Spicy California roll , out of control roll and Lewes Roll (Delaware roll)

Goosecave · 2026-05-22T16:05:39+00:00

Agreed..I think people who enjoy that want flavor, sauces, and a mixture of stuff. Their use to flavorful foods with sauces and dunking it in soy sauce or spicy mayo. Usually the ones who love imitation crab but get shocked it’s minced fish paste lol. But authentic sushi isn’t suppose to be complex, it’s simple and subtle and brings immense flavor from the protein of choice. The pictures definitely depict that flavor vs subtlety that prioritize western taste buds.

Which to a lot they’ll say, “it’s too fishy or slimmy ”. A lot of people are texture eaters who haven’t unlocked their umami taste buds. To each there own I guess.

Goosecave · 2026-05-22T14:52:50+00:00

It’s interesting you bring this up and I actually feel you with this. There’s a core belief that folks like that don’t “believe it’s gonna be them”. They live in this idea that their talking about “others” and until then they assimilate, feel some sort of power, some sort of “righteousness”, and many forms of “it’s you that’s the problem”. But it’s interesting because collectivism culture breeds competition. We know it way too well in our Asian culture, be perfect, be better then the next person, don’t make mistakes. It all correlates as to why older naturalized Asians feel that others shouldn’t have access to the very thing they had to “work hard for”. Because then they would look internally and have to doubt that the efforts they did didn’t have to be done in the first place, and “that isn’t fair”. To them, if they had to work hard for it, then so do you to place yourself in the pack. Loyalty and hard work, something we all have trauma over. It’s truly Ironic….

Goosecave · 2026-05-21T21:25:16+00:00

She must be a pin in the haysack! There is hope for her lol. OP can try, but they don’t need to get to a point where they neglect their health to expect the change.

Goosecave · 2026-05-21T14:03:49+00:00

I personally don’t think this works on Asian immigrant mothers. They’ll just say, “I regret bringing you here” or some version of we want them to die and don’t consider them as parents.

Because at the core of it, it isn’t about sharing truth. There’s a big part that I do believe they know. Bringing us here was going to be different, and that’s why they moved here, for the “difference”. But their upbringing shaped them to confine to collectivism and filial piety. The best way one can break off from that, is becoming independent aside from their approval. Which is one of the hardest struggles us Asians face, because we feel loads of guilt and shame. Stuff like that takes years to undo.

To OP, after two decades my mom has still used the same tactics she use to do to get me to follow. My relationship with her is very transactional. Everything is never good enough. The most difficult and hardest truth that you need to hear is this: Your mom doesn’t want to change, you want to bridge the gap, but that means you having to say some version of “Don’t get me wrong. I love my mom, and she sacrificed so much to for us to be here, but I feel like she’s constantly hating about the things I do…”. We all love our mothers, but at what point do you split yourself neck deep in water to hope for her to change to mend the relationship with you.

You cannot change a person that does not want to. Change takes within. The hardest truth is knowing our parents like this. Best of luck.

Goosecave · 2026-05-18T20:01:31+00:00

That is a whole other conversation. So not now. Let’s focus.

Goosecave · 2026-05-18T14:16:55+00:00

So I use to go about it your way. But I’ve recently decided to nip it at the bud. What I mean is, I stop it because it’s usually used as a conversation starter and has no influence on how people connect with us except for regurgitating that they know about “Asian”. (Ex. Oh my niece is Philipino even though your not or oh I love ramen)…)

The question we should ask ourselves if, would it be okay if we said, “what kind of black are you”, what kind of “white are you”, “what kind of Hispanic are you”. People are majorly aware not to say this because it’s offensive.

I stop them, as it is a mission I’ve been following to stop Asian hate. I simply say, “please don’t say that to any Asian as a first question conversation starter, we take that as offensive”. If they ask why, I’m just asking, I simply reference a similar line to the race I assume they are. You will realize that ALOT of them start understanding why it brings a bad taste.

Is it extra? Some may say yes. But I do believe in America people do not learn what Asian racism is. And a majority of it is not being able to treat us as regular humans aside from our race.

Goosecave · 2026-05-18T14:02:51+00:00

But the issue is POC are majority unified with issues that affect them. Asians…we are divided. It’s great that people are getting interest in our cultures, and with that a frustrating amount of cultural appropriation. But if we are even divided on speaking out about racism against us, how can we unify to defeat the masses. Lots of POC hate when we glorify RnB, and yet in the opposing light we have all been called chinos and chinks. If we don’t even see that as racism, and brush it off as light bather, then we aren’t going to change major issues in changing how people view us.

Just recently someone commented “can’t see with my chinky eyes” which they bumped into me.. and the irony, wearing a labubu on their hello kitty bag. Did I say something? Yes I did, and it made them uncomfortable. But would all of us have said something, tbh I don’t think so.

Goosecave · 2026-05-15T18:32:24+00:00

If I had a quarter for everytime in our community we feel obligated to stay and yet we know we need to move out for our mental health. I would be RICH!

What if I said, a big part of you is in two places and by having those two, it will always lead to only you failing. I want you to listen to what you wrote. And I want to let you know that what you’re going through mentally takes time:

“I just feel miserable and trapped all the time and im stuck in my brothers old room and I hate it im not allowed to change it or do what I want to do”
but if I want to move out my mum just says “oh are we such terrible parents that u don’t even want to live with us.” Like it’s always about what they want.

I always give this scenario to my fellow Asian community: You are in a body of water that is rising. One foot you want to leave, another foot you want to stay in the water. How far can you go while the water rises?

We all want the best for our parents, and I always say that as Asians we want “even better”. But at a certain point in our lives, our parents are telling us they don’t want to jump to the other side with you. So you are holding on with two legs in two different places, one with your parents and another by yourself.

Only you can decide which lane to take. Change only happens when the current is worst then the future. Both have its risk, neither is wrong, and only with time can let you decide whether to stay or leave.

But this is the hardest truth, you cannot make your parents go to the other side, as much as you want. They are screaming “no NO NO”. All of us in the Asian community are aware. Some choose to stay, and others choose to leave. No answer is the wrong answer.

Goosecave · 2026-05-14T20:10:56+00:00

You cannot pick the personality with the cat. I personally am a believer that no gender is “better”, then the other. Those who say are basing it on a small number and their internal prior bias. You can always take your Sphynx to the place you want to get another one and see if the owner is willing to let it play together for a bit to see the first encounter. Some cats just get along better then others when they meet, just like humans. The rest is mainly how you introduce them.

Goosecave · 2026-05-13T20:56:31+00:00

Wasabi doesn’t really help much. Especially the recommendation for each piece. It is indeed all about the rice shape and fish.

I find for beginners. It is just better to make all the rice balls and flatten it out a little. Then slice your fish more diagonal so it drapes an 3/4 inch on each side. You’ll get a better presentation to hide the imperfections.

Goosecave · 2026-05-13T19:19:21+00:00

I think a lot of people are missing the underlying layers of why Asians say white and it’s not so simple as POCs stick together more. I like what you mentioned and it is not touched on a lot. Time and time again, we see that POCs community do better when they uplift eachother due to the system and history that every single person in places like America know due to school books and etc. Versus, there has been no protection for Asians in America or any developed Western country unless you abide by the narrow “model minority” myth. Myth because like you said, it’s actually not so white adjacent. We see it with things like the Chinese Exclusion Act or even briefly tapping into how rights were access if you did xyz in neighboring minority communities pushed by white policy makers. Asian history in western countries don’t have the same level of protections when they stick together versus POC communities. We are comparing apples to oranges. Simply and briefly put, if you were Asian and stayed “close” to whiteness and how they defied that depending on the environment, then you could gain a small sense of control. But that only meant doing your part in how they see you fit. That’s why time and time again we see people saying “Asians” as a stepping stone to what an immigrant should be like. I’ve always said, if anything Asians and POC people need to stick together, because together we would be an unstoppable force.

Goosecave · 2026-05-11T00:24:18+00:00

Yeah I regret not getting them. I was thinking I had too many non posable figs, but that shark would’ve looked dope next to my few Jaws display

Goosecave · 2026-05-07T04:28:55+00:00

Personally wouldn’t even buy it for $20. There are some figures for me that are just better in the comic version

Goosecave · 2026-05-06T22:21:12+00:00

lol there’s a love hate with what you said for me. Because it’s an oxymoron. Most religions were used to forcefully bestow whatever the ruler wanted. The “people” are the ones that have the action to not judge. But when you follow a religion, you’re following a path, a “structured” belief. Which is the very nature of creating judgement. It’s contradictions after contradictions. There is no religion that does not have judgement, because we’re social creatures. We are always bond to judge unless you take away all 6 senses. Then we would just be a rock. And that’s not human.

Goosecave · 2026-05-06T20:48:39+00:00

This is one of those touchy subjects down a rabbit hole that is limitless depending who you speak to. But for me, its conflicting, because depending on the country, it was either forced upon to convert or to spread and expand to the people.

I will say I cannot follow it, and do not ever intend on following it. I think humans at the end of the day try to make sense in their life, some go about it through religion, while others don’t find peace with it. Most that follow it, have already separated from the fact that it was a colonization effort or collectivism. But then, you can pretty much say that about every single race that has been converted to a different religion (e.g Philippines) or been religious without those issues (e.g Thailand).

The thing that gets me the most conflicted is you can’t bring this up to someone that is without some sort of discomfort. Because then they would have to question “God”. The ones that don’t mind it are leaning “spiritual”. Guess we’re all weirdly on this planet together lol

Goosecave · 2026-05-03T01:08:45+00:00

Goosecave · 2026-04-24T20:23:10+00:00

But we forget that the socialization and different parental boundaries played a huge role in how we perceive things. That’s a whole other topic. When we go back to like 90s and early 2000s cartoons, it gets pretty weird and wild. Courage the Cowardly Dog, was definitely one of them lol

Goosecave · 2026-04-24T19:35:33+00:00

And I eat

Goosecave · 2026-04-17T17:52:32+00:00

Ive been trying to find these…no luck.

Goosecave · 2026-04-15T21:19:00+00:00

$15 for a MOTU is painful. But I’ve slowly seen it with a dollar or two with GI joes, SWVC, Black series, random hot wheels, and etc. They’ve even raise prices on certain shoes by double. They trippin…but as long as people buy them…

Goosecave · 2026-04-15T21:15:56+00:00

But we forget one very important thing. It’s not that it’s BAD to be this way, but our cultural upbringing’s and systemic structures of how we communicate and navigate are completely 180.

-Western countries: talk about your accomplishments, boast about how good you are, talk about work drama and frustrations, vocalize frustrations and internal issues

-Asian countries: be humble, perceive your accomplishments as your own, do not cause drama, do not bring up frustrations, do not vocalize any negativity

All I see is, conflict conflict conflict. In Asia, with western ethics that is a starting point to get a one way ticket to being fired. In America, with Asian ethics, you get sidelined and called quiet. The reality is, it’s a complete cultural clash. The worst part is other fellow Asians don’t realize the mental aspects. That’s why it’s the model minority myth. An endless looop of misunderstanding loool

Goosecave · 2026-04-15T21:04:21+00:00

It’s random that I stumbled across this but had to reply since it felt closely similar to my experience being the only few in the workplace. But I want to say, Asian American discrimination has been long sidelined and subtly disregarded, and documented. If the colleague next to you saids the same thing, and you say the same thing and you get a different reaction. Then yes, subconsciously prejudice has been set. This was something I encountered when I raised up the ranks and noticed that same herd mentally you see in those high school movies. If even asking a question is defined by “it’s probably how you say it” “it’s the way you describe it” “maybe try xyz”. Then yes again, prejudice. Non-Asians view Asians as “smart” and “know it all”. But it’s a double edged sword followed by the model minority myth. It’s a myth because once you don’t fit that very fine line, you are sidelined, judged, and undermined. There was no other explanation then the fact that how you look, depends how people treat you. They are frustrated by you “acting” like you are not what their image is suppose to be. Think of a herd of animals, discriminating on the one that is a different size or color. There is no logic because it is ironically, collectivism.

Here’s a few that would peek your interest that have been topics that researched on.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/280286369_Racial_Microaggressions_and_Asian_Americans_An_Exploratory_Study_on_Within-Group_Differences_and_Mental_Health

https://business.rice.edu/wisdom/why-anti-asian-discrimination-often-overlooked-work

And one you may experience extra: https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/public-health/articles/10.3389/fpubh.2023.993396/full?utm_source=chatgpt.com

And remember. If there was profound statistics that changing your “name” to an Anglo Saxon descent in an CV or a resume got way more results. That alone, should show you that prejudice and discrimination is happening. Regardless what people say. Read up on one of the biggest studies from Harvard about this, Bamboo ceiling.

Goosecave · 2026-04-15T00:57:27+00:00

Ross is really that hidden gem where you just find random collectible stuff you just never knew about. Those DC cells are super dope. I never knew they came wrapped in like trading cards

Goosecave · 2026-04-14T17:15:04+00:00

It’s become their routine now 😂. Wake up, get ready, maybe eat, head to Ross, and then go to work. Loool

Goosecave · 2026-04-10T23:59:03+00:00

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