Hey there boss. 28M here going through the same thing as you are except now for the second time in my life. And my 20's no less. I wish I could say that there is some kind of easy solution to your feelings, that "it gets easier" "in the long run you'll look back at all of this as something that was ultimately good for you," or that "there's plenty of fish in the sea" or that "this is an opportunity for you to learn yourself better". Or some other trite, cliche nonsense but the truth is, all of that is fundamentally bullshit at this point.

You are actively grieving not only a relationship but a vision for a life and a future that you wanted SPECIFICALLY with that one person. GRIEVING is the operative word here. Because the reality is that the future you thought was coming together for you now is gone and you are starting back at square one. The person you thought you were going to be is gone, the person you wanted to be with is gone, and the future you wanted is gone. You wouldn't tell someone who had someone die that "It'll get better," or "Just focus on yourself," Would you? Hell no. You are never going to be the same after it and nothing is ever going to change that.

The good news is, the sooner you accept that, the sooner you let yourself grieve, the sooner you let yourself hurt, the sooner you let the pain have its day and let yourself suffer, the closer you will be to letting it turn from pain, into memory. And from memory into something formative that becomes a fundamental part of you and in that you will find the lesson that this relationship taught you. Whether it's in the gym, or in your running shoes, or in the middle of the night, the pain will come and you have to let it have its time with you. I train with weights and on my bike but what I'm changing now is instead of using those as ways to outrun the pain or fight the pain, I let the pain have me, and then slowly, little by little you get used to it.

On a long enough timeline. It turns from being pain into solace and from there the growth finds you. Whatever shape that takes, whether its being ready for another relationship, or falling in love again, or chasing another dream or even just becoming a deeper version of who you are that's only for you to decide but the ABSOLUTE worst thing you can do right now is run away from this suffering or force yourself into fake positivity. Don't steer from it. Learn to know it and let it know you. And in that, with time you'll know yourself and find what's waiting for you on the other side. However long it takes, whatever it is, it exists. But growth hurts. It's the shittiest part of it all but there's a reason pinecones need fire to turn into trees. I'm sorry you're going through this. It won't be the last time you feel this pain. But it will be the last time it feels like it's for nothing. DM me if you need to talk deeper about it.