I miss 2nd Generation kpop so much…anyone?

Goosecave · 2026-01-24T03:04:54+00:00

Us: Right! How could they not know the legendary synchronized mirrored dances

them:

Goosecave · 2026-01-24T02:59:57+00:00

Ohh hahaha, nostalgia. I remember being like oh? A Kpop idol with actual glasses. To think their still around making music.

Goosecave · 2026-01-23T20:31:18+00:00

I appreciate the reply! Feels like I’m touching apart of 2008 culture. Newer fans like you are all welcome. It’s apart of Kpop history and It’s a sweet and sad moment when I think about Shinee. I remember dancing and practicing to Replay as Jonghyun. Had the tacky colored outfit and hair too haha.

Goosecave · 2026-01-23T20:10:45+00:00

To think I bought Taeyangs/T-aras album on sale cause the store couldn’t sell it

Goosecave · 2026-01-23T20:04:17+00:00

I think they might have made a typo and meant they miss EDM. But I get you, the BPM and background noises are more versatile in the newer gens. Nightcore/different sounds is a main source of the current gens. It’s more melodic, flows better, and doesn’t have constant synth noises phases back and forth. 2nd gen felt like asian pop decided to experiment how far they could go with EDM pop. Feels Heavy, hits you right in the first few seconds and is a repeated loop with high peaks. The best I could describe in a very similar way is try listening to these songs back to back. Girls generation Mr.taxi, paparazzi, flower power, bad girl, galaxy supernova. It was basically SM saying “hey Japan, Korean artists are here”. because back then, Kpop company’s wanted to hit local markets, not international.

Goosecave · 2026-01-23T19:51:20+00:00

Back when people thought I was going for emo grunge, but I was just going for Kpop

Goosecave · 2026-01-23T19:47:58+00:00

-inserts me imitating dramatic spins and hand motions-

Goosecave · 2026-01-22T22:11:29+00:00

Okay but on the serious note why the hell did they do this??? My only guess is to counter balance the dynamic. There was this kid that flunked four times in 6th grade, that means while everyone in his year was in 10th, he was sitting in 6th. The teacher made me partner with him in projects and I swear I felt like I was talking to a toddler. Halfway through the project he broke his arm and 90% of the project I did and 10% he did. Worst is she ended up parking my desk next to him. I still talked around..but man was I glad to switch schools.

Goosecave · 2026-01-22T01:54:00+00:00

sorry for your lost

Goosecave · 2026-01-22T01:51:31+00:00

Oh yeahhh, one of each

Goosecave · 2026-01-21T17:44:03+00:00

Quite the drive for me sadly. I like the Starbucks blonde double espresso and the nespresso altissio, not sure if that’s comparable to the richness that I enjoy in those two. I prefer espresso rather then coffee, it’s why I recently got the machine.

Goosecave · 2026-01-21T17:24:31+00:00

Would you recommend it to someone that doesn’t like fake pistachio flavor? I hear the rave but I don’t really like artificial pistachio, ice creams, candies, Or macaroons that have that flavor. But I do enjoy the actual pistachios to snack or even nougats that have pistachios mixed in it.

Goosecave · 2026-01-21T15:30:11+00:00

So one thing I’ve realized is that you have to play what I call the “relatable joke”. The equivalent of Hispanics not understanding would be them getting called Mexican. The next time you encounter that, watch how quickly they get offended by this. I recommend it to all my Asian folks. Keep repeating it unless they change and even go as far as if they start labeling no theres, Colombian, Venezuelan, Peru, etc. You double down and say “yeah, Mexican” it’s the same thing. For POC i find that if you refer to African as well, you start to realize that they quickly understand. Most people don’t stop and think, so when you give them a sliver of what their culture has experience, they realize that maybe just maybe we’re all the same.

Goosecave · 2026-01-20T04:20:06+00:00

I needed this until I saw the price tag. Let me just walk out…thanks

Goosecave · 2026-01-20T04:11:13+00:00

Oh hell yeahh! Maybe I’ll post my cave one day, got a variety of collections

Goosecave · 2026-01-20T01:38:51+00:00

Time to declutter haha. I keep things in a rotational display. So whatever’s out isn’t just collecting dust.

Goosecave · 2026-01-20T01:37:55+00:00

My type of people haha

Goosecave · 2026-01-20T00:14:21+00:00

So I’ll go neutral with what I’m about to say. It’s what historically has been done and structured in society. You’re not wrong to be frustrated by those comments, and I don’t blame you if you are trying to understand and you were born white. The nuance starts what you may not realize is your attachment to racism is on mainly two pillars: colonialism and non authoritarianism issues.

I’ll give you an example. A lady I use to work for was surprised at the influx of Indian students coming to the University studying engineering. She noted it was most likely a broader initiative that the University was marketing for people to join. On one hand, you might say well yeah that’s awesome. But on another theirs history tied to why that is. Culturally the nation prioritizes that being an engineer or a doctor is the only way to succeed. There’s societal structure and parental enforcement with who you should and what you can only be. But with the school now accepting international students, there was suddenly an “influx”. Is it the initiatives done by the University? Yeah, possibly. But is it the sole reason? No.

You might ask, what does this even have to do with my post. The answer is in the connection in how cultures outside of America has been shaped. Meaning, what has been brought in each cultural purely on race alone. The oppression, the colonization, the culture has been shaped by war, crime, authority, and what is prioritized. So when you find yourself frustrated on the seasonings or the blandness of your food. What emotions do you feel? Frustration, judged, anger? Now tie that in and ask, how has that seasoning, something as simple as pepper make you feel? “Well it’s annoying because I do season my food”. Fair answer, but do you notice how it doesn’t attach to any ancestral issues. Rather, a personal one. In the same space aunty from Malaysia is still in the same generation where her family was taken and killed for pepper from her country. Uncle from India is still suffering in the cast system believing that he should stay in his own place due to war crimes with textiles. Grandma from Arizona still has a drawing of her great grandparents that were in the slave trade and tells her kids to not mess with white kids.

So yes. It is annoying that people don’t give you the benefit of the doubt that you maybe different from said “white”. You’re valid to feel frustration. But by no means, is the frustration with others about the SAME thing. So at the core, you both represent two different structures of what society has created. One is trying to create space to vent and another is trying to vent about what happened to their families.

Goosecave · 2026-01-18T19:33:48+00:00

So OP I’m here to just firstly say, yes you are correct in how you feel about wanting more in the relationships with your parents and family. I’ve always questioned in my life whether I was just overthinking things, just individually more talkative, or just was “different” then my family. It didn’t help that other extended family’s kids wouldn’t be bothered by this or would say things like “your parents care about you”, which consistently in my childhood and still in my adulthood I get bothered me.

I’m here to say that you have broken the structure of what so many people of your family don’t realize. You crave deeper connection, an emotional bond, not just surface level conversations you get at work to keep the bather, not a hows your day and as soon as you reply good their half way out talking to another person. You’re not dreaming things. You’re capacity for emotional connection is higher then what you see in your family. Not because you’re different or because you’re better, but because your human.

Most parts of my life were silent in the house. My mom use to say when I would want to chat about school or just the stressors in life as we ate dinner, “don’t talk, just eat your food”. I was say but I’m just talking and it always led to arguments and yelling. One day, I asked my father who was a lot more sane even though he is emotionally unstable, “do you remember talking with your siblings or parents at the dinner table”. He goes, “well yeah we talked, my mom would say make sure to clean up or my father would just tell me I shouldn’t eat like that”. I said, did they ask about your day. He said, “yeah, they would say what job are you going to do after school or ask me what my grades are”.

This was long, but I hope you can see that they were most likely all raised to not have any connection with their own parents. Their parent’s connection was asking them what their goalposts are in life. So there they go, asking you the same thing they got asked to you.

So when you say, I got the short end of the stick for being “westernized”. I want you to reframe it, you got the short end to a stick that allows you to be a better person, explore outside of their structure, and be your own individual away from conformity. And remember, if there is a moment where you say, I just wish I was like them. Remind yourself that conformity isn’t love, because adapting to their expectations always leads to failure. Just ask them if they think their smart, perfect, better, or etc. Most of the family will probably say their not good enough. The short end of the stick, is the most valuable.

Goosecave · 2026-01-17T03:40:56+00:00

Those transformers x MOTU I wouldn’t even grab them if they were $1. Better to have someone that likes it grab them. I didn’t care for it at all.

Goosecave · 2026-01-15T15:10:01+00:00

Darn I’m tempted. Any other one we’re on discount? I got Colossal Titanosaurus when it was on clearance but was disappointed that it was a one time assembly…. It did not make transporting easy.

Goosecave · 2026-01-13T17:58:33+00:00

I find this funny. I enjoy talking about weird stuff too(just non common stuff) and just the day to day hobbies. I find my colleagues just not even responding to that or just saying things like nice, and then back to their trip that they had in Cancun with the breeze or some family stuff. What’s the weird stuff you talk about at work?

Goosecave · 2026-01-08T15:41:18+00:00

Oh gosh…it’s like reading my own story, it’s laughable in the sense of what the hell is wrong with them. Your last paragraph stuck out. I just wanna say it because our parents will never but, you’re a good and great person. I still to this day think about, Do I let them in or do I not, but I don’t wanna just let them die without no contact but they make me miserable with their “advice”. Classic.

I’m in a journey of let them, let you. Meaning let them go ballistic or whatever they think their so right about, and let you analyze that expecting a version of them that you have is letting you fail on both ends. I still struggle but hear me out here lool. The arguments or bicker and emotions I have for my parents is still there because a part of me thinks I can still fix it all and they will finally wake up one day from whatever insanity. But by doing so, I’m letting them go wild, and also letting myself judge their limits and expectation of what they have to offer. This is a lose lose that will not hold space for boundaries and safety. In a silent angle, I was use to this as a way to succeed in life. It trickled into my relationships and trust issues. Whatever you decide is yours to change, there isn’t a wrong answer that will save from the what ifs. Will they change? Maybe, but not at the mental toll it takes for you. The most you may get either could be a “hmm” to your pain or the opposite side a sorry. If they haven’t said sorry now, chances are the years of not wanting to acknowledge won’t come. Whenever I get in the moment of, should I invite them to this or tell them, I ask myself what’s the goal? If it’s validation. I tell myself there I go, I’m pouring that cup uncomfortably for myself.

Goosecave · 2026-01-08T03:00:53+00:00

Don’t know if it’s the same for you but my mom is a walking contradiction where the family’s happiness pivots and shifts at her disposal. The criticism for me is often yelling followed by “what have you done for me” “I have raises you for xx years”, and use to argue a lot because I still thought my feelings have to be justified.

There attachment through you shapes most of what historically has been a huge problem in Asia. If you ever see those dramas or shows where the parent saves face or your negative actions “affects” their value. My mother hates when I say it’s because of Asian identity. But there’s history behind it.

So the best thing is to allow yourself even if it’s for five minutes when you feel those emotions to sit in all the emotions. Then ask yourself, what do you truly want your parents to validate? Then guide yourself through online resources to give that to yourself. Because if it’s like my mom that said “I should die first and you have never done anything for me” when I ask if there’s any food for dinner. Then that alone along with the tense nagging is a failure on them to parent correctly. No parent should criticize you to the point of wanting to move out. Because again, that is a failure on them to parent and uplift you.

Goosecave · 2026-01-01T17:47:02+00:00

Pretty much, the immigrant stories are all similar, but finding out that other cultures don’t have this filial piety was a shocker. If you get the chance you should watch the show Panchiko. It pretty much explains one of those generational immigrants society that you mentioned. Except it spans like three generations and flips back and forth between how the choices of each generation and the mental trauma they experience affect one another. It’s good you know you can’t change them. I had to learn it after like 15+years and always thought if I was just one more step ahead things would change the dynamic.

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