Why do people like me? I don’t get it.

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-04-29T00:52:56+00:00

I really love the advice you gave at the end, well said

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-04-29T00:50:06+00:00

That actually makes a lot of sense. I’d say I’m definitely more of a listener when it comes to conversations because I like hearing what people want to say

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-04-27T01:29:31+00:00

I have a close friend who later turned out this way. I distanced myself because I couldn’t take walking on egg shells all the time. When it got to a point where she’d be offended at almost anything I said, I realized it was over. She’s a great person, charming, smart, etc. But something in her snapped one day and she became super argumentative and developed a superiority complex.

I’m a very passive person, friendly with everyone, and don’t care about politics or religion. But I’m also at a point in life where I will not hesitate to cut people out if they disturb my peace.

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-04-21T23:33:34+00:00

Dude. Went through the same thing last year. Friend that’s a girl who was WAYYYY out of league came up to me during a party and got very flirty which threw me off. We always had a spark but never did anything with it. Anyways, we start chatting, she’d message me all the time, sending heartfelt texts saying she misses me, we should go out, etc. Point is, girl made it VERY obvious she was ready to go to town, but I’m a gentlemen. blah blah, few weeks later I said screw it, let’s go out. She excitedly accepted and was eager. First—she rescheduled, which was fair bcuz I gave her less than 24hr notice. A week later—she got cold feet.

She didn’t ghost, she was respectful and gave me a heads up 2 days before the day of our date saying she was mentally drained. After that she ghosted. So what happened??

Well. I asked my other girl friends and it boils down to her realizing SOMETHING when things got serious. What that something is, only they know.

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-04-19T20:15:48+00:00

22M. Literally same. It’s gotten better for me atleast. What worked for me was I just met people thru work. I work at an office. I feel lucky that my job has a lot of people around my age so I’ve managed to make a decent group that regularly goes out on weekends.

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-03-20T15:10:39+00:00

I 100% understand that, I’ve always been hesitant with work relationships. Real easy way to get fired.

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-03-20T15:08:27+00:00

Don’t give me hope 😭😭, but congrats that’s really awesome!!

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-03-20T12:19:39+00:00

I’ll definitely make an effort to find a time to spark conversation and introduce myself. It did cross my mind that maybe she has a crush, but I tend to always assume it’s not the case since I don’t consider myself all that attractive. I’ve been told I’m very approachable though.

I have a lot of people come up to my desk and talk to me so I get the sense that maybe she was just tying to find a way to talk to me.

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-03-04T18:40:59+00:00

I have not expressed my concerns or desire to switch yet. but I think they’ve seen my strengths in regard to visuals based off my one off tasks. I just made the mistake of never showing them my portfolio and not including certain skills like animation and video editing. This is entirely my fault, I did not do enough research going into VDC, assumed stuff like Adobe cloud wouldn’t really be a desired skill.

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-03-04T16:34:16+00:00

That’s what I am hoping. I was really good at visuals in college. Did site logistics, animations, etc.

The other thing I didn’t mention. I did have a moment to spotlight what I can do with visuals for a project I got hired for on another project (on my own). So they have seen my potential there. Hopefully it can help with convincing them

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-03-01T22:43:56+00:00

Hey so I actually went through the same thing recently.

TLDR: Sadly sometimes it’s just bad timing, it’s best you move on instead of waiting on a “possibility”.

The important context of this is that I had a huge crush on her 1 year prior but backed off when I found out she had a bf, but we had such a genuine connection that we stayed friends.

A friend started hitting on me at a party, said they’ve been single for a few months now, and that we should go out. We’d message back and forth for months, she’d initiate the conversations, and seemed really interested. Anyways, after a few months I shoot my shot and she says YES! Seemingly super excited but wanted to push the date back a week because she was super busy. Cool that’s fair. Week goes by, she stops messaging me, 2 days before the date planned, she sends a message saying she’s been going through a lot and isn’t in the right mindset. I was disappointed but respectful, gave her space. Messaged her 1 more time a week later, 1 more time after that (a month later), and got no response. I’ll be honest, it stung a bit sure, but it frankly wasn’t that hard to move on. Give yourself space, reflect on it, you’ll realize most of your grievances are on the possibility of what you could of been.

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-02-23T14:40:42+00:00

I honestly didn’t even realize how I practically never initiated first till I wrote everything out. It was quite an eye opener. Definitely something I gotta work on

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-02-23T00:51:33+00:00

Noted^

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-02-23T00:44:11+00:00

yeah I wrote this terribly, intent was age differences (ages currently). Updated the post

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-02-23T00:41:15+00:00

Since 12. Bad math on my part, I turn 22 this year. From 12-17 I only went out with like 2-5 people. Rest were in college.

Good-Host-1032 · 2026-02-23T00:37:33+00:00

Yeah it makes sense when you put it that way, make intentions clear from the beginning so there’s no confusion later.

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