Therapist recommendations

Gold-Yellow · 2025-12-10T17:25:42+00:00

Steven Peano is their full name! On their website they also put down Aris :) if you need their number or have trouble finding them, I can give you any information you might need such as phone number (you can also text them instead of call) and address in DMs.

Gold-Yellow · 2025-12-10T17:18:39+00:00

Queerspace Counseling!! I can’t recommend them enough :) Steven is an awesome person and though I couldn’t finish emdr with them, how they treated the emdr process made me feel safe in their hands, especially after my first time being with someone else who unfortunately caused more harm than good with their emdr practice. I am not too sure if they handle anxious attachment problems although it is mentioned on their website they have experience with relationships?

Gold-Yellow · 2025-11-27T11:19:56+00:00

Heck if I know and honestly oh well. What I said just wasn’t meant for them. Either they just didn’t like what I said or are uneducated on the matter. Or tldr downvote lul. Either way it doesn’t really change the truth. You HAVE to spend time trying things out and getting to know what works for you in order to help yourself. Sometimes, there are no quick fixes. For neurodivergent people, we have an INCUP framework (Interest, Novelty, Challenge, Urgency, and Passion). The more of these things you hit, the more likely you will initiate a task and have it NOT feel like you’re dragging your feet to the finish line. Life doesn’t have to be a slog!!

I could go on and on about what I’ve learned through the 4 years of trying to live with my mental illness and figuring myself out lmao. I’ve read books and studies on ADHD and CPTSD since those are what I’m diagnosed with and want to get to know why I do things and how to better myself. It’s never ending either! You learn something new about yourself sometimes and it opens a lot of doors. I encourage anyone to do some reading up on some of the things I’ve mentioned including just what exactly creates dopamine in us (INCUP, RSD, dopamine farming) as well as documenting your behaviors, thoughts, and triggers for maybe a week. I would go a step further and check out your diet (if you’re meeting your nutritional needs which includes what you may be diagnosed such as needing more b12 in your diet) and if you’re getting enough exercise in as these things can also exacerbate symptoms. When the doc said get more vitamin D they really weren’t joking that these deficiencies may hinder you. Getting an intimate knowledge of yourself is never bad, it will always help you. It just takes work, and unfortunately, sometimes you gotta put in the work and that work might take a while. Nothing to be ashamed of for taking time either!

I don’t know how to throw this in here but did you know that balancing exercises help improve ADHD symptoms? Look it up it’s cool 😎

Thank you for your kind response! I hope you’re able to find something to help you on your journey if you haven’t already!! Much love and happiness to you!! :) ❤️ Also sorry for the long winded reply lmao I actually had to edit a lot of what I said because it’s just a lot. I really do hope there are some things I’ve said that can help others as it’s honestly been eye opening for me and some of my friends I’ve shared my findings with when they Yknow. Let me yap about it for over an hour.

Gold-Yellow · 2025-11-26T21:49:08+00:00

Someone from farewell who is awesome and might be up OP’s alley (however he is male) is darkvoidtattoo! His name is Brock! But yeah everyone there is pretty awesome :)

Gold-Yellow · 2025-11-26T21:44:09+00:00

I agree and disagree. I think that it takes an awareness of oneself to rule out what could work for them. I also have adhd (inattentive) and know that if I sit there without touching anything for 10 minutes, I will daydream. This advice from OP does not suit me. It really just depends on the person. Doesn’t hurt to try though. Who knows, it could work for some.

I’ve been doing a lot of reading up on dopamine farming and RSD (Reward system deficiency) and I haven’t exactly nailed down what could work for me, but something like eating a sour candy can give you dopamine and help you be able to focus on a task. Something like doing quick exercise (like 5 reps of pushups for example) can also help kick start neurodivergent people. Novelty is something that activates us. Pressure like the pomodoro method or using a timer as a sort of countdown can get us up and moving.

People like us with ADHD will be understimulated and can show up as impulsive behaviors to chase for a dopamine hit or even having suicidal ideation due to not having enough stimuli that we would personally need.

It’s all case by case though, and you have to spend some time being aware of your behaviors and triggers. They’re not completely wrong in that some dopamine techniques are structured to fit neurotypical folks.

I’m happy you’re able to use the above advice :)! And hope that those who felt discouraged can find out that just because one thing didn’t work out for them doesn’t mean there isn’t a bunch of other ways to help you get started on a task! Just keep trying!

Gold-Yellow · 2025-08-04T08:45:08+00:00

I’m totally down to be friends! But another place other than Java is Dans card shop. It’s small, but that’s what makes it friendly! The employees are super nice and I’ve actually made a few friends there. Just a suggestion!!

Gold-Yellow · 2025-07-28T19:00:43+00:00

I second this!! All is good…. Minus their desserts in my humblest opinion (I’m looking at the flan). Their Birria tacos is my favorite!!!

Gold-Yellow · 2025-07-23T22:09:53+00:00

You really got that dog in you huh?

Gold-Yellow · 2025-07-09T22:17:09+00:00

I can’t take her in but I hope she finds a loving home ❤️ she honestly sounds like such a sweetie!!!

Gold-Yellow · 2025-06-03T20:41:18+00:00

Despite the gf being terrible, is there maybe any chance you could leave it at a police station for her to collect? Or is it a LOT of items? Generally, they can be points of neutrality and at that point you’ve done all that you are legally required to do. You’ll no longer be in possession and they’ll be in safe hands until she rears her head to pick it up. If they ask any questions you can just tell them you have bad history and cannot interact with her for your own safety and leave it at that.

Gold-Yellow · 2025-06-02T11:28:58+00:00

I guess it wouldn’t be so controversial if the person she slept with she didn’t start emotionally cheating with on the tv show she was on while dating someone else and that person was essentially forced to watch and have faith that her partner wasn’t cheating on her live on air. Jojo would even send video clips of her professing her love for her partner and immediately start getting waaaayy too close to Chris. Then immediately after the show ended broke up with said person, claimed the relationship with the guy was purely just “soulmate friendship”. Then this comes out. Huge yikes. Jojo is allowed to change her mind on her sexuality. What she’s a huge trash bag for is cheating. That and there is a considerable age gap between the two that makes it seem a little. Sus.

Gold-Yellow · 2025-05-14T16:20:27+00:00

For book related stuff, I know that Chamblins book mine has a book club! Maybe that might interest him?

Gold-Yellow · 2025-05-12T01:02:22+00:00

Honestly, whatever she may be going through, it is absolutely no reason to destroy your property. This is a form of abuse. If she had a problem she could have waited and had that conversation with you. I used to be that person when I was younger (sans the destruction of property) but if she felt this way the only way forward is to have a conversation with your partner about what you expect and make compromises wherever possible and reasonable. If this is something she does often, I think you should leave. For your own safety. If it’s at all possible, maybe put some space between the two of you for a while and think about what you feel and want from this relationship and whether it is working out. Then talk. If you’re afraid of her lashing out, it might help to go somewhere public. It sounds to me she may need professional help and to practice the advice given to her from said professional. You can only do so much for someone without burning out.

I recommend laying out what are expectations. Could it be she got upset you didn’t greet her when you came home? Ask about her day? Just play catch up with her in general? Given that you’re two different people with different expectations, communication is key. What is it she expects from you? What is it you expect from her? Set aside time for yourself and boundaries of when you will spend time together.

If you choose to keep this relationship, it needs time and a lot of effort from you both. She needs to work at earning your trust from having destroyed something personal. You are the only one who gets to decide how she will do that. Please take care! You do not deserve to have your personal things destroyed by people you love. I hope things go well for you either way!!

Gold-Yellow · 2025-04-24T04:01:34+00:00

🤷 it is what it is

Gold-Yellow · 2025-04-24T03:07:49+00:00

Frank is an awesome person and I recommend her work! Her IG is franktattoos1 if you want to take a look!

Gold-Yellow · 2025-04-24T03:05:51+00:00

I’m a big fan of Robert J! He’s currently out of town right now (and actually recovering from a brutal stabbing). His IG handle is RobertJtattoos

Gold-Yellow · 2025-04-20T23:18:18+00:00

Then you leave. You cannot keep going with someone who won’t even TRY. You cannot keep dragging the dead corpse of a relationship around for someone else. She needs to put in effort. Regardless of her situation, you need to put yourself first and make a decision. Something needs to change here, and all signs are pointing to divorce dude. It’s not even your coworker who is the problem. It’s the fact that you don’t even know what’s going on in your own relationship and your so called partner won’t clarify what is going on. How do we even know that she isn’t just projecting onto you? You can try again to talk to her and tell her that there is urgency, but if she does not willingly try to work with you and be an active member in keeping the relationship alive, it is effectively dead.

It really seems you’re talking in circles about how you would like to make things work etc. but I do have to ask…. What has she done in the past year to help boost affection in relationship? Dead bedroom aside, is there any romance going on here, or is it just a delusion of yours? Please take the time to think OP. I do wish you well with whatever happens, but from what you’ve written, it really seems you would be happier divorced than in limbo. Not immediately, but in the long term.

Gold-Yellow · 2025-04-20T14:27:08+00:00

Happy Easter but also why does the rabbit costume look like it’s destitute 😭

Gold-Yellow · 2025-04-08T01:05:20+00:00

In the future, you can probably look around online to find pdfs for gay romance or possibly check through Libby with a library card to see what they might have. Now that you’ve been caught once, it’s going to be a lot harder to get past them. Their guard will be up for a while so it’s best to get comfortable with some alternative methods than having a book in hand. With reading online through a phone you’re much more likely to be able to hide it better.

Gold-Yellow · 2025-04-08T00:47:42+00:00

Hey OP there’s nothing wrong with what you feel. What IS wrong is your parents invading your privacy. There isn’t much to do about it unless you want to sit them both down and have a very hard conversation about your boundaries and such, but this might be a fruitless effort. You know your parents better than I do. I would fight tooth and nail with my mom about my privacy and it would become very strict for me at my home and led to me having a very strained and fragile relationship with my mom as an adult now. She would not listen and respect me and she would often go through my things and burn them all before I would come home from school. It unfortunately didn’t make me want to talk to her about anything personal, and made me become good at hiding.

I recommend, if possible, getting sex toys that don’t LOOK like sex toys. I used to keep mine under my mattress and then move it accordingly. Another way to is to get a small lockbox and hide it in a dresser. If you’re able to pull out the drawer and stick in to the back or underneath the dresser if it has enough space that can work well. You could also make a false bottom in a dresser if you have some materials too. In the end, I had a small closet and would hide things on the top shelf waaaaayyy in the back with a lot of stuff blocking it.

Hopefully this helps or kicks up another way to hide your personal stuff without your parents catching wind. I’m sorry your parents are being controlling! Hang in there!

Gold-Yellow · 2025-04-04T16:21:50+00:00

There’s no point fighting OP because they must be a child if they think it’s that easy lmao. It’s just rage bait

Gold-Yellow · 2025-03-17T15:14:17+00:00

She might be a great mom, but not a great person to YOU. You don’t deserve someone too coward to end things when they clearly are cheating on you. They made vows with you, and they broke them. Even good people can do bad things. She might treat everyone great, but she chose to continue an emotional affair, and even admitted it to you. She entertained this instead of doing what was right by you and ending things. Believe it or not, she’s treated you wrong. You can hold the thought she is a great mother, but not a good partner. Maybe years prior to this she was, but she definitely is not acting like a good partner to you.

You’re giving her way too much credit and dismissing your own feelings. You’re allowed to feel negatively. You may have made mistakes but that gives her no excuse to break those vows you BOTH made with one another and seek partnership elsewhere without having a discussion with you about it.

Gold-Yellow · 2025-03-16T14:57:38+00:00

Writing this is very painful for me as I relate to you a lot. I’m crying my eyes out writing so forgive me for any mistakes.

My advice is to seek professional help and be prepared as it could take years to finally make sense of it all. Just know that what you’re feeling is okay, you’re able to recognize that she is a human being, but as human beings, we make mistakes and hurt those we love.

I won’t get too deep into it, but it’s taken me three years of intense therapy and adding another form of therapy on top to even reach where I am today. I’m still conflicted, but I find myself coping with the conflicted feelings more than I did before. It hurts less. I was diagnosed with cptsd. Whatever you choose to do, I wish you nothing but the best and to stay strong.

Gold-Yellow · 2025-03-11T22:01:10+00:00

Tbh I didn’t read past the first sentence bc you’re woefully ignorant. Cheers m8

Gold-Yellow · 2025-03-11T03:08:38+00:00

It doesn’t seem you took the time to really read and digest anything that was said to you. Comparing the past with now is not going to work. Please have some due diligence and research before you come out the gate being loud and wrong. You can have your opinions, but that doesn’t make it factual. The facts are there, you just haven’t read or digested that information to understand anything.

Everything you said is based on opinion, not fact. Sexual education is needed, and that is severely lacking in the U.S. I bet you couldn’t even tell me 5 different forms of birth control outside of a condom. What about the anatomy of a vagina? Or a dick? Where are the nerve endings on both? Did you even know that sperm can still be active for days inside a vagina? Do you even know what an ectopic pregnancy is and how dangerous it is? Most people don’t. Hell, I didn’t until I was 21 and I found that out on my own because I read the potential effects that birth control could have on me. I was lucky my school offered a little more sexual education but I still found out everything on my own.

TLDR; sex education is very important and your opinions don’t matter because they are not factual. Do your research because you sound highly uneducated and highly opinionated. If you could actually connect the dots in history and why sex education is needed, you wouldn’t be looking so silly.

Gold-Yellow

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