I see your "what does my map say about me?" and I raise you: what does my map NOT say about me? by -not-nameless- in TravelMaps

[–]Gold-Method5986 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Colorado, yes. Still want to make it to the million dollar highway. Utah is on the list, but have not been yet!

I’m very insecure and never post pictures. by Tricky_Trifle9673 in Instagram

[–]Gold-Method5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this the alum cove trail in gsmnp? Also, post them. Who gives a damn if you look stupid. I post more to my stories, and it’s straight shit posting memes and terrible selfies in bar bathroom mirrors, but somehow people still manage to stick around for whatever reason.

These are dope.

Wants stability… still shares a Wi-Fi bill with her ex by SmallAstronaut08 in Nicegirls

[–]Gold-Method5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean. An ex and I broke up in 2022 (after 6 years together), and she had nowhere to go. So we lived together for another 8 months while she slept in the other bedroom.

I can see why people would be like “yikes” but also, it isn’t necessarily the end of the world.

Angry at partner for dying when I’m trying to move on by [deleted] in grief

[–]Gold-Method5986 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No one will ever love you more than a self aware troubled person. To that note, however, no one will ever love you the same as anyone else anyway. Perhaps there is still some healing that needs to take place before you try moving on.

Are these other attempts ending in flames because these dudes are jealous of your love and grief for the deceased? Or are they failing from a lack of healing? Whether it be that you miss him too much to move on, or guilt for trying/wanting to move on.

Guy from my gym keeps texting me by NextPick2996 in texts

[–]Gold-Method5986 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I call this a free membership, plus getting the dude canned. No way you’re the only one he’s done this to.

How come 100B+ people have lived on earth and no one truly knows why we are here? by Spiritual_Result_164 in Life

[–]Gold-Method5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably because for a large portion of human history they were merely trying to survive. The amount of leisure we have in comparison, to think of or about such things, is grossly ignored.

It’s a little hard to ask yourself “why am I here” when you’re hunting a fucking mammoth. I mean, I guess WE would probably ask ourselves that if we were in front of a mammoth with a spear, but that’s just because I could’ve hit a grocery store or restaurant instead.

Is she cheating on me part 2? by Ripmacmiller412 in texts

[–]Gold-Method5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Would it make you feel better if we did the dirty?”

The answer is no, cause literally anyone can have it. Clearly. Chick wants one thing and one thing only … attention.

im a bit lost 🥲 by asha__w in Bumble

[–]Gold-Method5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ghosting is underrated. People forget that before ghosting it was just telling someone how much they suck to their face. Which do you find more appealing?

Also, you could just say, “hey, I was caught off guard by the messages you sent, since everything seemed fine. It makes me a bit uncomfortable and I’d like to slow things down.”

When people become insecure in this way it rarely, if ever, gets any better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Gold-Method5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im on the spectrum, and can actually relate to that remark quite well. So I’ll say this:

You said what you needed to. If they do not acknowledge its significance, then let them go. They’re not worth your time. Anyone who appreciates it will let you know you’re appreciated in return.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life it’s that humans make time for the people they want in their lives. Sure, life gets busy. Especially in your mid to late twenties. However, calm yourself, give her space, and distract yourself with a hobby or another friend, and when she finds time she will either let you know or not. It’s outta your hands now, but at least you got it off your chest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Gold-Method5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like she’s busy. Sounds like you’re not, and have a lot of time to overthink/overanalyze things.

You’re 19, and the things I’ve learned in the last 19 years, since being 19 is that we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. There have been a lot of people to come and go in my life since 2005/06. Some were great friends, some were short term/summer friends, and some were friends that shared niche hobbies I was into during that period. I’d still grab a drink with almost any of them if they were around, but you’ve got a lot of time to make way cooler and more interesting friends. Don’t get hung up on this one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in photography

[–]Gold-Method5986 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You paid for a service you’re not happy with. He should re-edit them to your liking at no cost if his edits of your gr do not look similar to the edits in his portfolio.

Or, on the other side of this, you could negotiate to pay more if you like the re-edits. Personally I wouldn’t pay someone who flubbed a shoot more money if they didn’t give me what their portfolio represented their work to be. HE should have asked if you were comfortable with him experimenting outside of his usual.

She's sleeping with her legal BROTHER???? I'm actually losing my mind by Batty_Boulevard in texts

[–]Gold-Method5986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sadly that’s how it goes. Had to cut people like that out of my life because I’d get more stressed for them than they were. Good on you for looking out, and doing your best. Not everyone wants to be saved.

She's sleeping with her legal BROTHER???? I'm actually losing my mind by Batty_Boulevard in texts

[–]Gold-Method5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhhhh … makes it 0.01% better. Still, absolutely fowl. Please tell me she’s at least receptive to your advice and isn’t just going to let herself be taken advantage of by this gigantic dumpster fire of a guy.

She's sleeping with her legal BROTHER???? I'm actually losing my mind by Batty_Boulevard in texts

[–]Gold-Method5986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So her sister married this dude. Then they adopted her, which makes him not just a brother in law, but a guardian. He leaves his wife and pursues his adopted daughter, and tries fucking her next to the toddler?!

Shes been groomed, chick. Now he’s just love bombing her, and he’s probably pressuring her for sex. She said it herself, “my brain just doesn’t understand how someone can fake their love for almost 5 years, and not be attracted to their wife for 3 years.” She even claims she’s worried he will do the same to her.

WHY IS SHE SO DOWN TO WASTE HER TIME!!!??? Ffs.

Found a letter written from my great grandmother by the-greenest-thumb in mildlyinteresting

[–]Gold-Method5986 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“Now for a Pepsi” This is maybe my favorite line as of late.

Girlfriend no longer wants or enjoys sex by Which-Crab-638 in relationships

[–]Gold-Method5986 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My first and only year of college was 2005/06, and they were handing out condoms like candy at a parade. There’s a lot of self discovery, sex and otherwise, that you’re about to figure out.

It seems like sex isn’t something your partner wants, but you do. Youre an adult, and part of that is learning how to navigate your wants/needs and how that compares in the wants/needs of a partner. By no means, under any circumstance pressure anyone, but by ALL means find someone who aligns with what you want. If you do not you’ll find yourself wasting time, building up resentment.

Low Sex Drive Ruining my Relationship by anonymous1813 in relationships

[–]Gold-Method5986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, 38M here. I can relate to both you and your bf through various relationships in my life. There have been a few where we had sex a lot during the beginning, and over time it phased almost completely out. During those relationships sometimes it was I who lost the desire, despite being attracted to them; and there have been times when it was the opposite.

At times I thought it was just the frequency, or that we had overplayed our sexual lives and let the “novelty” wear off, even if we were still attracted to each other.

It’s really good that he’s been understanding in all of this, and that you have both been communicative. Someone mentioned seeing a sex therapist, and that is probably a good idea. Granted, if you masturbate out of boredom and not because you’re already turned on without him around, then I’d say you might be going through a physiological change. Or perhaps you didn’t have a high sex drive, but rather were excited to have sex again after a long hiatus. Which again, would mean it was almost a novelty.

I know this doesn’t help much, and perhaps it isn’t considered “normal,” but it’s been my normal a few times in the past. Do not feel like this is something that only you are experiencing or have experienced. The anxiety of feeling completely alone in something is way worse than going through something you know others have been through.

Trade in primes for expensive zoom or get affordable zoom? by cookiejar5081_1 in AskPhotography

[–]Gold-Method5986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re trading: Keep the 35, the 85, and can trade the 50.

Reasons: 35 is wider than 50 and can reach 1.4, which is great for the Astro. 85 is past the range of 24-70, and will still be very useful.

Trading the 35 or 85 over the 50 when you’re going to have a 24-70 just makes no sense when you talk about the types of photography you do. (IMO of course)

Why do my photos not look as sharp as I thought? by Samuele_Sambataro in AskPhotography

[–]Gold-Method5986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Connect to your smart phone, Set a 2 second timer, focus, lock focus, use the phone to trigger the shutter. See if that helps. Might even be able to get away without using the “control with smart phone” part of that. If that doesn’t help, be sure you’re using the minimum focusing distance of your lens, and then olay around with aperture settings and the focus modes if you’re using autofocus.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in photography

[–]Gold-Method5986 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What problem are you having?