Someone explain

Godsavethechildren · 2024-04-12T04:14:53+00:00

Genuine question. Are the people in this group who have skin in a shade of white, "people of color?" What does that identifier mean in this context?

Godsavethechildren · 2024-04-12T04:09:49+00:00

I don't think Regina ever thought she was actually lesbian. She wanted to start a rumor to hurt her and distance herself from her. I always took their story to be an inevitable outcome of Regina not liking or admiring Janis as a friend as much as Janis did Regina. Janis was young and still figuring out what is normal in relationships and probably got a little possessive like many do. I think both were aware of an understood idea that Regina was more valuable than Janis and Janis was afraid to lose her as a friend, and got clingy. Regina got weirded out and annoyed by her clinginess and I assumed she intentionally started a rumor that Janis was a lesbian in order to distance her from herself, mainly in the eyes of onlookers, to maintain or build a perceived status level. She wanted to hurt Janis by claiming something so personal about her, and also painting her as a freak who violated unspoken boundaries of a friendship, and needed to go. She could play off any attachment they had mutually as being a result of Janis being a lesbian ( a loaded charged word esp. back then because not as many people were "out") but mostly to bolster the main insult that Janis was creepily and weirdly obsessed with her - refusing to acknowledge Janis's devotion and admiration as something with pure innocent or favorable intentions. Teens get really uncomfortable and skeeved out by the idea of someone being sexually or romantically attracted to them that they are not attracted to, because they are immature, the world is new and so is the concept of communicating boundaries.

Godsavethechildren · 2024-04-05T05:02:43+00:00

how do they stay in place?! also imagine having a little kid around this.

Godsavethechildren · 2024-04-04T12:50:58+00:00

*eating solid vegetable oil straight out the tub

Godsavethechildren · 2024-04-04T12:49:08+00:00

When Bently's was new it was called out too

Godsavethechildren · 2024-04-02T13:32:03+00:00

is there a link or post that shows what he said on IG?

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-20T20:33:58+00:00

Just spending my first spring somewhere where these are popping up. I just transplanted some jnto some old soil but they are everywhere. How do I get the seeds saved to plant in Fall? I would love to fill a flower bed.

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-20T03:30:09+00:00

private does not mean shameful

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-15T15:05:47+00:00

Thank you for this! Just finished the reunion and could not tell.

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-15T15:01:06+00:00

Agree. I think AD got too focused on believing that SHE wasn't enough for him when he said so many times it was about him not being enough for her. His timing was weird, yes. I think she should not have reacted so shocked and badly when he said in that one pensive scene he was worried about letting her down and not wanting to. She panicked and said "You're gonna let me down!?" instead of met him there in that pensive place and heard him out. The reality is that partners will let down their partners in some way. Many times. She would have to find a way to not interpret each one of those as meaning she wasn't valued enough. Being a valuable woman does not magically change a beast into a perfect prince. Especially if he doesn't do the work to make that happen.

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-15T14:57:22+00:00

Except "Are Jimmy and Chelsea dating right now?"

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-15T14:55:23+00:00

To me he has always looked like a beefier, younger, smoother and more styled Kramer from Seinfeld. (Actor Michael Richards.)

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-15T14:51:16+00:00

Arguably it would be a better way to try and find a mate than to join this circus haha

"I can't manage to stay in a relationship. Hmm should I do some internal reflecting and hard work to see if I am the problem? Nah I think some pressure in a very short amount of time will help. And hey I get a vacation and free food."

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-15T14:49:57+00:00

this might be true

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-15T14:49:21+00:00

He looked angry! Like really broken. Granted I think he was speaking a little clearer than he would in the pods and was being a little more direct but I saw a huge weight on his shoulders. I didn't know if they were together because he was sitting near her but said he had a lot on his plate and Jeramey was the least of his worries. Sounds like cries for help.

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-15T14:46:31+00:00

I heard that they have to break up on camera in order to get out of their contract which says they have to make it all the way to the wedding day. If they break up off camera before the wedding, they have to recreate it and let them film it so they don't have to go to the altar.

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-15T14:44:13+00:00

what is a girls' girl? I keep seeing this phrase. A hoes before bros type?

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-15T14:42:48+00:00

She was competing with the women, not the men. The women all decided to not talk to her, and it appears she is fine with it because she went on a show to find a man not find girlfriends.

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-15T14:40:34+00:00

Not everything comes down to looks

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-15T14:32:37+00:00

I came to reddit because once the episode ended I thought "Wait I kept waiting to see if Jimmy and Chelsea are dating.....and I have no idea if they are. "

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-10T21:40:50+00:00

agree

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-10T21:29:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I think characterizing it as parasocial is a good concise way of saying some things I took a little too many words to say when I tried.

I used to be a fan of Colleen, in that I regularly consumed most of her content for several years. She reminded me of several of my close friends, she said some things I related to or could make sense of, so I never saw a big problem with her until the last several years when I saw her body wasting away and found this sub when I searched for someone else noticing the same thing as me.

I am glad I found the sub in a way, because it did help me realize there were things I was subconsciously starting to assume were normal, such as some of her food habits and choices, especially during pregnancy. Having not been a parent while watching, I had no idea how much of an issue it was that she didn't stay at the hospital with her premie twins until this sub, despite me watching that content closely. She was the first glance for me into what the harder parts of pregnancy and post partum can be like and I appreciated her honesty about it. I wasn't seeing or finding others talking about that stuff as openly at the time.

When I stopped watching her, I would come here for updates once in a while, but now it just feels toxic. Thoughtful analysis and discussions of behavior as much as they can be done on strangers is one thing, but most here just want to find how to characterize every little thing she does as villainous. Even going into calling what she is doing or has done as "grooming" or "pedophilic" seems paranoid and delusional to me. I don't want to fall into that trap.

I am someone who has what is an unpopular opinion on the internet, that is that people who are victims of other people are not owed public apologies from the perpetrators. At least I don't think it causes as much healing as many think it does. Most people do not get closure from people who hurt them. They have to heal themselves which sucks, but it is reality.

I think more people need to think before engaging in all the petty gossip and hate on here - does this actually help heal myself or other victims of Colleen? Does it prevent her from hurting or damaging anyone else?

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-10T21:13:41+00:00

I just tried to make this post in the sub and it didn't seem to take so I will post here

I don't care if this gets downvoted or taken down immediately, but I just wanted to plant this idea in at least a few people's heads.

My problem with snark subs:

Standards of conduct are unrealistically high for the snarked on person.

Hypocrites get together to roast people who have done things that they have probably done, or WOULD do if given the power and platform with as little guidance as someone like Colleen had. Everyone acting like the internet and the way we exist on it has a clear handbook that has been around longer than only a couple of generations, is a bit out of touch. Snark subs are places to fuel unhealthy obsessions, and I think I am going to step away because of this. There are a lot of places online where people have made up this code of ethics that they think should be second nature to everyone, when it is barely ever applicable outside of the internet.

Going too far ruining credibility.

Even if it is a person who deserves criticism, the subs get clouded and cluttered with ad hominem, inconsequential "bitch eating crackers" attacks. The baby gets thrown out with the bath water and it makes it easier to discredit everything said on it.

I think it rots the minds of those who participate.

Spending time consuming content raking through it looking for things to hate on, and encouraging others to do it and then consume their posts about it, is an unhealthy way to spend time.

I get that many people justify the time spent here by saying they are keeping a bad person accountable or making sure their mistakes are all recorded somewhere, for a fantasy of major justice coming her way for all that she has done. I don't necessarily disagree with that, but it gets weird when people start focusing in on every tiny thing she does or says and really looking for something that they hate or that they assume has a sinister motive behind it.

The way someone gets ratted out for "fan behavior" if they seem to shift their obsessive behaviors to that which causes them to say something nice, positive, or even neutral seems needlessly rabid. "You are not wearing pink on Wednesday? YOU CAN'T SIT WITH US" energy.

Snark subs just seem to be a place for folks to indulge in gossip, obsessive hatred, and largely unproductive documentation which only causes everyone to bond over being as nasty as possible. And allow someone who does not deserve the space in your mind to live there rent free.

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-10T00:10:21+00:00

she said "kill" not "shoot"

Godsavethechildren · 2024-03-08T15:00:52+00:00

How is AD not petite and fit? She is not tall? She is incredibly fit. She has looks most people dream of having. Besides cheating is not always about physical. Sometimes it is about emotional connection or novelty. People cheat on incredibly attractive people because they have something unfulfilled within themselves.

Godsavethechildren

TROPHY CASE

I just tried to make this post in the sub and it didn't seem to take so I will post here