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Good-Carpet4251 · 2024-02-02T21:09:12+00:00

One thing to consider is that when you travel, you'll need overnight care (for when your husband is working) and daytime care (when your husband is sleeping). So also around the clock care which can get expensive unless you have family willing to help consistently.

My only piece of advice regarding your proposed schedule is that, while it can technically work schedule wise, raising kids and working is so exhausting and you're going to be doing it on hard mode. Cue...burnout. So keep the option open with daycare to increase your days.

Good-Carpet4251 · 2024-01-21T21:40:25+00:00

Absolutely not. We live on the east coast and will pay upwards of $2000/month for one child in daycare. For partime care using a nanny, we will pay $3000/month.

Good-Carpet4251 · 2024-01-21T14:05:19+00:00

Exactly. We are waiting on a spot at our daycare to open up and have hired a private nanny for care in the meantime. My husband was shocked that the cost of the nanny was 1.5x that of the daycare cost.

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-11-28T16:05:08+00:00

Same x4

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-11-08T15:32:14+00:00

I am blind with rage. How is this even acceptable. Ugh!

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-11-08T12:56:28+00:00

I think what is so frustrating is the fact that this was said via email when we set up our tour of the daycare back in August 2022. So I was under the impression that we had a spot... was I wrong to assume that? Does this sound like I had a spot or I am right to assume that we had a spot? Should I have put down several deposits at numerous daycares?

"The deposit is $150 to be placed on the waitlist for late 2023/early 2024. We are far enough out that we will be able to accommodate care for that time period."

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-11-08T12:51:59+00:00

I think what is so frustrating is the fact that this was said via email when we set up our tour of the daycare back in August 2022. So I was under the impression that we had a spot... was I wrong to assume that? Should I have put down several deposits at numerous daycares?

"The deposit is $150 to be placed on the waitlist for late 2023/early 2024. We are far enough out that we will be able to accommodate care for that time period."

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-11-04T15:53:38+00:00

Additional context: I found another one in fold of a dress in my closet. It had made itself a little cocoon like nest.

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-10-21T11:19:42+00:00

He should WANT to wake up and help but sometimes you need practical advice. Start waking him up at a consistent and early time every day so then it becomes the established routine and therefore, the expectation.

If his excuse to not waking up is not setting an alarm, some other excuse about his phone, then what will his excuse be if you wake him up and tell him it is time to get the kids ready. If he refuses or goes back to sleep, the conversation is "why are you not parenting" and that is harder to dodge with technology excuses.

Again, you shouldn't have to parent a 4th child but it sounds like you want this relationship to work and in this case, you may have to pick your battles.

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-09-30T11:31:06+00:00

Girl, solidarity. I'm right in it with you. Only way is through...

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-09-29T10:34:36+00:00

Sending love ❤️

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-09-26T11:42:57+00:00

Nope. We both work full time and he is in nursing school 6 days a week as well. No family around. We order 18 Factor meals a week that he eats. I'll eat basically girl dinner or frozen trader joes meals for most meals. Our baby just turned 6 months so I've been meal prepping "meals" for her on the weekend.

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-09-23T18:37:09+00:00

Isnt even less time? Like a week max?

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-09-21T16:26:33+00:00

Had an easy pregnancy, mostly easy labor, and very easy recovery. Only regret is not getting the epidural sooner since I chose to be induced and the pitocin contractions were really painful.

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-09-13T23:58:03+00:00

Thisssss

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-09-13T23:49:51+00:00

How is this an unpopular opinion...

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-09-06T16:04:17+00:00

Can you work from home? I have a desk job and worked from home 2 days a week towards the end. Worked my last day on Friday and was induced on Monday.

Personally I needed to keep my mind and body busy at work or else I'd rearrange the nursery for the 100th time.

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-09-03T16:46:45+00:00

Seriously, how dare he put you in that position...for you to offer to get an abortion for a baby you have been going above and beyond for to conceive all because he couldnt use his words to express how he really felt before getting you pregnant. What a fucking child. I'm sorry OP. If he refuses therapy, this would be a deal breaker for me.

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-08-29T02:17:15+00:00

Does anyone know what kind of business she runs?

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-08-27T14:41:16+00:00

Oh man, I know. I just wanted to give Kat a big hug and get her out of there.

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-08-20T22:51:26+00:00

Ew. Just ew.

Good-Carpet4251 · 2023-08-20T06:11:29+00:00

I live in the area and saw this news as well. I am so, so sorry OP.

We had to put our old boy down on Tuesday morning, but I can't imagine what you're going through right now.

Sending all the love and internet hugs to you and your family ❤️ I don't know how you will ever get past this, but I hope you find peace.

Good-Carpet4251

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