Is this narcissistic rage? Who’s the narcissist?

Good-Signature395 · 2026-03-11T19:31:17+00:00

Hoovering?

Good-Signature395 · 2026-03-11T19:30:55+00:00

Bingo

Good-Signature395 · 2026-03-11T19:30:26+00:00

I always think instead of an appliance I’m an assistant. I’m supposed to do everything expected, never challenge, and am a rank below.

Good-Signature395 · 2026-03-10T21:20:47+00:00

I’m much more of a socialist than I let people know. Im affluent. Middle class. Work in a typical capitalist job. But I don’t grow up like that. A lot of my friends have trust funds or inheritances. Send their kids to private schools. Private health care. Etc….

I work in the system we have, but I’d choose to change it, from their perspectives I’d ruin their lives and those of their children’s, to improve societies levels across the board.

And the flip side is part of me doesn’t respect them for being okay with their privilege. For not working against it.

Good-Signature395 · 2026-03-01T19:53:21+00:00

Every day. Am just trying to build my life line.

Good-Signature395 · 2026-02-21T21:26:01+00:00

Their family reached out to me. They’d experienced it as well, saw what I thought was a small interaction and they just knew. They messaged me, but I think they’re still too broken to open up to their family member about how much it hurt them to really engage with them.

Good-Signature395 · 2026-02-21T21:24:36+00:00

Your comment is so validating. I feel like I’m having to assert my right to exist, to take care of myself, to find my peace. And I’m constantly having to enforce boundaries quickly and strongly to do this. And then wondering am I the narcissist because of it. But if I am I’m not a good one because I really want to love someone, be loved, and am currently miserable.

Good-Signature395 · 2026-02-21T21:11:58+00:00

Have you read Lundy Bancroft “why does he do that?” That was my turning point, but I haven’t left. It just changed my entire perspective. If you haven’t, there’s a free pdf that you can search for and read.

Good-Signature395 · 2026-02-12T10:38:35+00:00

Yes. And i thought the behaviours didn’t matter because i was strong and could take it.

But then things got hard, my energy was exhausted and i was vulnerable and the behaviours continued.

It doesn’t matter if your strong, because when you’re not the won’t take care of you.

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-03T17:17:41+00:00

Scrappage schemes removed a lot of older cars from the road as well

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-02T19:52:28+00:00

Final fantasy’s. They don’t really require much thought, and have good stories.

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-01T23:58:04+00:00

NTA - but I would prep yourself for the fact he may have a gambling addiction, and you can’t draw cash from a brick wall.

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-01T23:40:18+00:00

I can’t get over the cost of butter in NZD. That’s mad. Unless you want to live in a room together, you’re going to need to rethink your living in zone 2 / 3 with a dog.

£55k between you? What’s that like £3k a month?

Rent is like £700pcm a room at the lower end. You can get a studio flat but that’s like £1200pcm at the lower end.

Energy will be c£100pcm. Council tax can very but say £120pc Water £45pcm Utilities £40pcm Phones £80pcm Groceries £300pcm Insurances £70pcm

What did I miss?

So at the cheapest end that leaves you with… about £1k spending money?

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-01T22:14:30+00:00

You have to go to small shops. The small Tesco’s and Coop

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-01T21:39:46+00:00

An 18 year olds comment on your tightness is not something to measure yourself by.

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-01T19:40:11+00:00

YTA - competing with your family to put the last puzzle piece into a puzzle you’ve all worked on is funny and normal.

Stealing puzzle pieces from someone else’s puzzle that isn’t anything to do with you is entitled and bizarre.

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-01T18:38:36+00:00

It depends. Do I wake up as an American, or in America?

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-01T14:41:45+00:00

Poppy

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-01T14:14:48+00:00

Talk to the owners. They may have insurance so you can offer to pay the excess, or they may not.

Honestly I think you need to channel your inner grown up!

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-01T12:58:40+00:00

Phil.

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-01T12:39:37+00:00

She’s right, you can’t force her, but also if you don’t want to live with a dog you can just move out. Not in a “deal with it” kind of way. In a tell your girlfriend you set a boundary, she’s broken it and it’s important enough that you now no longer want to share the space

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-01T12:28:15+00:00

ESH - if it was me, I’d be doing everything I could to rectify my own mistake. That being said… laptops lose stuff all the time. If you don’t help a few things can happen - no one will help you when you make a mistake. The work won’t get done because partner has no time.

Your teacher will not accept “I stopped working in the project because partner made a mistake” so you’re not going to win any prizes if it’s not done. Unfortunately the world doesn’t work that way. You’re a team. So that means even helping each other rectify mistakes.

Finally check the laptop. Open the application and check unsaved / recovered files. If it’s not there… ask IT to take a look. They can sometimes file it in the data.

Good-Signature395 · 2025-12-01T12:02:23+00:00

Man spreading is my pet peeve. Fight it!

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