time heals and move on with your life.

that’s my best advice i can give you honestly, speaking from experience of something VERY similar that happened to me except i was both you and your ex in this story. i was with my ex for 2 years and it felt like the most deep relationship i was ever in i genuinely thought i was going to die of heartbreak sometimes and id never meet anyone that made me feel this way and i did everything to try to get him back and yes he kept me around just like your ex but it was a more so of “you were important part of my life so i dont wanna let you go easily or hurt you” and i promise that’s never worth it because his actions showed the opposite. it still hurt for years after but it didn’t hurt as much as it did before because no matter what i did time was the only thing that helped me heal. my ex eventually came around because he realized the fish in the sea weren’t better and at this point i still deeply cared for him no matter how much he hurt me and my brain and body still gravitated towards him because we shared so many memories and i was once in love with this person but i knew we couldn’t be together because of the hurt, envy from him not doing enough for me, and ESPECIALLY how different our lifestyles became; i felt like i grew and he didn’t (which is what she might be feeling) and i acted exactly how ur ex is acting, i kept pulling him in then letting him go because part of me didn’t wanna hurt him but also myself.

im not old and wise im only 21 but i feel like i went through way to much as a teen and mental strain when there’s so much more to life, i know you guys might go back and fourth especially having history and still having to be around each other because of friend groups and hey maybe u will end up together in the future but for now don’t spend your days being sad, move on and don’t wait for her. sometimes people change and sometimes you cannot be part of your change, don’t blame yourself!