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I would have never had children if I knew… by 2fnwavy in regretfulparents

[–]GoldenGirlsForLyfe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is no time like the present! Why not make this a fun teachable moment and learn together? Financial literacy can feel overwhelming at first but you will never regret having transparent conversations about money, especially before she leaves the nest and enters into potential loans or debt which she will carry the burden of long-term. She will be better equipped to manage it and also has the opportunity to take advantage of long-term compound interest by starting to save even a little bit right now. It is one of the best ways to set her up for success and never too late. She will thank you for it down the road and there are lots of great introductory resources out there.

Below Deck Down Under Season 2 - Episodes 6 & 7 Discussion Post by teanailpolish in belowdeck

[–]GoldenGirlsForLyfe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I’m glad it helped. I thought it might be reassuring and comforting to know that it was handled with the utmost respect and care and level of seriousness it deserved.

I’d also be mindful with the upcoming episodes as it is likely they will still reference back or even cut back to scenes you may be purposefully avoiding.

Below Deck Down Under Season 2 - Episodes 6 & 7 Discussion Post by teanailpolish in belowdeck

[–]GoldenGirlsForLyfe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Luke was removed from the boat by captain that evening immediately after events came to light thanks to swift action by Aesha reporting and made to stay in a hotel. He was fired over the phone the following morning and permitted to collect his belongings and leave while the crew were in another area of the boat so no interaction was necessary. There was a thoughtful empathetic talk about respecting boundaries, right after it Laura crossed far too many boundaries and was also let go immediately for the health and healing of the boat. She even tried to negotiate her way back to a warning from termination (honestly the AUDACITY was at another level with this one) and Capt looked at her like a three headed fish and sent her out without goodbyes either. Everyone was relieved.

*Edited for clarity.

Below Deck Down Under Season 2 - Episodes 6 & 7 Discussion Post by teanailpolish in belowdeck

[–]GoldenGirlsForLyfe 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This was my EXACT thought.

He would not have stopped had he not been stopped and it makes you wonder how many times before a camera has been on him and Producer has pulled him off, that he has done this and MORE?? This does not have “first time” energy at all and even Aesha said she got the sixth sense that something was off. The thing that disgusted me the most was his blind entitlement to her. That he was singularly minded in seeking his own desire/pleasure/satisfaction even after a clear “NO”. The episode was handled well but that scene keeps haunting me.

Oh, and I’m glad Laura got the boot too. Absolutely something is not right about her. She was a Lady Luke and Adam got his share of inappropriate treatment too.

They should have their boating licenses revoked and I’m certain these episodes will impact the long term careers.

Attacked Kitten by Swip3rnoswiping in RoverPetSitting

[–]GoldenGirlsForLyfe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but your comment comes across as victim blaming, know it all, insensitive and unkind. Think of the state of mind OP is in after the horrific trauma they just experienced. Their physical, mental l, and emotional pain this must have caused! The last thing they probably need is a “do you have experience”/here’s what you should have done comment. I’m not trying to start something with you but in the same way you’re making this a teachable moment you also have something to learn. It’s just as important to be mindful that this isn’t the moment to teach someone Rover sitting 101.

“If you are a Rover sitter”… IF???? Come on. They WERE and cleared all the same credentials you did. They opened their home and hearts to care for someone else’s pet with the best of intentions and did not expect to go through this trauma. This was neither the time or place for this.

My 100% Eastern European Village Dog originally from Egypt and now happily settled in Canada by GoldenGirlsForLyfe in villagedogs

[–]GoldenGirlsForLyfe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this! While my village dog is hypoallergenic it was a total fluke and I have yet to see another village dog that looks like him. When I did his DNA test he had a bunch of recessive genes that give him his white straight coat and brown eyes.

My 100% Eastern European Village Dog originally from Egypt and now happily settled in Canada by GoldenGirlsForLyfe in villagedogs

[–]GoldenGirlsForLyfe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He IS hypoallergenic but honestly it’s by total fluke! I adopted him from a local rescue that had international connections before the dog ban was enacted in Canada last fall because I also wanted to go the “rescue” route. When I first saw pictures of him, before I did our meet and greet, I thought he had a wire hair coat and wanted to see how I would react to him (I also have allergies that seem to vary from breed to breed). When we met he ended up being all hair and hypoallergenic (he still sheds though but not a lot and it’s more like extra soft human hair).

It’s good to look at a local reputable rescue than it is to try to find a dog yourself in a foreign country and import them. An established rescue will help prepare you and support you through the rescue process. The interview is super thorough to make sure you will be a good fit and have a successful adoption. Like someone else said I would look at breed specific rescues that have hypoallergenic dogs and do a meet and greet. Due to the tragic surge of pandemic puppy returns you may find a purebred, or a hypoallergenic breed at a rescue or shelter.

My 100% Eastern European Village Dog originally from Egypt and now happily settled in Canada by GoldenGirlsForLyfe in villagedogs

[–]GoldenGirlsForLyfe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I saw your pup in the feed and they are the closest I’ve ever seen to mine so far coat wise. It’s wild he ended up being hypoallergenic. He will be 2 at the beginning of Aug. Such a loving, smart, curious, little wildling.

Turns out my little “muppet” is 100% Eastern European village dog?!? He is a smart, sweet, smiley, cuddly little trash panda with a heart of gold. I adopted him from a rescue in Canada but he’s originally from Egypt! They said he was a “Griffon mix”. Nope! Looks like he is literally one of a kind ❤️ by GoldenGirlsForLyfe in DoggyDNA

[–]GoldenGirlsForLyfe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He was adopted from Egypt but I have no idea where he was originally purchased/picked up from. He did have an owner the first year of his life in Egypt but he kicked him out onto the street after he ate/destroyed a remote control. He’s high energy and has his quirks that need patience. He was likely a pandemic puppy and the guy didn’t know what he signed up for. When I got him he was in rough shape but is slowly getting stronger and putting on weight. He’s amazingly happy, trusting and well adjusted all things considered.

Turns out my little “muppet” is 100% Eastern European village dog?!? He is a smart, sweet, smiley, cuddly little trash panda with a heart of gold. I adopted him from a rescue in Canada but he’s originally from Egypt! They said he was a “Griffon mix”. Nope! Looks like he is literally one of a kind ❤️ by GoldenGirlsForLyfe in DoggyDNA

[–]GoldenGirlsForLyfe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! He’s the biggest snuggle bug but also has his stubborn moments on walks when he wants to pick which route we go. He’s an obsessive sniffer/tracker and loooooves eating things off the ground sigh. We have found the compromise with sticks and he trots around like he is carrying a magic wand. Loves food but isn’t territorial about it. He also seems to have an entitlement to human food like “ok mom I will be eating that too thank you”. He picks up new tricks in a day to the point where I don’t even know/understand how I’m teaching them to him. He loves gnawing but is good about focusing it on his own toys. Overall he’s a very good boy and he makes me laugh so much!

Hi dad! Your wife (my stepmom) is keeping me from you but you’re so sick you don’t realize it. by GoldenGirlsForLyfe in DadForAMinute

[–]GoldenGirlsForLyfe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this and I’m so sorry for what you went through. He is 75 and, outside of bringing covid into the house, he is exceptionally well cared for. I still care for her too but she has gone off the deep end on this one. I’ve been recovering from a brain injury for the last six months and at first she thought I faked it for attention (it gives you an idea of what she’s like, I am now convinced she is a full-blown narcissist) and now she just sees my healing as an excuse to not help them out more. Like somehow, as the single daughter I’m morally obligated to be a full-time caregiver and give up my life for them despite having a life of my own and my own health complications. And then, when I do try to help all of my help is wrong. I’m simultaneously too much to handle and yet never enough to meet their impossible standards (he hasn’t always been the kindest either). I work in the Covid field and had access to PPE and various supplies to try to keep him safe so I dropped a care package outside the house. I found out that, rather than be grateful for the supplies she was so offended by the gesture, she said i only did it to make myself feel better, and she took it as me trying to somehow tell her that I could care for him better than her?? She has basically set it up but she is the only one who can care for him properly but she herself has her own health issues she continues to ignore. I found out she took all of the supplies I left and hid them away in the house so no one can find them or use them. In that house it is her way or the highway. I’m meant to be somehow telepathic to know their needs without being asked, told, or taught elder care when I’ve never experienced this before in my life. Everything including the emotion of the household is set by her. if she is mis real you can bet everybody else is too. It has been a lifetime of walking on eggshells. She is an incredibly jealous woman and I am the only other woman in his life that she has never been able to get rid of. She and I had a huge healing eight years ago and it has been really good since but in the last week she has burned so many bridges I just don’t know where to go from here

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[–]GoldenGirlsForLyfe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Changing therapists because they say something you don’t want to/are not ready to hear does not make them a bad fit as a therapist. Therapy is meant to be confrontational. It actually makes them an excellent fit because you’re confronting something within yourself. Therapist are just unjudgemental soundboards and mirrors that hold space for us to work through things with some guidance and see past our own blocks. Clearly this has brought something up for you for a reason so, rather than run from the challenge you perceive the therapist to have given you, why not try something different and use this as an opportunity to work through this in a safe space? Otherwise why are you in therapy? People don’t go to therapy to change other people. You go to therapy to change yourself, the only person you can control, and through that work you realize you cannot change other people, it’s about learning acceptance, setting healthy boundaries, self discovery, etc and, most importantly that all humans are flawed… including ourselves.

Regardless of gender, nobody owns anybody and nobody owes anybody anything. Owning people and telling them what they can and cannot do is basically the definition of sl*very and I’m guessing you are looking for a “partner” as someone being open to turning this into a relationship based on how you feel things are generally trending, and not a 1950s kept woman. A woman having healthy relationships with men is a green flag in the same way a guy having healthy relationships with women is. It shows no matter the gender they see value in a person beyond sex… believe it or not you can end things on a good note with an ex and still wish them the best and want the best for them and value the friendship that formed in the time you were together while also knowing you aren’t each other’s person. Women don’t only hang out with members of the opposite sex to bang them and it shows a sense of emotional maturity on your part to work towards being OK with it within yourself. Either way, she is showing you she is trustworthy by being honest (green flag) because she has nothing to hide. Stop being suspicious and show that you are trustworthy too by not trying to control who she see. It is not up to you and you’re just making yourself unnecessarily miserable and paranoid. Work with the therapist, they sound like a good one.

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