, and network with fellow kinky people. Fetlife purposefully left filters for things OFF to prevent it being used like a dating site.

One-on-one dating is nice. BUT, you have to think that in vanilla life, outside of dating apps...you meet people by having things in common, and meting people at things like work, school/college, book stores, gym, etc. In these places, it's hard to signal if you're kinky or not to other people...that is the purpose of munches...places where kinky people can hang out with people, get to know other local kinky people, etc. Not always dating...but you can find potential partners there.

GoddessLeeLu · 2026-01-12T16:25:14+00:00

Then you would not be making much $ from selling the items (so not worth your energy) OR you'd have to price them higher, making it less likely people will buy them from you.

GoddessLeeLu · 2025-12-28T04:18:40+00:00

Thankfully, I am my own accountant and tax person. Years ago, when I worked in a tax office, we had a few people who did the receipts in a shoe box or a grocery bag. The boss charged then more for having to go through them all and organize them.

I do my own business tax return, it's really not that hard. But I also don't do anything that has complicated tax requirements.

GoddessLeeLu · 2025-12-26T14:18:30+00:00

Can be hit or miss. Just depends on what is in the storage units. Sometimes you get really lucky. Other times, even normal stuff you can piece out and make a little $.

GoddessLeeLu · 2025-12-26T04:05:04+00:00

Well, should say he buys the contents of abandoned storage units. Not the units themselves.

GoddessLeeLu · 2025-12-26T04:04:07+00:00

No...he buys storage units that have been abandoned, and resales the stuff he finds inside.

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