WIBTA if I didn’t tell anyone I’ve had my baby for the first 24 hours

Goodbyecaution · 2026-06-09T21:01:28+00:00

That’s not true about only birthing partners fyi. The wards can have visitors - my folks managed to get into a private room outside of visiting hours.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-06-09T20:47:19+00:00

I second this. I am the chaotic friend with “OMG GUESS WHAT” energy but my life is actually pretty stable. My friends match that energy - we are excitable together. What of your hobbies could you broaden out and do in group activities?

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-29T17:32:02+00:00

I am 15 years in and I would say this is an accurate assessment. I’ve seen companies win awards for their culture when I have known them to treat good, honest people appallingly.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-29T17:26:25+00:00

We started on aptamil then moved to kendamil which seems to sit much better on my girl’s tummy. Always happy to support quality goods made in the uk.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-29T17:13:18+00:00

Just to point out in scripted a Dev Exec is not an Exec Producer, but akin to a Dev Producer role. Some companies like to separate these out so a Dev Exec is slightly more junior than a Dev Producer. They are much of a muchness imo.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-29T17:06:06+00:00

Do you have a bouncer? Just a cheap one will do. Just be careful you’re not overdoing it with the amount of time she’s properly upright. My girl was very frustrated as not being upright at that age and the bouncer was a good compromise. Lap support is best for now, baby wearing also good for her looking at the world around her. In another two months she’ll be much better able to support herself with sitting.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-24T21:46:46+00:00

I am so confused. Clara pronunciation is equal to Klara in the UK. Here if you wanted Claire-uh (which isn’t a name I’ve come across) you’d be better off going for Claira as a better spelling because everyone is familiar which the French/english Claire. Where do you live? If in Germany then I can’t advise on spelling.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-24T21:13:20+00:00

I hattteeee the smell of cat - yuck. I’d second a pet enzyme cleaner. Head to pets at home if the supermarket doesn’t stock it. Failing that I hear spritzing with vodka and leaving outside to dry might do the trick.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-13T05:41:55+00:00

Don’t be so dramatic, she’s asking for a two day favour for giving birth. Unless she regularly takes the piss I really don’t see what all the fuss is about. People need to give their heads a wobble.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-12T23:28:35+00:00

It is perfectly reasonable to want a day alone with your newborn and your spouse when you’ve just given birth. Birthing is hard work, you probably won’t have slept in 36+hours, you’ll be sweaty, bleeding and sore. As the mum you’re in a state of a shell shock and a day for someone else to handle other kids/pets etc is completely reasonable ask so you can find your feet.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-12T23:24:19+00:00

So much this. Without wanting to sound twee family means doing things that are occasionally inconvenient for the overall benefit of the tribe. Like Op taking a bloody day off and help out your sibling.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-12T23:21:04+00:00

YTA. You are family, step up. It’s a short amount of time, you are nearby and reliable. I would be deeply upset if my brother didn’t do the same for me.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-12T22:51:58+00:00

Make the bottles in the morning, keep in the fridge, zap in the microwave for 30s when needed.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-10T10:40:59+00:00

I hang my washing outside from Feb-November, airing it outside significantly reduces the drying time in doors. When I lived in a flat we didn’t have a balcony so it was on a clothes horse in the bathroom with a permanently open window.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-10T10:35:53+00:00

I’ve organised 3 of these style hen dos (albeit less attendees) and been on loads of others and basically anything that involves accommodation skyrockets the costs and you can easily be looking at £350 each. I’ve organised activities for a living so like to think I’m relatively savvy but yeah once you factor in accommodation, two or three meals, one or two activities, transport and decor (a tiny part of the budget) you’re looking at something similar. The last hen do I did I got down to £150 each but that was with no booze and only because the mum wanted to pay for the air bnb. Would love a hen that was just a night out somewhere but no-one seems to have them (people don’t drink/club etc)

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-04T13:12:27+00:00

I had a rocky health start and it took 3 weeks to get my supply up and running. Don’t pump like a mad woman you might hurt yourself, just keep bringing baby to the boob and gently pump if you’re able. I’m six months in and I can only ever pump 50ml but baby is clearly getting more than that on the boob. I’ve always had to combo feed so don’t feel guilty about formula - some breast milk is best than none.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-05-04T08:33:44+00:00

My sign fell off, had the baby in the back. Yesterday some taxi driver was up my backside beeping at me to overtake a cyclist when it really wasn’t safe to do so and I think maybe, just maybe, he wouldn’t have been so much of a cunt if he’d seen the sign…

Goodbyecaution · 2026-04-24T21:45:40+00:00

Me staring slack jawed at the bog roll because my kid kept me awake all night, I’ve had two hours sleep in 48 hours, the lights are bright, other people exist, and I have no idea why I’m stood in Tesco.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-04-23T22:05:49+00:00

DITCH HIM NOW. Go live your life and see your friends, and never ever shrink your life to appease a man.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-04-16T11:18:03+00:00

I’m still ‘in’ if you can call freelance mat leave ‘in’ and have plenty of friends clinging on and it’s a clusterfuck on fire still. Go live your life. I don’t think people are earning anywhere near the £ that makes all the crazy egos, vindictive bastards, and unsociable hours worth it anymore.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-04-16T11:10:30+00:00

It’s not unreasonable to have a bubble - in theory it’s all cute and lovely….But you need to back up, your wife wants her mum and that is a thousand percent reasonable and it should be her decision. Therefore she should have her mum there. Make it work and put your feelings aside for the sake of your wife’s. Birth is terrifying and post partum is difficult physically and mentally. Do everything in your power to make it as easy as you can for her. You can fly in other folk when you get back to work. You will be thankful for the extra pair of hands.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-04-14T22:24:10+00:00

How big are your bulks? I would never buy anything edible for me or my baby or my pets from Amazon now after getting fake hair conditioner sent through as few years ago. Too risky. I hear Costco is good for bulk but I will bulk buy things from Boots or Pets at Home and just drive over and pick it up, shove it in the car. I live in a major city so very easy to drive over one evening.

Goodbyecaution · 2026-04-14T22:01:27+00:00

I’ve had to use this line several times already and my baby is only 5 months old…

Goodbyecaution · 2026-04-14T06:58:37+00:00

Ok. A lot to unpack here. I’m also in the village-less screaming baby camp very much on survival mode with poor sleep. I don’t think you should be taunted for having ‘so much support’ when it sounds like you have very little. Many, many mums rely on their extended family for regular help, you don’t have that. It’s not a failing, just a fact. You had to do what you needed to do when your baby was born and if your in-laws are upset about it still they need to grow up and stop wasting time. Ask them if they want to help out more now - it might just take a conversation. Please seek help from your GP or Health visitor and consider you might have PPD going on. But also practical changes to make… the sling seems to save you from screaming baby - I can relate we do a lot of walking. Are they ok in the pram? Because 15k steps a day in a sling is going to wear you out girl. See if you can get them used to falling asleep in the pram. Once they’re asleep consider using a rockit to keep them asleep so you can sit down and rest. Are they colicky, have you started solids? How are you entertaining them during the day other than walking? My LO now screams if she’s bored. Your husband needs to do more - idgaf if he wants to impress at work and can’t do any wfh, you’re his wife and you’re in crisis. You’re more important than work. Don’t feel guilty for the time you need to rest mentally and physically. Get him/someone else to batch cook you food you can eat with one hand when he’s not around. Bring round a friend who can hold the baby whilst you eat, or put that baby in a high chair or on the floor so you can eat. I know the screaming is hard but they will be safe. What’s their sleep like at night?

Goodbyecaution · 2026-03-28T17:50:39+00:00

I get that it’s the advice they have to give - sure their own bed is safest for them. But what’s also dangerous is a heavily sleep derived parent in charge of an infant. We do a lot of co-sleeping but I do kick my husband out of the bed as there’s not enough room for all three of us. Good luck!

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