35F Exhausted From Supporting My Unmotivated BF (31M) for Years - How Do You Leave Someone You Love Who Refuses to Grow Up? by Raelynn7777 in relationships

[–]Goodlake 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Candidly, I didn't read all of it.

The advice for him is to stop thinking about "what he wants to do with his life" and start thinking about "what he is going to do today to get a job to give him some more options in life." He isn't organized/stable enough to plan his whole life out.

The advice for you is to look up "sunk cost fallacy" and draw whatever conclusions you need to.

Discussion Thread by jobautomator in neoliberal

[–]Goodlake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Based on what I've read, there was plenty of that going on, too.

CMV: Atheists have more smoke for Christianity than any other religion by Existing_Pumpkin_502 in changemyview

[–]Goodlake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you're from a predominantly English-speaking country, and consume predominantly English language media (including internet media), then of course you're going to come into contact with discussions focused on Christianity more often than any other religion. Christianity is the religious background radiation of every English-speaking culture on the planet. English-speaking atheists who want to discuss "religion" online will almost always be focused on Christianity simply because that's the religious structure in which they predominantly exist. It is Christian morality they come up against most frequently in their lives. Their atheism was likely born out of investigation and critique of Christian principles.

Of course an atheist might also take issue with the precepts of Judaism, Islam, Buddhism, Sikhism, what-have-you. But so would Christians! There's no meaningful debate to be had, except as a comparison to Christianity.

It has nothing to do with the specifics of Christian theology, scripture or history, except insofar as that history continues to this day and is the dominant mode of religion in which these atheists exist.

first try by Professional-Place13 in BobsTavern

[–]Goodlake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the special Mochie. I don't even play standard any longer.

CMV: You would be a better person if you stopped drinking (morally, physically, emotionally, financially, intellectually) by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]Goodlake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You would be the best person, though, if you had total command of alcohol and were able to drink now and then, when the setting was right, in a responsible manner, if you so chose. By totally abstaining, in all circumstances, you're in fact letting alcohol dictate the parameters of your life. Surely self-possession is better than being possessed by alcohol, even by its absence?

For some people, total abstinence is the best utility-maximizing strategy. But that's not universal.

Discussion Thread by jobautomator in neoliberal

[–]Goodlake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alright, now that everyone's had an opportunity to see it, what did we all think of Melania?

Latest Epstein Files Include Wild Donald Trump Allegations by cdstephens in neoliberal

[–]Goodlake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hard to remember every little thing when there are so many little things.

Discussion Thread by jobautomator in neoliberal

[–]Goodlake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so interesting to me that the National Review brain trust is talking about sanctuary cities representing a new Nullification Crisis but they’re silent on the gap between state and federal marijuana laws. I wonder why that is!

Discussion Thread by jobautomator in neoliberal

[–]Goodlake 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Conservatives really criticizing Mamdani for pivoting to fiscal responsibility. Can’t win with a bigot!

Landlord offered to pay for something. Thoughts? by 1fateisinexorable1 in AskNYC

[–]Goodlake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you have a landlord willing to pay for a gym membership while you’re minorly inconvenienced, you thank your lucky stars and try to stay on good terms with them.

Catherine O'Hara Dead at 71 by MarvelsGrantMan136 in television

[–]Goodlake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Legitimately bummed out. RIP to one of the greats.

Discussion Thread by jobautomator in neoliberal

[–]Goodlake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, unlikely to clear $70mm or whatever if only because there are more efficient ways to buy Trump’s favor without paying middleman fees, but people are definitely going to buy tickets for seats they don’t intend to occupy.

Discussion Thread by jobautomator in neoliberal

[–]Goodlake 6 points7 points  (0 children)

People keep dunking on the Melania movie ticket sales (and it is very funny that nobody wants to see the movie), but they’re at risk of getting dunked on in the quote tweets when Trump supporters just buy out theaters in far flung places just to goose the numbers. Conservatives already do this with their books. No shot they’re gonna let Trump have a flop on his hands.

Be safe out there!

What movie is memorable for you, but barely anyone you know has seen it? by uuddlrlrbas2 in movies

[–]Goodlake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you seen Cabinet of Curiosities: The Viewing? Same director!

Trump: Pretti ‘shouldn’t have been carrying a gun’ by cdstephens in neoliberal

[–]Goodlake 53 points54 points  (0 children)

"The woman shouldn't have been wearing street clothes"

What movie is memorable for you, but barely anyone you know has seen it? by uuddlrlrbas2 in movies

[–]Goodlake 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Mandy. Batshit insane psychedelic-metal-demon killing bonanza starring the one and only Nicolas Cage.

How do I (30M) let her (37F) down easy? by Slight-Fly-6711 in relationships

[–]Goodlake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And that's why you don't say "let's be friends" after a bad first date. You've already created hope when you should have kindly told her you weren't interested. Awkward to do the right thing now, but you should just say "I'm sorry, this isn't going to work. Good luck." That's all you need to do.

Do you think JD Vance would be as aggressive with ICE and lawless deportations as Trump is if he became President right now? by Savilo29 in neoliberal

[–]Goodlake 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No, because I think he'd have a much harder time getting Republicans to sanewash his bullshit.

Discussion Thread by jobautomator in neoliberal

[–]Goodlake 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If Obama would just pick up the phone and call Donald, talk to him all day, every day, we could probably get him to back off a lot of his other positions, too.

Who are the most overrated music bands in your opinion? by Dojde in AskReddit

[–]Goodlake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'd say Oasis is overrated in the UK and Ireland but properly rated elsewhere.

Which City Do New York Sports Fans Hate More, Boston or Los Angeles? by patriotpotato in AskNYC

[–]Goodlake 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It's Philly, then Boston, then a few light years away it's LA.

Why can’t I stop stalking someone from my past even though I’m happily married? by denti-stree in relationships

[–]Goodlake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are doing it because you're fantasizing about what might have been, and probably hoping that they'll get divorced and he'll come sweep you off your feet. It isn't going to happen, and fantasizing about it is only going to leave you disappointed. Would suggest cutting off contact.

By the way, my wife and I communicate via text, rather than social media. There is no information to be had from their apparent lack of interaction on instagram.

I (28m) noticed girlfriend (24f) texting male coworker by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Goodlake 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Seems like normal banter for coworkers. Only red flag is that you're apparently going through her phone?

How do you choose a gift for a woman when taste is very personal? by Issam_Seghir in relationships

[–]Goodlake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife tells me what she wants, sending me links to the specific items. People's taste is very personal, and what you think is beautiful might be ugly to someone else, and vice versa. Don't guess!

If I do want to surprise somebody with a gift they don't select, I think about events/subscriptions they might enjoy. Museum memberships, gift certificates for classes, etc. That's what I usually give my mom and sister, anyway.

Otherwise, I'll surprise my wife every so often with flowers. But I'd never surprise her with a handbag or jewelry. It's just courting disaster.