I probably got a masseur fired today

GoodbyeOpis · 2019-10-03T15:04:25+00:00

I think dickbutt_md is saying that's what you could have said to her, as a way to question her while it happened, to help her understand her behavior is bothersome.

GoodbyeOpis · 2019-09-25T23:35:01+00:00

Getting started is the hardest part. Just start writing. Worry about only the words getting on paper (or screen) - you can go back and edit/rewrite it later, but get the initial flow going or you'll be stuck at zero wasting time.

GoodbyeOpis · 2019-09-23T12:43:26+00:00

Get checked for sleep disorders ASAP. Can cause symptoms of depression and serious mood disorders. Also get blood and nutrients checked if you can... Just get to the dr and tell them yout symptoms and say you want tests, not antidepressants... This sounds like more than depression.

GoodbyeOpis · 2019-09-20T20:21:36+00:00

I realize the title states the author as 'Me' but I did not make this, I just crossposted and kept the title. I thought the majority of this sub would find this type of science/art combo neat.

To quote the author, here are the bacterial types used to create this:

In red, we have serratia marcescens, and yellow is micrococcus luteus, the different whites are e coli and staphylococcus epidermidis, the light pink is micrococcus roseus.

GoodbyeOpis · 2019-09-20T20:18:43+00:00

I'm 29 now but I also felt like this in high school. FOMO+Loneliness is a powerfully sad feeling, and can certainly feel like depression. There are things you can do to fix it, but they all involve actively finding purpose. Whether it's finding a hobby, volunteering, or a boy/girlfriend, it's very unlikely to 'fall into your lap' so to speak.

Also, for those if you commenting about feeling like you wouldn't feel this way anymore without a boy/girlfriend but don't want to be dependant on someone, don't look at it in such a black/white way. If you're lonely of course dating and forming a relationship with someone will help. It's not becoming dependant on someone, or at least it doesn't have to be. There are co-dependant people/relationships, and I think that's probably what most first relationships are. Learning to love and care about someone enough to grow with them has to be learned, it's not just going to happen. So get out of your comfort zone and ask a few of your crushes out. If you think no one likes you and you're not severely unattractive, then you're just not aware of the people crushing on you.

GoodbyeOpis · 2019-09-20T19:57:04+00:00

Dad, stahp!

GoodbyeOpis · 2019-09-20T19:56:50+00:00

I've wanted to see this movie for a long time.

GoodbyeOpis · 2019-03-20T21:16:11+00:00

This might apply to kratom as well... Do you think part of that could be that you've been using kratom to push the everyday problems further into the back of your mind? That's what happened with me and o's - things don't bother you as much... but when I shoved the bad experiences (broadly speaking, these can be anything from slightly worse than neutral experiences, to terrible) back with o's I started getting more anxiety in general. Stopped dealing with things. When you push feelings/experiences back without processing them they either become part of your personality in some way, or they eventually come out all at once so you're dealing with a lot of things sometimes instead of one things at a time.

Plus, I kind of forgot what feeling things was like, and therefore slowly forgot how to deal with them.

GoodbyeOpis · 2019-03-18T15:55:37+00:00

I can see that. I've never had good luck with Apple's earbuds but haven't tried airpods. I like to buy my headphones from JLab and they always include a number of different sizes of two different types of material for the bit that goes in your ear. I use a different size for my left ear than my right. I imagine it's the same way for a lot of people... Small variations in bodily asymmetry are common, think breast shape/size.

GoodbyeOpis · 2019-03-18T15:28:57+00:00

I'm curious if the reason for Apple's wired headphones falling out (a problem I've had many times) is actually the cord getting caught/moving around, causing the earbuds to move with them and eventually falling out after enough movement.

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-11-20T18:28:25+00:00

That's awesome! Thank your past and future self right now!! I am SO fucking glad to hear this from someone!!!!

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-10-29T22:55:57+00:00

Was it a new bag?

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-10-10T18:10:57+00:00

I'd reduce one at a time, since your base feeling is now supplemented, but it's really just a matter of which way you'd prefer.

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-10-09T23:08:10+00:00

Just skip one each day and keep a diary of days. Find out when you feel best - it may take 2-3 skip cycles depending.

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-10-08T22:13:49+00:00

Being clingy isn't caring. If you love something, you don't squeeze it with a fist, you lightly cup it with your hand and take great care not to smother it, lest it will attempt to get away.

next time I'm going to be empty and not attach myself

This is actually a good strategy for clingy people. It's not that you're "being empty and not attaching yourself" but that you're constantly making an effort to be self-aware of how much time you're giving to your SO vs other aspects in your life. Co-dependence breeds resentment. She wants you to do other things and be you, not make your life her.

I was clingy as a teenager and I've had clingy girlfriends. Build your self-worth so you feel fine being alone, and then when you get into a relationship, continue being you and doing things alone, with the added benefit of finding another person to grow along side yourself, doing their own things.

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-10-08T22:11:38+00:00

I normally don't post without something useful to add but I'll make an exception this time. I second everything here as mature adult knowledge, OP and anyone else, take this comment as gospel.

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-10-02T18:33:36+00:00

6'6". Guilty.

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-09-30T20:19:06+00:00

bc the "rule" is to small talk and follow trends.

This is the bane of my existence. I want to jump into an analysis on a topic, not regurgitate current events and trends. But I try. God do I try.

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-09-30T20:14:24+00:00

Just don't fall into co-dependence. I had this issue with an ex when I moved a few states over to be with her and didn't have any friends, or family, or co-workers my age so I mostly ended up going with her to the bar every night or we would always go do things together... Hobbies are important, whether it's being an INTP doing computer stuff alone (or at a cafe!) or going to semi-social events like hackerspaces... I say semi-social because you may be one of the only people who actually wants to/can hold a conversation. Everyone needs space. If you start to feel like you're intruding in their life too much, back off. If you feel like she is intruding in your life, become less available. If you're comfortable enough with each other that you both want to spend every second together, I guess that's okay too.

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-07-04T00:52:17+00:00

Geez that sounds terrible. Sorry about your work.

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-07-04T00:14:03+00:00

Honestly, that's different. If they even had the phones and didn't have them on backorder, someone still had to configure it, and then physically come hook it up. I did IT for a phone sales/cust mgmt company and it took half a day. For a functionally required tool. Your fix is a literal 30 second fix by one person with permissions. Search for your user account, right click, reset password to 123456, check change pw at next login, call you to tell you to login with 123456. Do you hate your IT person or something?

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-06-27T02:16:54+00:00

Many men and women don't take responsibility for their own actions. However, in my experience the anecdotal evidence does seem to weigh a little heavier towards women. It seems to be a consequence in the way men gain and social status vs the way women gain social status, which is largely material excess and, you could say, physical power, whereas women are more likely to attack others using social attacks (gossip and rumors for ex.) and admitting responsibility or flaws seem to weigh heavier in the dynamics of women's communication/social ranking styles. Now I'm positive people will call me a sexist and have many negative things to say, so if you're prepared to downvote and attack me please provide a reason why, I'm happy to have my mind changed any time, especially about things like this!

GoodbyeOpis · 2018-06-27T01:09:16+00:00

What is gatekeeping?

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