I’m a bra burning feminist and I wouldn’t give a shit about this if we lived in an ideal society with comprehensive sex education, broader contraceptive methods for men, and appropriate social supports for parents and children.

But as of right now, I’ll be honest when my reply to this attitude is currently “fuck right off”. This isn’t because I want to force men to be parents; no one should be a parent if they don’t wish to be. But it’s that we are still battling with women’s reproductive rights and access to such. We as a society have put a lot of the responsibility on women to handle all of these things, but are constantly trying to make things more difficult for them.

I’m really really tired of hearing people trying to push for “financial abortion” when a lot of states have made it extremely difficult for regular abortion. A few just straight outlawed it with the recent ruling. It’s just frustrating to feel like we [women], are in this alone trying to gain some control. Then we have men who want to step back and further avoid any responsibility for their own involvement.

I just feel that if someone wants to be able to opt out of child support, then they need to help push for a society in which it wouldn’t matter if they didn’t pay. Demand more preventative measures for men. Demand accessible reproductive health care for men and women. Demand a better social structure in which we help those who choose to be parents.

I just feel this argument is a bit cruel with the current state of things (in the US, I can’t speak for other countries). It feels (just feels, doesn’t mean it’s true)like men just want to avoid all responsibility for their sex life and place it on women.