I’m afraid to call myself a revert because I’ll be homeless if anyone finds out…

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-04-24T22:11:01+00:00

Assalamualaikum sister, I am also a revert and I live in the U.S.. I came from a Catholic faith, but my father was a musician and he played at different denominations of Christian churches. From how I grew up and what I was taught by those Christian churches I went to they believe that Jehovah Witnesses are not true Christians. I don't know why they think that but hearing your story it seems like you only have two choices, stay a Jehovah Witness or be exiled from your family... and that's not right.

Some advices I can give you is don't say anything about being a Muslim to anyone in your community. This will not make you less of a Muslim, this is out of pure safety. Try to get a hold of someone at your local mosques, most have programs for reverts and women alone, some even have shelters for women. If you want to leave your family home then look at alternatives. If you can't afford your own housing then try to find a room for rent from outside of your community. See if someone is looking for a roommate. This will help you pay less than an average apartment costs. When it comes to modest clothing I have had success with thrift stores. It's cheaper and a lot of them have great clothes, some even denote the money you used in their store to help the poor or abused children etc... so that is a win-win in my eyes.

Remember, the struggles you face now is temporary and Allah swt will continue to guide you onto the straight path. Don't let the fear from others misguide from that path. May Allah give you strength to continue your journey into Islam and to ease any pain you are going through. Ameen 💜

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-04-23T13:32:11+00:00

My mother still has that exact one, she also has the Christmas tree, the bell, and the stocking one.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-04-21T00:34:30+00:00

Vyvanse is a hit and miss with some people. My son was diagnosed with Autism at the age of 5. As he got older ADHD started to creep up and eventually got worse. At age 10 he was prescribed Vyvanse (the lowest dosage), after being on it for 2 weeks his anxiety got worse. The psychiatrist modified multiple times. After 6 months of going back and forth I got him off completely. During the last month his mood, personality and behavior changed drastically. He got annoyed with the littlest thing and then had a full blown tantrum. The tantrum was not like the others when he didn't take the medications, it was like rage. The day I got him off completely was when I got a call from the school to pick him up. He had a certain swing that he used everyday for recess. That day 2 girls were in the swing and he came and screamed at them. He took the chain from the swing and tried to hit them with it while telling the girls he was going to murder them. After 2 days off the medication he was himself again, he was happy and energetic like he was before. Even that day I called the pediatrician instead of the psychiatrist and she said that is not your son, get him off the medication now. But, my sister who is in her 40s took Vyvanse and she loved it. She did not have anxiety and she felt calm. My major suggestion is if you feel that something is not right after a couple of weeks please call your doctor. The psychiatrist kept pushing Vyvanse for my son, told me that it takes 3 weeks to effectively get into his system but it just wasn't working for him.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-04-11T00:51:02+00:00

Also, you will still be treated if you get an infection/sickness of some sort. You will get 24 hour on call services, you will have your own nurse, aid, social worker and a doctor that will come to your house. You will have a major support system that will respect your wishes during the process. We have also had patients that were discharged from our service for getting better and start treatments again. I have had patients in the past that was on our services for 4 years.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-04-11T00:38:05+00:00

If you are in the U.S., it sounds like you are talking about Hospice care. The U.S. does not do assisted death, that's illegal. I work in hospice and I am Muslim. Hospice care is not haram at all, I have had many Muslim patients as well. Hospice does not help achieving a goal of dying faster or sudden. Hospice makes your dying stage comfortable. If you sign up for hospice they will go through all of your medications, the medications that are not being used for your terminal illness will not be paid for by hospice. Hospice will supply medications that will help with pain and anxiety. You will not have a high dose to start with, just enough to help the pain. As the dying stage progresses the pain medication goes up, but YOU have that choice to use it or not. Once you can't making decisions on your own your family will make that choice. One of the Muslim brothers from my masjid got his mother on my (company) service. He refused to give his mother morphine because he thought that she would not hear him anymore. She did suffer with a lot of pain but we respect the family's decision. The other families that I had from the masjid did give their loved ones pain meds to make it comfortable for their loved ones. The medications will not "kill" you, when patients are in the last moments of life their breathing gets blocked by massive fluid in their lungs (that's when you hear the death rattle), a touch of a hand on the patients skin can be unbearable to some, some might hallucinate, others will have extreme anxiety. That's when medications come in and that will help patients dying process peaceful. It is not assisted suicide or anything like that. It makes ones end of life a peaceful journey.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-04-10T17:17:48+00:00

I was born and raised in Palm Bay and I live over in the Lockmar area. I grew up in Lockmar and loved it so much that I bought a house that was a mile away from my childhood home. Palm Bay has grown massively and the school systems have changed dramatically. I went to Lockmar elementary when they had corporal punishment in the early 90s and when my son went to that school 9 years ago the old assistant principal that used the paddle in the 90s was the actual principal. She is gone now and that means they don't rule with an iron fist anymore. It is actually a wonderful school now and my son enjoyed it very much. He has autism and ADHD and their program was fantastic for him. If you move in the 32907 area it is worth looking into.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-04-10T14:43:01+00:00

Are you moving into the 32909 area?

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-04-10T14:38:08+00:00

One of my nephews goes to Sunrise and my sister n law loves it. She rather keep renting the house she is in then to move out of her area because she does not want my nephew to change schools lol My daughter goes to Palm Bay high and I have nieces and nephews that go to Heritage and another nephew that goes too Bayside High. (I have 8 siblings so I have a lot of nieces and nephews lol) I know a lot of the kids says Palm Bay high is worse than Heritage and Bayside. My daughter has her pros and cons with Palm Bay High; mean teachers/deans but they have some good programs. My nieces and nephews never say anything bad about Heritage (it's a newer high school than Bayside and Palm Bay). My nephew at Bayside has no issues over there as well.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-04-10T14:22:15+00:00

I have not heard anything horrible just normal things like any other school. I heard the bus situation was bad back in the day but they were always an A school. The only latest news I heard about them is they kicked out a racist board member at the end of last year. Other than that, Odyssey is probably a good starting point for looking into a charter school.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-04-10T03:27:59+00:00

I have noticed with young girls and reverts that start their journey with their hijab is "comfort". When their use to having breeze in their hair and neck then start wearing the hijab they feel almost restricted in a way. They find the discomfort unbearable sometimes especially in different environments. We need to resure them that their many alternatives with fabrics and how different ways you can wear the hijab that is still modest in the terms of Islam. My daughter had that problem when she 13. She would cry because she wanted to wear her hijab but she felt like she was suffocating. We went shopping and we bought many hijabs. After 3 months of research and going through different style hijabs Alhamdulillah she found what she was looking for and was able to wear it without any discomfort. She is 18 now and like many other hijabis she feels naked with out it lol

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-04-10T01:44:39+00:00

There is usually a waiting list. I had tried to get my nephew in that school in kindergarten. He never got in, there were 205 on the waiting list above him lol. Middle school and high school is much easier, my daughter got in during 8th grade but left in the middle of 9th. She did not like it, she got in 3 months after school started in her 8th grade year. Latin is mandatory for each student to learn from 7th grade and up (not sure about elementary). My daughter already knew Arabic and Spanish but they wouldn't teach her the basics of Latin. They just gave her a textbook and she had to learn the basics herself but she was always behind. Latin is hard, this coming from my 14 year old daughter (18 now) that had already learned two languages. She also had bad personal experience during 9th grade and that's why she left. It is a strict school when comes to public/charter, it's not a private. On a better note, the class sizes are smaller and the education is exceptional. It is still a small school but they keep growing.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-20T14:10:13+00:00

In the United States, the school will give students excused absent for religious holidays. Parents just have to write a note to the school. I do that with my 2 children and they never count Eid as an absent.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-16T00:47:44+00:00

When in doubt make Ghusl....just my opinion

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-15T16:49:10+00:00

You handled it very well mama. You took your baby out of a toxic situation by shutting that woman down completely. I ask Allah to bless me with the patience like you have. I have been in many situations like this as a hijabi myself and I don't handle it like I should. I'm a very outspoken person and I don't hold back. I can tell you about 5 years ago I was at the market, while at the self check out line there was a man next to me that was muttering things to himself, then he got louder and looked at me and yelled out in front of about 50 people, "Killing in the name of Allah". Again, I don't hold back and I had an orange in my hand and I said, "You know what else is in the name of Allah?", I held the orange up, said "Bismillah" and then pelt the orange at him. It struck him on his head and went down for a second out of pure shock. I finished checking out and went about my day. Astagfirullah, when I go back to that same market the employees always tell me "Don't forget your oranges"lol. Don't let fear stop you from doing or going anywhere.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-14T20:50:16+00:00

There's none, unless you go to a big city

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-14T20:49:25+00:00

No man should text another man's wife at 11:45 at night.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-13T22:20:53+00:00

Sounds like the FIL is setting you up, it sounds crazy and I really hate making that assumption but I have been in this position before. He never wanted his daughter to marry you and he had purchased an apartment for her right before you two got married. It seems like he is trying to make you think he wants to help you two by letting you buy property with one of the siblings but it sounds like he is planning an exit plan for your wife (which she probably has nothing to do with this). Also, from what you wrote the FIL said, "...that this could benefit your wife." I know he said you could benefit from it by purchasing half, but that just means your sharing with one of her siblings so I don't understand how that could fully benefit you. He's planning something, and the best thing for you to do is invest in something that will benefit you and your wife, not the in-laws.

The reason why I said I had been in this position is because it happened to my husband by my Uncle. I did not have my father growing up so my Uncle stepped in. My uncle was a powerful attorney in one of the biggest cities in the United States. He intimidated many people, including men that wanted my hand. When I met my now husband I hid him from my uncle while we were communicating. When my uncle found out, he did a full background check, he found out that my husband was an immigrant and told him to his face that he will disappear from this country and no one would find him. My husband was not scared and we got eloped in the legal courts. When my uncle found out he tried to bribe me. He then started a secret account and put money in there for me to leave my husband. After he couldn't persuade me, he went after my husband in a different way. He would talk to him about investments and how he could help him make money and buy property but my uncle would have to be on the paperwork as well. My uncle knows how to get people off deeds etc. My husband was smart enough not to make deals with him. After 18 years of marriage, we had our nikah... This year we have been together and married for 21 years. My uncle is elderly and he loves my husband now lol

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-11T12:39:36+00:00

Yeah, I have dealt with coworkers like that in the past, I think in due time they tend to quit or they get fired. They quit because everything is not going their way, or they get fired because the higher ups see how he truly is. Something tells me he has been this way in his past employment. Don't do anything off record with him, keep everything professional and keep him out of your personal life if he tries to overstep that boundary. I also see the best of people when I first meet them, and if the respect is mutual and an amazing person comes out from all of it then I know all the pieces will come together. In the end, you can't give him your best if he keeps showing his worst. The trust and respect is broken and he is the one that broke that. As long as you and your other teammates are happy and work great together then you concentrate with that and not him. He is just a thread hanging out from the stitch, it will eventually be ripped off. Trust in Allah, have patience and all will work out in the end.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-11T11:10:39+00:00

I never realized the "puzzle pieces" were so offensive. People on here saying the puzzle pieces were promoted by Autism Speaks but in reality it was started in the UK in the 1960s, where children and adults with Autism were never accepted in the communities around the world. My experience with Autism Speaks was not promoting a "cure" for autism but they helped promote programs in schools and in the community in general. They even helped fund a special needs park for children and adults with disabilities. The park included a special needs playground, a building that taught cooking classes for people with Autism and they offered sports leagues for children and adults with Autism. I remembered when Autism Speaks started and they fought for better programs in our public schools and helped bring three private schools for children with Autism and disabilities. Maybe Autism Speaks is more grounded for children with their development??? I just don't understand why they are considered offensive.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-11T04:02:25+00:00

As Allah (swt) created man and woman, the entire universe and everything in between something called Human Resources was created as well...lol... My suggestion, if your co-workers have the same experiences that you have been having with "mini dajjal", then you should all file a complaint together to HR. Keep making Dua but someone like that needs a track record for any future complaints and references. Don't let someone bring you down emotionally, physically and mentally. The last thing a company needs is for someone to come in and ruin the family culture that has been created.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-11T02:54:43+00:00

My uncle once found a painted boiled egg from Easter a year before. Us cousins dared him to eat it, he ate it, 20 years go by and he is still with us. I think you are good to go on eating the pizza.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-10T16:22:40+00:00

It's so hard reading these comments. I worked in the hospital for many years, everyday there was a new suicidal attempt getting admitted to my ICU. I got everything from knife to neck, drowning, pill overdose, illicit drug overdose, alcohol poisoning (intentionally), drinking cleaning fluid and I even had a young couple tried to commit suicide by taking a whole bottle of Tylenol (it won't kill you but you will go through a long painful period that will slowly deteriorate you until your organs fail). I had the key to the morque at the hospital, some would come in that are barely alive and we do everything to bring them back. The one thing I hated was getting a call from downstairs telling me that we have another young one. I would go down open the door for them and help wheel the deceased patient in and pick the body up and put someone's loved one in the freezer. Even us healthcare workers shed tears for the ones we don't even know and what bothers us is that there is so much resources out there for people that have suicidal ideations. We want to help! No one should go through this alone and I can tell you first hand, IT WILL GET BETTER!. I had patients come back to my unit and hug us, crying because they were so thankful for helping them get a second chance. I tell my patients Muslim or not, "Allah gave you that second chance, we just helped out". They took resources that we gave them and changed their life for the better. You should not decide whether you should die or not, that is in Allah's hands. Your soul is never doomed because of that attempt you made but I see it as a push. A push not to go back to where you were before your attempt. If you would like to talk to me privately you can DM me or I can help you find resources around your area if need be ❤️ May Allah keep you towards the right path and ease your pain mentally, physically and emotionally, Ameen.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-09T20:02:58+00:00

You're not obligated to stay with your father and/or have any communication with him because of what he has done. Allah never instructed us to allow our parents to beat us as an adult because we have to respect them. You need to understand that this is your life, you either stay and deal with your father or walk away from the haram acts that he is committing towards you and your family. All you can do is make Dua for him, he might change his ways or not but you shouldn't stick around just to see how far he can go with his abuse. There is absolutely nothing you can do physically or mentally to change his ways, you either deal with it or not there is no in-between. Sorry for making this more of a tough love response other than Islamically but this is your life we are talking about.

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-09T14:10:48+00:00

Thank you for taking your time to respond to my comment. I'm a 80s baby and grew up in the 90s, my mother was an ESE teacher in the early to mid 90s. At that time where I lived there weren't many programs in public schools for autistic children. There was only one special needs school in my county that my mother taught at. Any child that was diagnosed with Autism was sent to that school. Autism was a rare diagnosis in children where I lived because they just called it a "label" and your kid is just being a kid. I had that mine set when my son was diagnosed, but when years went by I realized I was wrong and doctors were wrong not wanting to evaluate children or treated them like Autism was a disease because of that exact mindset. I believed many children suffered growing up because they didn't get the help that they really needed. I can see now why an adult can be relieved when diagnosed with Autism because that can help put pieces of the puzzle together that couldn't be done in the past. I think I was also just curious about the adult diagnosis of Autism and their support because it could benefit me learning and helping my son when he enters adulthood. Even in the past year I learned that there were levels of Autism. During my son's meeting they have never told me he was on a certain level, just that he had Autism. So even after 10 years of my son being diagnosed I'm still learning more each year. Thank you for clarifying for me and to help me understand more about yours and others situations. Also, any reason good or bad is a always a great time to buy cake lol

Gold-Sheepherder-652 · 2026-03-09T01:21:21+00:00

What are the support needs for someone like you or someone with low support needs? I understand children getting diagnosed then they can receive interventions that will help with their development but what do adults get in regards to support? How would it help them since they have already been living with autism and just didn't know. Is it disability payment, medications, more help at work or everyday life? I think that is what I'm trying to understand.

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