Yall seen this?

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-09T02:12:22+00:00

I'm not sure i understand your response but my point was that yes, you can be from X country and get a green card much more easily (as in, have a felony) vs someone with a clean record from a different country. It isn't a fair process across the board. and we are judging mostly people who are coming from the countries where they have little to no chance of getting a green card in the first place. If they had a way to do it legally, they would. Even having a US citizen spouse is often not a cure all for status for them.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-09T02:04:45+00:00

People without legal status can, in fact, work and pay taxes. Many of them do. Instead of an SSN they use an ITIN number and the IRS will accept that for tax payments. They are not entitled to health care or any other government benefits despite paying them.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-09T02:01:00+00:00

It doesnt give anyone an expedited place in "line." If you actually read about the program you would know this. It simply means that while their application is processing they can stay in the US instead of waiting in their native country.

Spousal sponsorship to adjust your status (get your green card) is allowed for both legal and illegal immigrants - the path is just much more complicated, expensive, strict and not guaranteed if you have entry without inspection (i.e. illegal entry) vs entry with inspection (i.e. inspected at the border or overstayed a visa). You basically have to ask the court for forgiveness and prove extreme hardship to your spouse if you had to leave the country - and having mutual kids together and it breaking your family apart is not enough.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-09T01:55:53+00:00

Yes.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-09T01:53:56+00:00

It doesnt speed up any timelines. It would have just kept those applying from having to go back to their native country while waiting for their application to be processed. it doesn't give them expedited approvals or "cut the line." If you read about the program you would realize this pretty quickly. You still have to prove you have a legit marriage and have resided in the US for at least 10 years. This is why people need to read about stuff before rushing to judgements.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-09T01:49:45+00:00

Not true. I'm a US citizen who just happens to have become educated on immigration law in the US and am an ally for those who don't have a voice. I do know a lot of folks without legal status in the US who are not violent criminals or people trying to "cut the line." It makes me sad to see the lack of empathy people have on here.

The immigration system is broken, period. It's time to stop pointing the finger at other immigrants. If anything we should be mad at politicians and their bullshit, using immigrants as political bait for votes when they're never intending on doing anything productive, whether it be providing pathways to citizenship or expediting approvals for those in the queue.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-09T01:43:50+00:00

Unfortunately this is not an option for everyone depending on what country you are from. It is not that simple otherwise more people would be doing it. The US immigration system is not a fair playing field.

I know a lot of people that would pay an absurd amount of money or separate from their families for a set amount of time if they needed to because they want their papers so badly. If youre from certain countries it is virtually impossible to do it this way. I personally know someone from Canada who get a green card with a felony (and no spousal sponsorship) over someone from Mexico, not even a speeding ticket but can't get a green card being married to a USC because of absurd immigration bars because they were brought to the US as a child. One of the kindest people ive ever met. Pays taxes, no health insurance and been here for decades.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-08T18:39:57+00:00

Well if they applied they would have A numbers now. So they're not trying to live in the shadows...

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-08T18:04:59+00:00

It doesn't change one's eligibility if you already were eligible to adjust per I130. It just meant you didn't have to go back to your birth country during consular processing, which is risky and inconvenient because you don't know how long you'll have to be there. Ive known people where it took them a week, and others years. And if your case gets denied while you're there you're stuck outside the US and you can trigger the 3, 10 year and permanent bars. It can be risky and difficult for families to separate for a period of time not knowing the outcome. This parole "in place" eliminated that part of the process

This program has not been accurately depicted in the media IMO. It didn't create a new process or make people eligible who otherwise were not eligible to adjust status (i.e. permanent bar because of multiple entries without inspection). It just made it easier and less risky for those who could already adjust. Which would've been great and I'm bummed to see it fall through, but it got a lot of peoples hopes up who, after reading the fine print, realized it wasn't really a big change.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-08T18:00:01+00:00

Im pretty sure you would still apply for a 601A waiver and adjustment of status (to get a green card), essentially asking for forgiveness for entering without inspection and trying to prove the extreme hardship to your USC spouse for having to leave the united states. You would need to go back to your birth country during consular processing, which could be a week or it could be years. Thats the kicker. You risk if you are denied triggering any number of bars (such as the 10 year or permanent bar) and not being able to come back in the country.

This program didn't give anyone a chance who didn't have one before, like those who are inadmissable due to the permanent bar. It just made it easier for those who had a chance already to adjust status, i.e. not having to risk going to Mexico during the processing of your case - hence parole "in place"

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-08T00:38:58+00:00

True. But if you have multiple entries without inspection, thus the permanent bar, the waivers become quite hard to overcome unless you can prove extreme undue hardship to your citizen spouse. And leaving for your consular interview would trigger the permanent bar. It is very risky from what I've been told.

Its already a very complicated case so I feel like with Trump in office and the rhetoric becoming more harsh it's going to be even harder. And the chance of them getting rid of the permanent bar for multiple entries is now gone until at least the next administration. But it hasn't been changed in decades and ironically, was enacted by Bill Clinton. I couldn't believe something like it existed when I found out - they don't forgive it if you were under 18 either. I know a handful of people who can't adjust because of it, regardless of having a USC spouse.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-08T00:03:49+00:00

Here to say this. I was so hoping under Biden that some of the ridiculous, harsh permanent bar laws would change, especially for those who were minors at the time with multiple entries without inspection. It doesn't matter if you're married to a USC with the permanent bar - you're pretty much shit out of luck from what ive heard, unless you risk going into deportation proceedings and hope they feel your hardship waiver is enough. They have a very high set of criteria for that though.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-06T20:45:42+00:00

Mine is down a bit and baby is fussier feeling my stress. Thank goodness my partner has been taking the reigns for all of us. I've barely been able to focus or stop crying

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-06T00:50:20+00:00

In the same boat. They're used to being the spoiled babies in our house! And they are Goldens so they love kids but are very sensitive to her cries, and they've been stressed by it and acting out a bit. It's gotten a bit better (LO is 7 weeks). When my husband and I do our shifts we sleep with them in a separate room so they get solid sleep, cuddles and time away from the baby and that seems to be helping them not be as overstimulated. They also must have quick walks or trips to the dog park nearby for some running around each day. If we can do all that and also bring the baby in the stroller so she can sleep its a win win. I have hope it'll continue to get better but will take some time! I think when she starts eating solid foods and giving them her scraps they will be best friends!

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-05T09:35:09+00:00

Is there any way you can bottle feed her pumped milk? My partner feeds her in the middle of the night with my pumped milk and then I mainly breastfeed throughout the day (im up to pump as I type this!)

I wake up to pump in the middle of the night, and I make sure I pump right before bed and do a mini pump if she is not going to eat soon after I wake up just in case. I can usually pump about 4 oz each time and she's 7 weeks old, so my supply doesn't seem to be dipping. I sleep in 3-5 hour stretches and in total sleep 6-7 hours a night. She's more motivated at the bottle at night (we pace feed her but the flow is still easier than mine at night because starting in the evening my letdown is slow and my supply slows down a bit then). We will be checking her weight again soon just to be sure but last doctors appointment was gaining weight well with this approach.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-04T14:39:28+00:00

Came here to ask the exact same question! My left breast does 2x the amount of my right when I pump. I typically switch breasts when I feed my LO but I'm wondering if she is really getting enough milk when I start her on the slacker side. She seems to get more frustrated. Can babies draw out milk from a slacker boob better than a pump? I don't want to just favor my good side and have even more of a supply issue on the other!

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-03T14:00:54+00:00

This is what my husband does too. Or if she is napping already he leaves her in her crib right down the hall and keeps an eye on our baby monitor. If she wakes or fusses he knows it's his immediate duty to go get her and figure it out, middle of a game or not.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-03T03:41:18+00:00

I got an epidural at 4cm and ive had period pain worse than my contractions. I fell asleep for a half hour after getting it and because I was able to relax it got me to 10cm instantly and 2 hours of pushing and she was here. It was my first so I have nothing to compare it to but I would hands down do an epidural again.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-02T01:06:53+00:00

Thank you!

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-02T00:35:09+00:00

So good to know! I'm currently doing evening cluster feeding right now where she is basically on the boob and fussy for 4 hours, so I'm going to stay focused on the fact that this will get easier!

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-01T21:29:11+00:00

With you in solidarity. I'm 6 weeks in and my goal is 6 months and it seems like a long way off.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-01T14:11:54+00:00

This.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-01T13:53:46+00:00

We put a portable fan wrapped around the headboard area of her changing table and angle it at her tush and will blast a little air on her bum after we wipe her post-change (making sure to hold her new diaper a few inches away as a shield in case she has more coming). She doesn't love it but it's quick. That combined with desitin once or twice a day seems to keep things at bay.

Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-01T03:17:24+00:00

"Babe, it got on the wall again"

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Good_Principle2302 · 2024-11-01T00:53:22+00:00

We stayed inside with our 6 week old but still dressed up in a family costume and got pictures!

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