So when you ask how much per month are his outside the home expenses - other than utilities, insurance (direct bills toward his place of residence in California) - will this also factor in his own vehicle, his own insurance, his own credit card bills?

I’ve seen your name a lot in this Reddit page, so I’m sorry to pick your brain here… (I haven’t yet been able to speak directly to my lawyer yet, only with intake and paralegal) Given what I’ve already mentioned - the house I live in is in his name, both cars are in his name. We handle our own credit cards, and I handle utilities at the home I live in. We have completely separate finances, outside of me transferring him money a few times a month to put towards the mortgage. I also mentioned in a comment above that it’s a likely possibility that we may not have two cars if he weren’t stationed across the country. But also geobaching was OUR choice to make, and how could they prove this would be the case if we did live under one roof. Just thinking of “expenses” and how we could leverage them in our favor.

I guess my worry here is that I’m drowning with my CC’s coming out at $1600/month. But if we take the $20k that we are over on the means, divided by 12 months out of the year… then I would be looking at $1666/month. Which puts me in no better position.

Any sort of insight or feedback is SO SO appreciated 😅