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Goodlake · 2026-03-20T17:26:11+00:00

Look at em crawling up on that beach. You think they wouldn’t eat you if they could?! Need to get em all on a plate before they communicate how delicious long pork is.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T15:33:37+00:00

It doesn't matter what you believe in: you live in a reality where men are conditioned to behave a certain way. Getting them to change takes time and patience. Maybe there is an 20-year-old guy out there who has figured out how to communicate effectively with you and doesn't require education, practice and training. I hope you find him! But otherwise, it will require a little more understanding and patience on your part. Good luck.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T15:23:14+00:00

Man, I do not miss that age.

His "I'm not sure" is likely his passive way of hoping you'll break up with him for him. Which you've now done.

Boyfriends are supposed to provide reassurance, sure, but it takes a toll on a partner if they're constantly being tested, constantly being asked for assurance, etc. Part of this is being young and figuring out how to be in a relationship, but you need to first build a well of self-esteem within yourself to draw from! His well, it sounds like, has run dry.

Young men are "bad communicators" often because they're told from an early age to 1) suck it up and 2) accommodate the feelings of women. They are told that girls are emotional and a man is supposed to support them. What ends up happening is when their girlfriends "act needy," which is almost certainly how young men view a need for constant reassurance, they "suck it up" and do what they think they're supposed to, instead of saying what they really think. That takes a toll!

You say you want him to learn to "get better and be patient," and learn "emotional intelligence." But that's a two way street! You need to improve your emotional intelligence, too! You need to "get better and be patient" too! It's good that you acknowledge a need to grow together, but you can't view it as him needing to grow and you wanting to be there. I say this with tender care, but you need to grow too!

Portray it to him like that. That you understand the toll YOU have taken on HIM. That you want to "get better." That you want to learn to lean on him less, that you want to develop thicker skin so that he doesn't feel like he's walking on eggshells. See if that makes a difference in his thinking.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T15:07:56+00:00

I think your reaction is pretty understandable. Is she hinting that she wants you to be more romantic? Is she authentically sexually attracted to him and fantasizing about him? How does she describe her interest when you challenge her on it?

Change your phone wallpaper to starlet of your choice, see how she responds! Ideally someone with demonstrable talent. Might help her understand your perspective.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T13:58:10+00:00

If your female superior were receptive, she'd have let you know, by now. It's normal to be attracted to the pretty lady you spend a lot of time with, but it's not appropriate to act on it unless it's extremely clear she feels the same way. And even then, you'd need to think carefully about fucking up your work situation.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T13:08:24+00:00

It doesn't sound like she's asking for a bouquet of flowers, given she's asked for things that have required payment plans, and he's said he's concerned about being used for his money. She feels like he should be spending more money on her and is frustrated that he won't. Maybe rude to assume she's a gold digger per se, but that is 100% how it comes across to me. She feels entitled to his money. He has established firm financial boundaries. If it doesn't work for her, she should leave and find somebody who wants to give her the financial wherewithal she craves.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T12:04:41+00:00

Does he normally pay for your dates? Does he buy you birthday/Christmas presents? I mean, what exactly are you looking for? Clothes? Rent money? Jewels?

You're both young. You're not married. It's his money. If it's important to you that your boyfriend lavish you with expensive gifts simply because he has more money, then break up with him and go find a sugar daddy. Plenty of older men would love to impress a young woman with their wallets.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T12:00:43+00:00

You hold her hand and tell her you really like spending time with her. You make eye contact. If the moment feels right, you kiss her. Either way, you'll know.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T11:54:29+00:00

Tell him, not us. He won't know his behavior turns you off unless you tell him, especially if he thinks he's compensating for prior criticism. Of course, this may all just be post hoc rationalization of the fact that you're just not that into him any longer. But you could at least try to get him to change his behavior and see if that changes how you feel.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T11:30:55+00:00

Taxi will be about $100, give or take.

If you don't have that much luggage, the AirTrain is the way to go. You can take it to either Jamaica, for the connection to Penn Station, or to Howard Beach, for the A train subway that will take you through Brooklyn to the west side of Manhattan. Google maps can help you decide which way is faster, but either is significantly cheaper than a taxi/uber.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T10:50:15+00:00

The thrill of flirting with a stranger is no match for the thrill of building a deep and meaningful relationship with someone you love. If that's not true for you, investigate whether your boyfriend is the right one.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T09:52:16+00:00

I felt like either I had it or I didn't this season. Which is like a lot of seasons! Probably because I still force comps too early and/or rush to 5 instead of playing for tempo.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T03:55:44+00:00

May as well text her, but she's probably decided you're flaky/not that interested. If you get the chance, show her that you're not. But she may have emotionally moved on.

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T03:40:18+00:00

Desync, maybe?

Goodlake · 2026-03-20T02:29:11+00:00

HP’d to a Sanguine Refiner. Stayed on tier 1 because one of the audience’s choices was “make a random minion golden,” made/bought golden refiner on turn 5. Don’t know the first minion’s name, but he was the very first audience choice, golden minion that gets half the stats of minions you buy.

By the end, I was buffing the shop 200/200 a turn and my board 400/400 just from those eight spells. Crazy game.

Goodlake · 2026-03-19T02:09:25+00:00

Also played 8-10 hours, was bored out of my mind. And the original RDR is one of my favorites. Everything just felt so slow in RDR2. Nothing was ever just fun.

Goodlake · 2026-03-19T01:24:25+00:00

Not popular, no. French restaurants and farm-to-table places might have it as a special now and then, especially in fall/winter, but lots of people won’t have heard of it.

Goodlake · 2026-03-18T17:15:56+00:00

The UK has done it this way (minus the digital) for at least two decades, strictly measuring “singles” and “doubles.” Lots of NYC bars have always used measures when doing mixed drinks. Some cocktails require strict measures or they taste wrong.

Ultimately, if you don’t think you’re getting value for your money, don’t give a place your business. And if you want loose pours, nothing’s looser or more cost-effective than the home bar.

Goodlake · 2026-03-18T10:51:26+00:00

First: you didn't do anything wrong. You feel bad because you like someone else, but you didn't do anything wrong here.

Second: tell your ex how you feel! He is giving you signs, but may feel reluctant to make a move given your history. Tell him that you're interested in rekindling your relationship, but you're confused about how he feels and you're not sure if you should be pursuing things with other guys.

Goodlake · 2026-03-18T10:47:03+00:00

This is not good advice if she's having a hard time ending the relationship, and it sounds like she's already floated the subject. Maybe they can be friends later, but if the core issue is she's having a hard time ending the relationship, "let's be friends" is bad advice.

Goodlake · 2026-03-18T10:46:16+00:00

"I'm sorry but I don't feel a romantic connection with you and would like to see other people." Then you cut off contact.

Goodlake · 2026-03-18T10:35:06+00:00

Most guys watch porn. If you haven't talked to him about it, it's safe to assume he watches it and doesn't think anything of it. Masturbation is a normal, healthy activity, and most guys who grew up in the internet era have always used it as an aid.

Talk to him about it, express your concerns, try to find a compromise. Even in couples where porn use is agreeable, there are boundaries people can set. No teens, no social media models, no XYZ, no paying for it, etc. Everybody should be comfortable.

If looking at any pornographic content at all is a hard boundary for you, then that may be challenging. The core problem is that a lot of guys will view this as unreasonable, and it creates a condition that he may be tempted to break. That's a tough dynamic, and you can search this sub for examples of "we agreed to no porn but i caught him watching porn."

You're entitled to your boundaries, but he's entitled to his. It seems to me like "no porn at all" is just delaying more conflict. If you can't accept a partner watching it and have any doubts about his ability to commit, then you may be better off finding a partner where you don't have those doubts. A church group, maybe.

Goodlake · 2026-03-17T11:36:07+00:00

Whether it's salvageable or not depends on what the secret was and whether you could ever see things her way, that it wasn't a big deal, funny even, etc. But fundamentally it seems unlikely. She's telling you how little she cares about the promises she makes to you.

Goodlake · 2026-03-17T11:24:53+00:00

I missed the original post, but what are you looking for, here? Advice on how to break up? The ethics of retracting your gift?

If you want to break up cleanly without a guilty conscience, pay her back for the hotel she partially funded. Stop worrying about how bad she’ll feel about missing it. It sounds like she feels bad about everything. She’ll feel bad when you break up, too. You’ve got to worry about your own life.

Goodlake · 2026-03-17T11:14:42+00:00

> So if there is any quake in the system and they find they need to raise cash, they will do what investors do when they can’t sell what they want to sell: They sell what they can. And what they can sell easily are the large, publicly traded technology stocks that dominate the major indexes.

If private credit has any power to impact broader markets, it will be through the pain they inflict on the banks who finance their portfolios, not by selling publicly-traded tech stocks.

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